I have been MIA in Melbourne visiting the parents and very busy with uni assignments etc. Oh, and been to the GP the last few days.
I need to catch up on all your news before I even attempt persies, but thinking of you all.
One question. I stopped BFing Adam after 6 weeks. I had two normal AF, and now nothing for 7 weeks. I did POAS and nothing, but is this normal????? It's like I have skipped a whole AF, should I be worried?
Well I finally have a few minutes so hope to catch up on some persies. With Jasmine having been sick and working part time, I feel like I haven't stopped!
Neptune - I think it can take a while for your cycle to get back into a normal routine. Were you regular beforehand? I have PCOS and my cycle was virtually non-existent, hence the IVF. I have cut back to breastfeeding Jasmine only once a day and I finally got a period in January about a month after I cut down. I have now had my second period which was bang on 28 days and my third which was 37 days. I am actually a bit in shock as I have NEVER had such a regular cycle - who knows maybe this means that I might have a shot at falling pregnant naturally the next time????
Smithy - sending you loads of positive vibes for the new house. It is horrible when your neighbours suck.
Grub - thanks for your words about Jasmine's convulsion. We are thinking of trying for our second soon - I have found just recently that I have become really clucky. I think it is because Jasmine is no longer a little baby - she is a toddler.
BOC - congratulations and welcome to our thread. You will find heaps of support here.
Green - great to hear that you got your maternity leave extended. Enjoy all the time that you get with your little man - I tell you it just goes way to fast. By the way, I was 19 when my stepmother had my little brother, and there were times that i felt jealous. However, I didn't live with my dad and I think that had a bit to do with it. My dad was not very hands on with me and my sisters and when my stepmother had my brother and sister it was hard as it felt like they were going to have the father that we never did. But I soon got over it when I fell in love with my little brother and sister.
BDT - sounds like you are doing a wonderful job. My little sisters are twins, so I know how wonderful twins are.
Hi to Saph, Marcellus, Lily Dust, Kelly, BG, Murph and anyone else that i have missed.
AFU - well I am happy to report that Miss Jasmine is over the virus that caused all the problems (apart from a small cough). Thank you all for your lovely words and support. Well we are on the last few days of my little girl being a Baby. Jazzy turns 1 on Friday and I really can't quite believe it! Yesterday she started taking a few wobbly steps on her own! It was amazing to see her confidence start to allow her to be a bit daring - so very proud of her. She had a great week at home last week with my DH while I was at work Wed - Fri and I really think that has helped her just recover properly. Only 2 days of work this week due to Friday being a PH (and Jazzy's Birthday!) WOW - this time last year I was still pregnant - anxiously awaiting this gorgeous little angel. She truly is the light in my life and I feel so blessed that I am her mother.
janie - what lovely words about your girl. you should put those feelings in her 1st bday card so when she's older she can look back and try to understand what she means to you. I am finding it amazing to think our mothers did this (mine had 3kdis) and how they must feel about us. I have more compassion and more respect and a better understanding of my mum (who can be a little ott sometimes lol).
I'm so glad your big girl is better! what a relief ox
neptune - my AF arrived and i'm fully bf and Ash was only 13 weeks old! so who knows what the evil thing will throw at you. But, one of my good friends had exactly the same thing happen and she was worried about another baby too soon but turned out to just be a long cycle.
saph - you said it perfectly. i feel bad to start to focus on another baby when i have my gorgeous little treasure already! but very true about not wanting campbell to have to deal with all your loss (in a very very very long time) alone. Ideally we would have a siblihg mainly because we are in the defence force and i want my kids to always have a mate/support person with all our moving about. that's also why i want them close and why we feel we need to use the eggs that are here as we won't be back.
any news smithy?
HOw are all the other lovelies?
Murph, how are you guys settling in? Did Jazzy cope with the move okay?
still waiting grub,the house isnt available till the 10th april so dh has just gone to put out application in so time will tell but omg i sooooo hope we get it..i rekon were in with a good chance but cause weve been renting through the same real estate for 3yrs now and they call us a+ tenants so im keeping everythig i have i truely need to get out of here as i really am going to go mad im getting depressed living here
Little miss "i've got my two first teef" is biting everything and feeding, feeding, feeding so I am MIA. It's a crazy time...really crazy. Love and miss you all (including you, Miss Green)
Saph good you are both on the same page. re more kids.
Marcellus how long did it take for you to heal? I'm so over this.
BOC congrats on the birth of Jagger (love the name) he is so grown up looking already well done.
Oh smithy I hope the new house works out. Fingers crossed for good neighbours.
Janie thanks for the insight from a child's point of view, I know my DH didn't even see DSS till he was 4 (his mum is odd and it took a court hearing) so I guess he may feel a bit like "why didn't I get that". Great news about no more sick DD
Hi to Grub, Neptune and Murph Hope you're having a great start to the week,
ATM had a great weekend on KI, really enjoyed all the well wishes and seeing people I haven't seen for almost a year (hard to catch everyone in quick trips). They all loved DS and it was nice. Although by the end of Sat night I budled him into his sling to keep the pass around of cuddles down, I could see he was over it and he's "my baby" still makes me smile so wide.
This morning a minor miricle occured. 5.20 DH got up Linc stired I put his bottle on and there was silence. hmmmmmm I went back to bed thinking I'll just wait, when I heard him stir again (no screaming ) it was 6.30! OMG a normal wake up time. this continues. He's still only sleeping for an hour at a time during the day but nights are really working well atm.
On the eww side he's taken to spitting up! yuck. He doesn't seam to want to burp as much. I donno, I used infacol for a while but didn't think it really made any difference, maybe it will now?? he's eating more so maybe that's it. I hate the smell, it's so grose. especially at 1am on my sheets.... timing hay.
Had a strange conversation with DH on Friday and thought I'd share, friends of ours found out they are having a DS in August friend for LInc, and he's getting the snip right away! he's already got two DD's and that's it, DH and I still have three frosties and while the original plan was 1 baby I was thinking we may do more. But very logically DH reminded me of his age and that we have other plans to travel, slow down (work wise) etc and another baby in three years would extend all these plans. I got a bit huffy at first then looked and Linc and reliesed how blessed I am to have a beautiful Son, and this after all was our compromise (DH has DSS and DSD) so I stopped huffing and got a bit sad, cos what on earth do you do with frosties you're not going to use? it makes me feel so sad to chuck them but I don't want to donate them? any thoughts?
Green - I dunno, it all depends. What are you healing from? Mine was an episiotomy + some tearing (from the cut). It healed quickly and stopped 'seeping' after being cauterised, but the scar tissue was tender for a long time and it wasn't totally comfortble to DTD till DS was 7 months old.
I know what you mean grub and saph It's the lot of the LT TTCer, I spose, to make these compromises. I guess you have to try and see the big picture and figure out what is best for your family as a whole.
Oh dear Murph Hope you're coping ok
Hope you can get a new house with nicer neighbours Smithy!
Glad that Jazzy is better Janie
Welcome Boc and congratulations!
I still look at DS sometimes and wonder where he came from - is he really here?
I'm not sure what we'll do with any leftover embies. I'm actually happy for them to go to research or practice - I prefer that to just chucking them out - but DH doesn't want that. Before we had DS we were keen on donating... but now that he's here and he's real, I just don't know if I can do that. It's a tough question!
O.K finally some time (although who knows for how long)..
Murph: Yay on Jazzy's teeth, I think we are going through some bad teething issued here at the moment. Whingy, cranky baby chewing everything but nothing makes it better, going on and off her food etc. Thanks to baby panadol, I've managed to get her to have a sleep.
BOC: Yay for making it across here. Enjoy baby Jagger as her will grow so fast.
Janie: Where did time go. It is so hard to think that Jasmine is going to be 1.
Neptune: Are you and I living parallel lives??? Same here no AF now for 7 1/2 weeks, the last one took 7 weeks to come and I've been getting all the signs that she is on her way but so far nothing. I also did a POAS and nada, mainly as I had all the pain early in my cycle and it clearly showed follicles growing. I just wish she would come already as I'm thinking it's gonna be another doosy.
Big hello to everyone else, it's been crazy but thinking about you all.
AFU: Well apart from the teething issue and the waiting for AF to turn up I've been doing a lot of running around. My Mothers Group has gone from being organised by the MCHN to being on our own so I took the lead to plan the weekly roster with everyone and get all the logistic together. I also had to go into town and enrol Tara into her swimming lessons starting 12th, it is so popular here that she has been on a waiting list and as soon as a place became available I had to snap it up and go and pay ASAP or else they give the place to someone else. Plus I've been checking out the local playgroups as well but the only downside is that they all run from about 9.30am.
Now here is a story, the mum that I am closest with from MG has a little girl 1 month older than Tara. DH and I popped in on the weekend and she was telling me that her AF was late as she had been regular as clockwork since it returned after the birth of her DD. Well she bit the bullet and did a POAS and you bet ya she is pg with no 2. I am having mixed reactions to this news, I am happy for them as she is 35 and her DH is 42 and they wanted 2 kids close together but I am also so envious of how easy is was for her to get pg and just wish I could have the same happen to me, although not as soon as it has happened for her as her kids will only be 14 months apart. It makes me wonder if I will always have this type of feeling when I hear of someone getting pg.
Warning...very long ME post (oh how surprising Murph!!!) so Neptune, go and get a cuppa if you are going to read, otherwise I'd really advise just skipping this one
the reason I had time to write it is because it's cut and pasted in parts from a letter I wrote to my sister and I know a lot of you guys want to know what's happening so here it is. If you don't know me, seriously, skip this post.
...I didn't tell you that I was told that we face all kinds of delays with Jasmine's treatment now that we are in the S.A system. they are really conservative and the earliest they do implants is 9 months in very extreme cases and only 1 at a time and only do 2 if funding permits, and only if the waiting list for other first implants isn't too long. They also never do the 2nd one before 18 months, so welcome to the dark ages. I nearly had my second ever cry over jasmine's hearing loss but it was more out of frustration. I didn't though, I kind of just stuck my head in the sand (which is unlike me, but it was just too hard to think about) and luckily I didn't get long enough to think about it with the distraction of traveling down and moving in.
Anyway, I got a phone call from the cochlear doctor in melbourne today and they are meeting on thurday to discuss our case. Private insurance would have her in there by 6 months old provided we agree to do all the testing and work-ups there over the next few months only of couse now we don't know if we are covered or if they will say her condition was pre existing. We took out the insurance when she was 2 days old so some legal loop holes will probably say we knew even though she wasn't diagnosed til she was 3 weeks old. I tell you this is becoming my full time job and I am really earning my carer's allowance chasing all these people. On Friday i spent half the day on the phone trying to get us covered by a patient travel scheme to cover my costs of taking jasmine to Adelaide for treatment and hearing aid moulds every 2 - 4 weeks and various other visits but it was explained that Audiology is not covered under any patient travel scheme and unless I can really get some appointments lined up through a specialist on the same day, I won't be covered for driving 52 km to the ferry, which costs $168 on a cheap day, then drive another 2 hours to get to Adelaide and overnight there. And my application for carer's payment was refused on the grounds that Jasmine doesn't require enough assistance. Insert "f" words. Grrrr. I've got an application in for a one-off carer allowance adjustment which can be up to $10 000 but it's been in the system for over 12 weeks and I have had about 4 phone calls telling me that I need to apply for another benefit before I get that one, have jumped through all their hoops, been turned down on 3 of them and I'm kind of seeing the whole thing as a big fat joke and will be extremenly surprised if I ever get a cent. Sometimes things are just really damn ****ty but I know they could be worse. Still it's okay to whinge about your lot even when someone is worse off, and look how much better I've made you feel
The upside to all my woes is that once jasmine starts down the road to implants, and sees specialists and has all that treatment, she will be covered under the patient travel scheme and flying, driving, mileage and accomodation will be organised and paid for. I just have to get a bit creative and book some other appointments on the days of the therapy sessions until then. Starting now!..."
Now,as for you lot. i do a lot of discussing your iss-ues with my dear old DH over tea... god keep up man, I have to re introduce you every time I want to tell a story. It's like it's not central in his life or something and it's very inconvenient having to pick bits out to remind him before I can hit my stride. so last night it was the Grub and that decision story. Luckily he knows who Grub is. That's a really hard one but I came up with a good bit of advice for you yesterday, quite by accident. Wait til he's got teeth!! Jasmine bit me..THERE yesterday with her brand new teeth. Holy ouch mumma. I remembered earlier reading and told her firmly.."No"! like she was a puppy. DH reminded me she was deaf so I gave her until she turned 5 months old until I would flick her on the nose. Oh waddya know, look who turned 5 months old today!!
Oh and look who is just waking up. Green, we have also been stuck witht he decision about what to do with our one lonely frosty and the whole thing about ever putting me through the birth thing again and our age so I know where you are coming from. It's just that is potentially a whole jazzy in that one little emby and it's the hardest decision to make. I just keep paying for storage and I have only just decided recently to destroy it. I know everyone has their own ethics but my decision is not to have another one of DH's and my own DNA walking around and not knowing them. If we ever go into IVF again, going with one egg is pretty low odds so we would just start off fresh rather than paying to keep one we may never use. We fertilised 14 out of 17 in that first cycle, so the problem for us is my body.
Grub, my huge clucky stage came at about 2 months too. My sister told me to wait about two years and I would think of going through it again, but she lied, it was way earlier! We are making no plans (i.e head in the sand) like some of you are too.
Neptune, how is that lovely pup of yours?
Oh and huge big fat welcome to BOC. Tell us all about your wee little bloke Jagger. How cute. Welcome and enjoy being part of this incredible head spinning time.
BDT, I never knew what people meantby the term "good baby" until jazzy started to sleep for 12 hours each night and doesn't get reflux or fuss or cry much. I guess that's what a good baby is and sounds like you got two so I hope you have a smooth ride (at least til it all changes again
Oh thanks all for the advice on my punch drunk baby. I was hoping that Briggsygirl and janie would weigh in with some advice and I know what you mean on the cloth nappies saving on bruising. She only had that face punching thing for a day and as I suspected, she was trying to control her hand to suck her thumb but too excited and unco like her old man
Gotta go, I am procrastinating big time. Seeya lovelies and hello to each and everyone of you today. My smiley icons aren't working or give you all a big wave.xox
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still waiting grub,the house isnt available till the 10th april so dh has just gone to put out application in so time will tell but omg i sooooo hope we get it..i rekon were in with a good chance but cause weve been renting through the same real estate for 3yrs now and they call us a+ tenants so im keeping everythig i have
i truely need to get out of here as i really am going to go mad im getting depressed living here
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OH GO LITTLE JAZZY ..WHAT A CLEVER GIRL
congrats on the birth of Jagger (love the name) he is so grown up looking already
well done.
) it was 6.30! OMG a normal wake up time.
this continues. He's still only sleeping for an hour at a time during the day but nights are really working well atm.
timing hay.
It's the lot of the LT TTCer, I spose, to make these compromises. I guess you have to try and see the big picture and figure out what is best for your family as a whole.
Yay for making it across here. Enjoy baby Jagger as her will grow so fast.
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