Your friends' reactions to your pregancy...

[Nicoletta24]

Not sure if this is the right place for this thread, so please feel free to move it but, I just have to have a little vent.
Now, I work full time and am also juggling organising my wedding and being pregnant.
I used to catch up with certain friends weekly for drinks but now, obviously, this isn't possible so I'm not seeing certain friends as much.
Many of my 'drinking buddies' have dropped off. One in particular keeps making comments such as "watching more daytime telly now are we?" in a condescending manner as though that's all I'd be doing. This comes from a conversation where I mentioned that I'd seen a friend of his on deal or no deal. I replied, "I switched on the Tv when I came home from work and was cooking dinner".
What's the deal with these comments? Has anyone had the same thing happen with friends just suddenly treating you differently?

[~*Niadalla*~]

OOOO yeah! I know exactly how you feel!!!

These 'friends' are just not worth it. In the short term, it will feel horrible to lose them. But in the long term, you will realise you are better off without them!

My ex 'best friend' todl me when I was 3 months pregnant, that she didn't want to hang around me anymore because I was starting a family! What a joke! I know if I was in the opposite situation, I would never do that.

Try not to worry too much about these 'friends'. You are sure to meet soem lovely people on here and IRL who have families etc.


CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Good luck with your pregnancy and impending wedding! You seem to have a bust few months ahead!

hugs

[Mrschunk]

Ohhh i know this feeling well as well!!

A very close friend of mine has also dropped off the pearch so to speak since i have been pregnant. I have no idea what the problem is but i am actually starting to think it may be jealousy. She was one of the first people if our "group" to have a baby, he is no longer a baby but a toddler now and i wonder if that is what is causing grief. Although one of our other friends just had a baby and there doesnt seem to be a problem there.

When we do see each other there are constant put downs. Its starting to get to the point now where i will actually avoid being around her as i dont need the added stress.

[August]

Oh how terrible your friends would treat you all like that. You are probably best off just ignoring their comments and keep enjoying yourself. Everyone has been so loving and supportive I couldnt imagine how it would feel to be subject to that.

It no doubt is at least partially a jealousy thing. They probably wish they were the ones "watching more daytime telly now".

[August]

Your Baby Is Beautiful Mrschunk!

[misty]

babies and weddings both tend to eventuate in pruning the friendship tree - they bring a whole range of new problems and emotions into the relationship (insecurity, jealousy, envy, resentment, guilt) which neither party may have ever thought would become an issue. all you can do is try to salvage a good relationship by having a good heart to heart oralternatively cutting the strings loose and trying to move on with as little resentment as possible.

[little sprocket]

Yep so called friend of mine kicked me out of her wedding cos she figured I would still be too fat to fit in a bridesmaid dress 8 months after giving birth. She comes up with the comment the other day that all of her friend and her are having babies around the same time now so they will be little playmates. She implied that Im not well come cos my kids will be too old and Im not one of her "friends" anymore. She is a wonderful piece of work this one.

[Mrschunk]

Your Baby Is Beautiful Mrschunk!

Thanks august_moon_mum..... i think he is too!! Takes after his mum of course!!

[Delicate_Dove]

Yeah, I too have experienced this by someone who calls me every day to check up on me..
which is nice.. BUT there is always a derogatory comment.

One day she rang and I was having a nap, for the next week everytime she called she would ask "Oh your up then ? " or " DId I wake you lazy bum".

I actually work from home and this has been an ongoing thing even before I was pregnant at how "little" work I must do etc.

I am finding it hard to hold my pregnant tongue and the other day I told her how much I make, she gulped as it turned out it was much more than her....

Yeah for me... 1 won 1 argument... sad isnt it