Got a silly question. DH and I have been TTC for many years (including 1 year with IVF). We got our 1st unsuccessful pg in July this year. I think DH blames himself for the fact that we DTD during the first few weeks of pg that is the reason why we lost the baby. My feelings is that DTD should not affect the baby if it had implanted corrrectly in the first place or it was indeed a healthy bub. Anyway, just recently we got our BFP and since the day of embie transfer DH has stayed clear away.. not that I am keen on it or anything.. I don't want to spend 9 months of my pg without any intimacy with my DH.
So here's the question, does DTD really affect pregnancy? I had a pretty sexy dream this afternoon during my nap in which I think I might have had an orgasm. Will it have an impact on my bub? God I feel stupid for asking such questions.
There are no stupid questions I think, as long as its gentle IYKWIM, it shouldn't hurt the baby. They feel what you feel, so it could only make them feel good, right?
I'm not an authority, but thats what makes sense to me anyway
You have to do what feels right for you! Personally, after 2 mc's, I wanted to wait to the 12 week mark. Well, we got to 11 weeks but I felt much better in waiting (for both the mc's, even though they werent caused by DTD the bleeding started after DTD so it was more of a mental thing).
MY whole preg I have had orgasmic dreams, sometimes its so strong it wakes me up! As you can see, my ticker is still moving along nicely
So congratulations, good luck and dont stress! GO with the flow, go what feels is best for you and soon enough you will be popping in with a birth announcement!
DTD during pregnancy is usually safe, although if you have a consistent history of MC following intercourse, some OBs might recommend you avoid it.
In our case, our recent MC coincided reasonably closely with DTD, and so we too were hesitant at first with this pregnancy. Once we were fairly sure that things were going well, we became less worried.
And I have been told that an orgasm is like a big warm hug to a baby... LOL
Unless there are issues in the pregnancy like bleeding, cervix opening, low lying placenta etc then DTD is generally ok. If you have had a history of m/c then you may feel safer waiting until the 12 week mark.
Orgasms are apparently a great way to tone your uterus and get it ready for birth so it is actually good during pregnancy to get a few training sessions in (you don't need to DTD for that though ). Perhaps the dreams are our bodies way of self-training? It knows what it needs to do.
we have lost several angel babies and thought that we would wait until 12 weeks - unfotunately, nature seems to have other thoughts cos we've been dtd probably weekly (when DH home) - it's very different, and we're both cautious of anything that might harm the Gremlin, but it's been happening with no ill effect
actually, i tell a porky pie - ms gets MUCH worse the day after - think the gremlin enjoys the cuddles and becomes more active a few hours later - i suffer really bad ms afterward!! but that happens after the vivid dreams too...
DTD once pg
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I think, as long as its gentle IYKWIM, it shouldn't hurt the baby. They feel what you feel, so it could only make them feel good, right?
but I felt much better in waiting (for both the mc's, even though they werent caused by DTD the bleeding started after DTD so it was more of a mental thing).
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