When I first fell pregnant with my son nearly 8 years ago, my 2 best friends, and my sister n law were all trying to conceive as well. Two were trying and one was on IVF.

Now one of my best friends took the news so badly that we ended our friendship then and there, as she was angry towards my pregnancy. Low and behold she fell pregnant with her one and only ever child 2 months later. My IVF friend finally fell pregnant one year later with Twins.

The most touching story is the story of my best friend. Her and I fell pregnant at the same time in 1999. Then she lost her baby. Nine years on we are still best friends, her and her DH are still TTC and sustain a pregnancy, I have now had 2 children with one on the way. She has had many friends fall pregnant, and have babies around her. Its still hard and she deals with it in her own time, but I keep her as involved as possible.

This baby is going to be the godchild of her and her husband. She lives down south but I email her scan shots, and we talk on phone and IM all the time. If possible she may even come in to see me have the baby. Whilst there is life there is hope. We all pray that some day she will get her precious angel in her arms....but in the mean time the worst thing I could do is not involve her in my pregnancy as normally as possible. She knows that currently her Gyno is working through her PCOS, and her TYPE 2 Diabetes. She is on Metformin and Chlomid. And there is hope.

Another quick story....my SIL had been struggling for 5 years to conceive with sever PCOS. We both went on a diet late last year....When my AFP was late, I did a test and found I was pregnant. I was so worried about telling her. I told her pretty much straight away, and apologised & I also said I wish it was you guys......That afternoon I had a phonecall, she was crying and told me to come over quick. She was standing in her garage with a positive pregnancy test, and didnt believe it.

So now there are four days between her and I...we are both 21 weeks.

I just think the worst thing that you could do is not treat her as normally as possible.

Jac