This is an old thread but in one way fitting for our situation. We are in the "not totally infertile boat but would be a flipping miracle for a natural conception" and we decided to not try, not prevent. This was fine for the first few months, until the we-took-8-years-to-get-these-girls-how-can-i-ignore-my-cycle kicked in and I could feel myself getting overwhelmed each month in the lead up to my period. As we are so incredibly lucky to have our girls and I didn't want to be sacrificing them in any way by hankering after more and forgetting what I have, I got an iud put in. Now, 6 months later, I wonder if I've made a big mistake by taking away whatever minuscule chance we have when I would love another. So no, I am facing the dilemma of giving up on the dream of another baby or enabling it as much as possible but having to deal with the fallout every month. I really don't know what to do but I do know that the thought of never having another baby tears me in two.
That is such a ****ty position. *Hugs* unfortunately its one only you and hubby can make. But if you dont feel right having the contraception then dont. You need to do what makes you feel most comfortable, both options wont be ideal, but one will feel better.
My dh and i haven't used one piece of contraception ever. Even when we first hooked up (which i know is bad, as we.werent offically an item first time we did it) but nearly 7 years and no natural, for me means it will never happen so i dont worry about cycles etc. Even tho im a crazy optimistic cause i still hope it might.