Obviously like you all, we were LTTTC, I have a bit of question and I need some honest opinions.
I hate DD being out of my sight and everyone seems to want to keep taking her! My mum keeps pushing DH and me to go out while DD stays at her house, I continually refuse as I dont want to leave her and my mother is a big fan of letting babies cry it out or at least cry for an extended time. Last week my aunty picked up DD and said she was going to take her outside as she was upset, I asked her not go out in the 40 degree heat with her and she did anyway, I was nearly in tears! my other aunty saw what was happening and went and got her.
I dont mind anyone having a cuddle or chat to DD but I do not want people to keep taking her away from me! I am happy with what ever DH does with her, if he has her outside or Im outside but I dont even want to leave her with him while I go out (I know he is quite capable) but what if she gets upset and he can't settle her? I hate hearing her cry her heart out.
In the hospital the midwives continually tried to take her to the nursery and even snuck in the room on several occasions and thought they would take her to the nursery anyway, telling me I wasnt meant to wake up when they came in! Then they told me and DH to have a day pass while we left 'the baby' at the hospital.....um, no I dont think so thankyou very much.
I have had nightmares since we have been home where I wake up hysterical that someone has taken her and DH has to reassure me she is still there
So I guess in this long winded post, I am wondering if anyone else felt similar to me? Did you hate your very precious little one away from you or is something wrong with me??? Will I eventually ease back or am I going to cause my DD to be a maladjusted little girl??? Any thoughts would be great.
Lily - i hated anyone taking DD from me - ESPECIALLY when she was upset. i dont' care if they have 20 kids of their own - she is MY DD and i'll do it MY way - and don't you DARE try and keep her from me!
we recently had our first few hours away from DD since her birth - she was 6months 2days old. we had tix for a concert - one that DH had wanted to go to for as long as i've known him. so we had to leave her. i thought about how my mum behaves (she believes in CIO but is, to my face, respectful of our decision not to) - and the amount of time we'd have to be apart from her for a Melb concert (we live 2 hours out of Melb) - then i realised my cousins live much closer to Melb - so mum came with us, and stayed there with DD. i knew my cousins have similar parenting style to us - so wouldn't let mum use CIO, DD was much closer to us... anyway, i almost bailed on the concert even then. it just didnt' feel right. we didn't go to all this effort to have her to not be her parents full time!
so no, you are most definitely NOT alone on that thought
i would be making a huge issue if someone took DD outside without my consent. we keep our house a fairly consistent temp - and only take DD out on the hot days if we HAVE to - it's not fair to them - not like they can really say they're hot! you have to judge that yourself - and at 2 months, you still have to hold them very close, so that adds heat. you're well within your rights to be upset and crack the poops about that. in all honesty, i'd probably tell people that you birthed her, you will make the decisions - and they either respect that or rack off (ok, i HAVE said that - but i'm very forthright!). don't let people push you around - step up to the plate and tell them your baby your way!
oh, and there is nothing wrong with my bubba for being looked after by her mumma! she'll go to others, but makes sure we're there (either daddy or mummy - granma at a pinch...). my SIL was very much like this with all three of her kids - and they're brilliant kidlets now - very social, very happy to spend time with other people - in fact, the nine and five year olds actively ask for sleepovers here every second weekend!
Lily Dust - the way you feel is perfectly normal. You are her mother - listen to your heart. you know what's best for her, so put your foot down and don't feel bad about telling others how it'll be with her.
And oh my goodness at those midwives! That's really awful. I still feel weird about being away from DS, I couldn't imagine how awful I'd have felt if someone took him from me when he was just born! I remember he had to spend a night in the nursery and that was terrible. I could hardly sleep - kept waking up panicking.
Glad you got to that concert BG.
Hi Nicole
A's been pretty good with the travel and time zone differences. Bed time is a bit hard over here - it's not properly dark till after 9:30!! He insists on sleeping in the bed with me, which is ok, but last night he hardly slept at all. We worry he's coming down with something.... hope not. We're off camping for the weekend with DH's sister and her family.
Anyway, he's having a ball doing the chores with DH - feeding the dog & chickens.
Just a quick helllo from me...I have been slack and not keeping up with the thread the last couple of weeks.. I am aiming to go back and catch up though...I promise
Just wanted to ask BG a quick question though...Have been trying to search for the Amby recall thread, and my search is not working Wondering if you got an email back from amby australia?
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