Just one more question (not sure if I should ask it here). For those who had a m/c did you have any symptoms prior to knowing the gp is not viable. I know I shouldn't be too worried but I want to prepare myself. I don't want to feel that because I have no spotting (compare to last time) what so ever it means that I will have a viable pg and then fall very heavy back to earth/reality.
DTD does not cause miscarriage. You should have no need to avoid it unless your OB tells you too.
Apparently bubs feels your orgasm.
I had spotting with all my pregnancies regardless of them being successful or not.
Kahlan- I have also hear that it's safe to DTD when pregnant. DH and I did, but we were very careful and a bit worried about it to be honest.
As to your miscarriage question- I felt no change in symptoms...and I had no bleeding. But at the ultrasound there was no heartbeat. In my case though, i knew there was a chance of a problem, as I had been having regular BTs to monitor HCG levels and my HCG levels became slow rising. I was told by my OB that in some cases women can have slow rising levels and have a healthy pregnancy, but in other cases the pregnancy ends in miscarriage. So I guess my situation is a bit different, to one where there was no monitoring...
With the other pregnancy I had bleeding and pain, due to the ectopic, so different scenario again.
It's hard not to worry and be anxious when you want it so much. I can only imagine how I'll be when (have to be hopeful) I am pregnant again.
It must be very hard for you at the moment. I still can't imagine how you could think of others with what you have gone through. By nature I am not a talkative person (so if someone had responded already, I would probably withhold from putting in my 2 cents worth of input). Also when I am down I would probably turn within myself, become quiet and stay away, keep to myself until I can control my emotions.
I am glad to see you take one day at a time. I pray that you will fall pg again soon so that the lost you are feeling will lessen (I know that it might not ever go away).
Kahlan, it's funny in real life I feel like I don't want to socialise and find it hard working and being around people too much right now. Whereas on this site, I feel it's a safe place to be where people understand...I think I almost escape in here, when the outside world feels too hard...so I come in here and chat away
I guess as well, it helps me out so much, it's nice if I can offer any help back..and when it's too much I can just log off....shame we can't do that in rea life sometimes!
Kahlan, as far as I am aware DTD is safe unless you have a history of recurrent miscarriages. Your OB would be able to advise the best on whether to abstain or not. My DH and I did not DTD until after I finished on all my medication (I was on pessaries and estrogen until I was 10 weeks along). That was the only reason that we abstained - didn't like the thought of all those female hormones I was taking getting all over my lovely DH!
In regards to orgasms - I too have heard that they are good training for what your uterus needs to do during labour - so just think of them as a "necessary" part of your preparation for baby... the sacrifices we make
Hi Janie, Thanks for the advice... especially the orgasm bit. Don't mind sacrificing that a bit more. You must very relieved to be off the meds... I hated the crinone so I assume you would hate the pessaries as well.
Were you very nervous during the first few weeks? I freaked out with every little thing and had to google to find every bit of information. Hope this uneasiness wears off soon.
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