try and get your hands on a copy of 'IVF and Ever After', by Nichola Bedos, its about the emotional needs of families who go through ivf, I lot of it is about the pregnancy, birth and motherhood, and ways of coping with the stresses. One thing it has taught me is that all the feelings I am having a very normal, and that once you get your bfp you don't magically feel happy 24/7.
Great Recommendation Saffy! I actually have a copy of this book, it's really good, I totally agree I can send it over to you Mel if you would like