Acacia - thanks soooo much for your lovely and supportive post. I have tears in my eyes!! I am not inviting her again to my house. I have tons of support and advice from Attachment Parenting advocates in my local children's centre so I don't need her. DH says to me to stop calling her the 'HV' and merely call her the 'weighing lady' as we will only see her at clinic to get DS weighed and we should only listen to what she tells us about his weight (which we can also just read off the scales ourselves!!)

I am really interested to see that NHS pamphlet on safe co-sleeping as I only got the one that said 'babies should never sleep in their parent's bed' Perhaps Dorset is a little more progressive than Somerset!!! LOL We don't get the cloth nappy allowance here so I shouldn't be surprised that they would be a bit backward here!!