Parenting after LTTTC #2

[nic]

Wow - some tricky logistics! Is the other clinic not so good, or you're just unsure about the move?

I thought about changing clinics, but it seemed a bit daunting to up sticks like that so decided to try a different FS instead. He seems ok from our first meeting, so will see how we go.

Heart vs brain - which will win...? In these matters I find it's generally the heart. You know if you have another baby, somehow or other everything will work out.

I spoke too soon about A's sleep. He's back to needing company most of the night. sigh. Maybe it's the next lot of teeth.

I think the clinic is ok...I've just heard a few people having some problems with them, which put both DH and I off them a bit... I know you hear good and bad about clinics, so maybe, I just need to keep remembering that...good and bad..
As for the heart vs brain??? Somedays it's heart that i think will win, other days i think brain. We have been talking about saving from next year for a nice overseas holiday in about 4-5 years time. If we have another bub, then that puts that dream of for a few more years, by which time DD will be out of home, and I'd love to take her overseas before then, especially considering she will be old enough to appreciate and remember it all. DS will be old enough to not need nappies, we'll be past the toilet training etc... and hopefully in about 5 years he will also make a wonderful travelling companion. I keep thinking that we could maybe go back for #3 after an o/s trip? I'm 31 now, so would be trying again around 35-36yrs old, but with embryo's from when i was 29 It's the stamina I'm worried about. DS has me completley run down now, I can't imagine feeling like this in another 6+ years lol.
How's the sleep going now at your place?

Farmgirl - sending some hugs your way. I think we've all been standing where you are now...and some days still feel like we are. I like the others felt the same, and this was my 2nd child, you would've thought I knew what i had to do to get this little person to sleep! There were plenty of days where my DH would come home and I would sit on the verandah crying that i just didn't know what to do with DS, that he was driving me mad, i didnt know what to do with him anymore and finally that i thought i was depressed... you'd have these irrational thoughts...like why did i go through all this to have a baby who did nothing but scream unless he was in my arms, and i was standing with him. He hated me sitting!
DH would remind me that I was suffering from a huge lack of sleep, which made me think irrationally, and made me less capable of dealing with things that normally wouldn't bother me.

I think what BW has said is perfect. This parenting thing is a tough gig, and even me having a child already, it still couldn't prepare me for the new little person who did nothing but scream for most of the day.

[briggsy's girl]

FG - i didn't post yesterday cos i didn't know how to. your post really struck a chord with me - as much as i don't think i'm struggling as bad now as i was a month or two ago, i've really had to fight hard to overcome similar feelings. i don't think i have PND but i know i have depression and it has flared somewhat since DD's arrival. even more so the past few weeks with DH losing his job - but him losing his job means he is here to support me while i struggle, so it's something of a double edged sword.

i hope you can find a way to get some help - whether it's counselling, AD's - or asking for help when you need it. i have found that, now that DD is more interactive, as much as i get the lows, talking to her and having her babble back, her smile - they make it a little easier to cope with the crappy days

hugs hun

[TaRhLi.]

Hi Everyone

FG: At least you are willing to admit that you are struggling with motherhood. I think it is a big reality shock for a lot of us LTTTC's. I know that I have found the whole not being in control thing hard to manage as we have always known what's next in our TTC journeys and now that our miracle bubs are here there is no knowing what happens next. Have you considered seeing a counsellor at all, even if it isn't PND sometimes it is just nice to talk to someone and get everything off your chest. You might find that will help.

Well, we have been having a few unsettled days with feeding, my milk has all but gone now so Tara is formula fed 100% and it is playing havoc with her tummy. For the past couple of days we have had the most horrible vomits with it even coming out of her nose the force is so strong. So yesterday I had her on smaller and more frequent feeds to try and help her tummy adjust and also to keep the feed down. The only problem is that she was feeding every 1 1/2-2 hours and not getting much sleep in between and last night she was very unsettled after her feeds so only managed about 4 hours sleep in total. I'm hoping that today will be better and I'm going to try and get her from 3 hourly feeds to 4 hourly feeds if possible. 3 hourly feeds at night with a baby that takes 1 hour to feed isn't giving me much opportunity to get good sleep in between. Anyway, better go and get my washing out of the machine before Tara wakes up for her next feed.

I hope everyone else is going well.