Parenting after LT TTC #4

[barney]

aww poor little sam for you little man and i hope your bruises get better.
BW yeh miss c was a really good size for 36 weeks we were all very suprised when she came out and we got told her weight as i was very worried she would be like my jaymee leigh 4pd 9oz ,but no miss c was a big bubba and didnt even need the special care nursey or anything ,thank goodness hun.
i remeber when you had little sam hun and wow how time flys hes over 1 year old now dear little man
and i totally agree on the premmie bubs my jayme was the easiest baby ive ever had ,no problem at all we even used to have to wake her for feeds as a matter a fact had to wake her for everything lol..

[butterfly_warrior]

Yup, we spent a lot of time waking Sam for feeds... Not that I'm in a hurry to do the prem baby thing again, but he was really cruisey as a baby. Still is now as a toddler too. I think sometimes you can get lucky!

Not so lucky with neighbours unfortunately - grrrrrr!

BW

[Neptune]

Hi girls

Supposed to be studying while Adam sleeping, but just sneaking on here to say hi!

Poppy, Kelly, photos are great!Cute little poppets.

Smithy, I've just had a look at your site and little C is gorgoeus!

BW - what's up with your neighbors? Do tell love

[TaRhLi.]

Hi all

Just wanting to vent, DH is so dumb ggrrr. I left Tara with him for an 2 hours to go grocery shopping and told him she might be need to have another sleep and she will probably need feeding at around 2.30pm.

I get home at 2.30pm only to be told that she has been crying and upset for the whole time I was away and she was even sobbing, poor poppet. I was told she wouldn't go to sleep and just screamed when put down... so asked "have you fed her" to be told "you said she wasn't due to get fed until 2.30pm". If she is hungry then feed her, because I said 2.30pm this became the time she was to be fed whether she screamed or not. I think she was just so happy to see me and once she had a bit of her bottle she perked up a bit for me and once all finished she literally crashed (who could blame her). I just wish that when DH is at home he would pay some more attention to her and her needs, instead of using me as the "what's wrong with her" person. I dread to think what he would be like if I left then together for a whole day as he uses my "guide times" as gospel.

Once I got home he seemed to flee up to his shed, more out of relief that I was home and would look after Tara again. Do men ever get the instinct of what is needed???

[butterfly_warrior]

We've just found ourselves with some noisy neighbours. About three weeks ago some people moved in over the back fence - DH has had a look and says it looks like 2-3 young blokes. They have a stereo with an amazing sub - and absolutely no respect or consideration for anyone else in the neighbourhood. For the first week we were subjected to doof doof from 4:30 in the afternoon through to 11pm at night. And it hasn't got any better since. Over the weekend we ended up calling the police 4 times in 3 days - but I doubt they are really taking it seriously (the neighbours or the police). We're starting some things through the council, but meanwhile I sit at home with constant headaches due to the noise and the fact that just hearing doof doof makes me extremely agitated and stressed. So I'm getting no school work done at all. I'm sitting here with all the windows closed and the air conditioner turned on and my own stereo turned up really loud in an attempt to completely mask it... Unfortunately, Sam's not going to sleep because of it so I'm still not getting any work done and all my old documents from the pre-Sam days have disappeared from the school server... I burned them to a disk as I kind of expected it - but as we moved, I can't find the disk! I'm so screwed....

BW

[barney]

Not so lucky with neighbours unfortunately - grrrrrr!

BW

oh wow hun funny you should say this about neighbours we are having so much trouble with ours too its just not funny any more ,dh and i have just said as of tomorrow we will be trying to ring the housing comision to dob ours in .
as we rent privatly ( a beautiful home too and pay big rent) this b***ch next door just never shuts up screaming ,yelling,swearing,and every time she does miss c wakes up like shes scared im SOsick of this women if you want to call her that .
they are thie biggest drug addicts,cars come and go all day everyday all they do is fight over money and drugs "WERS MY VALIUM WERES MY CERAPAX WERES MY BONGS AND SO ON " hubby who have slept with the language it just gross they threaten to kill each other all the time.THEN you have her 3 grown drug addict kids coming around doing the same thing then there all fighting over drugs and money
i just want to moove house girls but im so tired and exausted as you all know its a big job with a new born baby then its the money to get another house grrrrrrrrr i dont want to call the ploice as they will smash my house and give me grief all the time im so over this,midnight the other night they started yelling and screaming OMG but if its not then going off its there bloddy dogs barking all the time..oh well from tomorrow ill be calling and seeing what i can do hopefully if what i over heard the other day while they were yelling and fighting they are $1450 behind in rent so maybe they go soon anyway but i guess not as they always seem to get away with things like this .

oh well thats my b***ch for the day im just so upset and agry rite now as she hasnt shut her big mouth all day i feel like just jumping the fence and punching her myself but then ill have the cops on my door

[butterfly_warrior]

Smithy, you have my sympathies. Ours is just music, and as much as it gives me a really intense physical reaction (there's nothing worse than just hearing the bass and not the rest of it!) as we used to live near a leagues club and had similar until about 3am every Friday and Saturday night - got that fixed through the liquor licensing board... having to deal with the yelling and that sort of language day in day out - urgh!

We can't move - just can't afford it and getting a rental in Sydney at the moment is near to impossible - the demand is just so high at the moment!

BW

[Neptune]

BW and Smithy huge to you both. Home is sacred, and you shouldn't have to put up with that. But that's easier said than done. I am a great believer in 'what goes around comes around' and I'm sure these people will get theirs one day, but I hope it's soon for your sake.

KellyD - vent away. That is annoying, and I sympathise because DH jsut does what he thinks is right when I'm not here (he's never right and doesn't listen to me!) and I come home to a screaming baby when Adam is not really a screamer....DH just mis-reads the signs. On the up side, I feel grateful that he can mind Adam while I go an get things done, so I'm now trying not to whinge too much, but I know how you feel love. I now jsut try and be very careful in how I ask him to do things ie. try and make out it's his idea!

[Greenslw]

Saph is your little one bottle or breast fed? I've just upped the incline in linc's cot too. Hope this works as the only way he is sleeping is in the sling with a pillow under his head and one on the side so he's jamed in there, which I wont do when I'm sleeping for fear of him getting under something. I also baught some of those zip up suits which are working really well he's a real riggler and wrapping doesn't work real well. Those are some long long nights I hope you are getting some sleep even if you and DH do take turn sleeping. DH was doing that for me before.

Smithy great work on little bubs weight gain. Prem babes seam to grow quick my two nephews 6 and 7 weeks early and from 4 weeks over the 70% mark and still are.

Well it's week 6 for me and with all we've gone through I'm not sure I'll notice any change

BW I guess we only get so much luck

KellyD DH are somewhat dumb aren't they. Hope it all settled down.

ATM I love my mum. She let me sleep for 3 hours today. Linc was good for one sleep last night but was a horror for the other one. I know it's because he's so blocked up but geeze. i pulled him into bed with me and he was so so so fussy I ended up getting up. I don't think I can do the co sleep thing. I freak out and don't sleep I may as well sit up and watch TV.

Today he's been chucky. He loves lying on his back but only on the change table so I left him there a little long and up came brecky. I get so distressed when he chucks but he's happy. I guess I think "oh my you needed that food" but he went to sleep and woke 4 hours from when he woke last time. he is like a military alarm 4 hours from wake to next wake to the minute usually.

So as mentioned I've upped the incline in his cot again, not only did I take the front wheels off I now have a pillow under the top end of the matress and so far so good. He is easy to settle though and for that I'm so greatful, the sling or the fit ball and he's right to sleep. But when he sleeps flat even with the wheels of the cot he gets wind which wakes him up.

It's my 6 week check Wednesday and my stiches are still pretty sore, I've had AB cos two weeks ago they were VERY sore. Poor DH will have to wait a bit longer I think.

thanks for all your advice re poos, I'm trying a bit of breast milk atm. I tried something from the chemist and it did nothing. If no motion by lunch I'll try the prune juice but I do feel like he's so small for that.

Smithy do you use it every bottle? 2ml. just incase.

[barney]

Smithy great work on little bubs weight gain. Prem babes seam to grow quick my two nephews 6 and 7 weeks early and from 4 weeks over the 70% mark and still are.

Smithy do you use it every bottle? 2ml. just incase.

thanks for the great work thing green hunny MWAH to you.
and as for the prune juice in every bottle NO im only useing it every 2nd day actually hun and only useing 1-2mls only a very small amount as i too am not fussed on useing anything to be honest lol.but hows this .... i havent given it to miss c for 2 days now and BINGO this afternoon OMG it was hell she could not poo she was sooo unsettled all day farting all day so had a big pain in the belly grunting her little head off tried to poo only to do a nugget as big as my pinky finger nail so i could tell there was a big build up then later on this arvo holey dooley did we cop it she screamed from pain grunted till she was red faced and did the biggest hardest poo ive eva seen,so for me she WILL be having the prune juice at least every second day from now on as the brown sugar-water doesnt seem to cut it for her,my poor little girl ..
i hope things start to look up soon darlin girl thinking of you heaps.