Hello lovelies,
I'm enjoying a lovely cuddle with jazzy so just one hand typing and not sure how long it will last.
I was a bit surprised in catching up with recent posts about the early feeding debate and I can understand what smithy is feeling. I guess i had a similar experience when I gave jazz solids before 4 months. we all take well meaning comments as a personal attack because we live with all this mother guilt no matter what we do, but when it comes from people who don't usually comment, it feels a bit harsh and confronting. My reaction to comments directed at me was to stew in private and say nothing until it all washed over, because I felt a bit defensive and a tad p'd off despite being told not to take it that way. I believe in my own common sense and the fact that no one knows my baby as well as I do and i know that's true of smithy, just as we all do the best we can. It can get a bit over the top adhering to every bit of research and some apply it to the letter of the law, while others (like me), dance around the edges, feeling it out as we go but never endangering our babies with our choices.
BG you have so much to offer all of us here and your comments are always welcome so I hope you don't feel this is no longer your home. In fact, I have come to know which comments will spark an answer from you and janie and i love it when you pop up with your advice based on "been, there, done that" and we hear what lies ahead.
I hope the bad vibes blow over quickly as this is a fantastic source of hope, fun, wisdom and love between all of us brought together on our extraordinary journey.
Neptune, so sorry to hear things are in a bad way for you. I have to admit, I think about it constantly and wonder how things are going? You are taking on so much with your study, your home problems and a new baby. Can you reorganise your psychology study (if only to make me feel less slack for not resuming mine post-baby). Seriously, I'm a big believer in the "Women can do anything" line, but just not all at once. You know that hoarding is not a rational thing and it's just the other end of the spectrum from "clean freaks".. Just that one is more acceptable because it's not as messy. You try stopping obsessive cleaners from cleaning and they will self-destruct. the same will happen with your DH if you don't have the resources in place to support the habit and replace the behaviour...well that's what I think anyway. If he won't go to a counsellor, you can try what I did with DHs post -traumatic stress and go to one on his behalf and start things moving without him being there, at least to talk to someone. Alternatively, like Grub said, maybe a mate, parent, brother or someone who is not just the "whingeing, neurotic, over-reacting wife" (his words, not mine) could have a word? It's such a big thing you are entering into with the thought of leaving him. I'm really feeling for you and wish you all the luck you need.
Oh dear, where do I start? I want to keep coming here but life is getting so totally overwhelming and all about chasing these implants for Jasmine. It's so not easy. I am in the process of lobbying to get funding if my health fund won't support the operation or pay for them. I have a fantastic new support team down here but nothing is like is was back in QLD and its all piece meal and so slow getting anything done. I've got this hospital paying for this ear and this charity paying for that ear and this theatre expense covered by this one and blah blah blah,,,I said I wouldn't whinge, but some days, I get so frustrated I want to cry. Not going to cry!! Hmm, getting dusty in here...better change subject.
Ahh, my little gem is a hefty 5.48 kilos now and 64cm. She is just outrageously cheeky now and charms the pants off everyone who meets her. Mum had a great time here and I plan to take Jazz to Melbourne as soon as I can and with the implants being done in Melb, that's even better. Err, implants...there's that word again!
Better go and do some more chasing. have a great day all and I will check in later. xox
P.S Oh Grub...I'm just not going to try anymore "mis-placed". Oh the horror, I'm clearly not myself, what was I thinking?????
. Seriously, I'm a big believer in the "Women can do anything" line, but just not all at once. You know that hoarding is not a rational thing and it's just the other end of the spectrum from "clean freaks".. Just that one is more acceptable because it's not as messy. You try stopping obsessive cleaners from cleaning and they will self-destruct. the same will happen with your DH if you don't have the resources in place to support the habit and replace the behaviour...well that's what I think anyway. If he won't go to a counsellor, you can try what I did with DHs post -traumatic stress and go to one on his behalf and start things moving without him being there, at least to talk to someone. Alternatively, like Grub said, maybe a mate, parent, brother or someone who is not just the "whingeing, neurotic, over-reacting wife" (his words, not mine) could have a word? It's such a big thing you are entering into with the thought of leaving him. I'm really feeling for you and wish you all the luck you need.
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