Who to phone first?

[Iris76]

Hi Everyone

I've started packing my hospy bag & I'm doing up a list for DH of people to phone after the birth. My question is, which parents do we phone first, mine or his? I really don't want to get anyone's nose out of joint. Any suggestions? Thanks

[Ninah]

I'm not sure if it matters? DH will phone his first, as my mum will be at the birth with me. I mean the phone calls will not take that long, so surely the parents wouldn't fuss over such a small detail??? I think that'd be petty at such a joyous time

[Daydream Believer]

send a mass text, or you ring your parents & he ring his

[Rivlas]

When we became grandparents we go a text message a few hours after the birth. By this time they had spent time together getting to know their DS before we arrived. To us, all we wanted to know was that we were grandparents. We get on really with SIL's parents so to us it wouldn't have mattered who knew first.

We didn't mind getting the news via text message

[Lisa]

I agree with sending a mass sms. Be sure to let people know when you will be accepting phone calls or visits as you need some time to yourself too.

[Jennifer13]

If you think they're going to get upset about who gets the first call, you've got a lot more you'll need to worry about down the track!

I think DP called my Mum first and then his. And I don't think either of them asked anyway.

[StrawberryMumma]

I don't think it matters really!..But I think it's nice to phone the mother's parents first, just to let them know not only has bubby arrived but that the mum is ok following the birth too.

All the best!

[krisp]

Yep, I agree it's nice to phone the maternal grandparents first. That's what we did anyway. Good luck!

[black_rose]

I have no idea what DH did, I think he called his mum, my mum and then both our dads and then sms'd everyone else. The order won't really matter to much as they will be all excited, we just learnt second time round to only let people know aftwerwards not before as we ended up with a crowd at the hospital of friends and family and it was crazy. This time MIL will know as she is watching the girls, prob wont ring my mum as she will show up while I am in labour and want to see which I don't want. I went into pre term labour with dd2 and we made the mistake of telling my mum, and she wanted to rock on up dh had to be pretty forceful to get her to stay home.

[nellnell]

With DD we hung out together for about 3 hours before contacting anyone. We loved the fact that it was just us and everyone had been bugging us for SOOO long as I was more than 1 week overdue. Then DH called his folks and I called mine.

With DS (being born just before midnight) we sent a text to DH's parents (who were looking after DD) as we didn't want to wake the whole household. Then sent a mass sms message to other family and friend once we'd had a little sleep etc at about 7 in the morn. It was wonderful having him at a crazy hour so we could just enjoy those first 12 hours by ourselves.

[AwesomeFoursome]

We told mine then Dh's.

[HotI]

It was wonderful having him at a crazy hour so we could just enjoy those first 12 hours by ourselves.

So true! My little one was born 8pm and we rang our folks about an hour later (mine first), but we knew no-one could come in until later the next day. My Mum visited the next morning.

I waited until the next morning to call anyone else. I needed to recover and enjoy bub.

My DH tried to send a mass sms but when he added all the names the phone said too many recipients and wouldn't send. So check how many recipients your phone can send to in one go!

[Daydream Believer]

[QUOTE=Kate07;2353258]but we knew no-one could come in until later the next day. My Mum was visited the next morning.
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I was under that impression too, being it was 9pm when I got back from surgery but the IL's were there (which was fair enough, they were picking up DF to take him home because he hadnt had much sleep in the previous 48hours and didnt want to drive home) & my mum & her partner just showed up because they were having dinner at a pub nearby & they let them in

[FabFiona]

We tried to call our own at the same time. DH mum didnt pick up and mine was at lunch! Then it was just who called back first.

[feeb]

With DS1 mum was there so she called dad and DH called his parents.

DS2 DH called mum who was at our house with DS1 then he called his parents, cant remember if I called dad or mum did.

[Miss.September]

We don't see DH's family so for us it was who to call first, my (divorced) mum or dad. DH called my mum first - who was in Egypt and it was VERY early in the morning! LOL

FWIW, I don't think it matters anyway. Nobody will know who got the first phone call, and if they do happen to ask, tell them they were the first regardless!

Corelly x

[Cherished]

I agree Corelly, I don't think they will ask who was 1st anyway.

We haven't thought of who we would tell 1st, when it came to the pregnancy announcement we saw all the grand parents within an week of each other so we told them when we saw them. With the BA we haven't really thought about who yet? Because my parents will be the last to see bubs in the flesh (they live interstate) I think we will call them 1st than dh mum (1st grand child for her) then dh's dad cause we know they wont care if they are last (not into that kind of favorites crap) and they will prob see bubs 1st. We are also not telling anyone until we are good and ready, even if that's a week after the birth lol