I'm the same, down to the flabby tummy... And although my baby belly's sorta big, it doesn't look like the "normal" round belly i want - it's weirdly rectangular I have been told, however, that it's showing signs of popping soon! My belly's been hard for a while... From around 12 weeks, what was flab kinda filled out a bit.

Sorry I haven't been much help, and I hope you're luckier than me