My pet peeves are scaremongering about labour and what your body will be like post-baby...and that nobody EVER talks about the love you have for your child and how wonderful and life-changing that is, and how that is what gets you through the bad times.

It's a fine line though - you have to balance between being honest about pregnancy or coming full circle to the point of the article in the first place - what people don't tell you about being pregnant.

This is far and away the "worst" pregnancy I have had out of all 3 of them but I find that I am still editing what I tell people. Partly TMI factor, especially for those who haven't been pregnant yet (I am anti-scaremongering, and I know from experience that my experience with pregnancy this time around is not a given, my pregnancy with DS was beautiful)...and partly because I can still appreciate the miracle of growing a child inside of me.

I've told DH a bit more about my discomfort because he is obviously a big part of the decision to stop at 3 children but even he doesn't know it all because I don't want to whinge. I want to bond with my new little baby and appreciate that despite a nasty fright she is healthy and thriving inside me and do my best not to think about the effect this is having on my body - I don't want to resent her at all.

But yes...for me, this pregnancy is "that bad" that I won't be coming back for more, despite our original plans. And no, I will never ever tell her that. It's not her fault.