Pregnancy after Long Term TTC - March 2008

[arielle]

I too wanted to wish everyone a belated Happy Mothers Day! Hope it was a really special one for you all.
Was there a special mothers day prezzie for Lismith I wonder? Hope you're travelling well hun!

Nic - so cute your son's a little flasher! What a crack up. Glad you got lotsa questions answered at your docs appt.

TL - any improvement with the walking? That's great your DH is being so wonderful around the house. Milk it as much as poss, I reakon. Not long for you now too. Lismith first, then you , then me. Aaaaaaagh!!! Hope you're feeling well.

Shannon and Carla - I hope you two are starting to feel more happy and confident in your pg's. So many of us LTTTC'ers know exactly how you've been feeling. Believe me - it does get better. Try to take things, a day at a time.

Lenny - hope you're all better now.

Big hello to everyone else!

Not a great deal to report from me. I think I may be getting BH's now, but not too sure. Just feels like a very low dull period pain-like ache that hangs around for only half a minute or so. I get it about once or twice a day I think. Could it just be my uterus stretching further perhaps?
We've also had our first of 2 antenatal classes. I have been feeling cool as a cucumber about the impending birth so far. That is, until after this class. Not sure exactly what has got me feeling anxious now, but am guessing, that it's all feeling a lot more real now?? It's like having all this information imparted on me, has given me more to worry / think about. I want to go back to going with the flow ( or ? burying my head in the sand). It's much nicer that way.

Take care all! Have a great week.

[nic]

Mako, thanks for the heads up about the fountain lol! I have already been dreaming about always having a cloth nappy handy to cover him while in the middle of nappy changes!

Arielle, I'm with you on going with the flow/burying head in sand lol! It sure is a nicer place at times. You know what I'm finding a little funny at the moment? Is how I can feel bub kicking, putting feet in uncomfortable places, headbutting and hiccuping, yet it still doesn't feel real. I saw a cute little pic tonight of a newborn, and then realised "OMG...I'm going to have one of them in 7 weeks"...then I cried! damn hormones!
How many more classes do you have?

I booked in for our hospital pre admission interview and tour on June 10. You can't book before 32 weeks believe it or not! Not too sure on how much of a tour we will need, it is the womens unit, which is where I was when I had my lap last year, so we know where it is, and I won't need to be shown around the birthing suites either. I'm sure they will have loads to tell us anyway...I hope.

Ok, bit of a TMI question, is or has anyone been DTD in the last tri? I tried to convince DH the other night and he is scared of something happening. He said he saw how low down the OB had the scan thingy the other day and he reckons he will hit DS LOL! but, he is genuinely concerned that DTD now, may start something and he wants bub to cook for a bit longer.

Nic

[Carla MP]

Hi ladies
Thanks Airelle...abit more relaxed than I was. But I have a confession...Im not sure whether I am being selfish or just plain horrible....I have waited such a long time to be where I am not to mention paying a lot of $$$ but right now...Im not enjoying any of this. Im sick of my blood sugars being everywhere and having 3-4 hypos a day (im a diabetic) my Gp has sent me to the hospital to see the specialist for my diabetes, then I see him, now I am waiting to see the anti natal clinic there. I would prefer to see one doctor not all three as they are all telling me different things. Seeing my GP on Friday. i have had constant pains from the progesterone pessaries, constiaption like you wouldnt believe and just cry every 2 minutes. My husband and I have been fighting non stop....well I have been the one doing all the screaming..the poor thing. Why am I always so angry ???? Sorry ladies..you all seem so happy and I have just raved on with negative vibes.......no one else I dont think would understand me if I told a friend or my mum.

[arielle]

Carla hun! Don't apologise. It's totally ok to be feeling the way you are. With sugar levels all over the place, extra progesterone in your system, and feeling stressed / non-confident about being pg, I'm not surprised you're feeling like this. You poor thing! I wish I could come give you a BIG hug.
You know, just because LTTTC'ers spend so much time and $$$ getting UTD, it doesn't mean they have no rite to voice their discomforts, so please don't feel guilty about voicing yours. Nobody enjoys feeling like crap!!
I wish I had the magic cure all for you. I really hope things settle down for you soon. Fingers crossed your GP can help you out a lot. I can't say I know what your sugar levels will do as your pg progresses, but I can say that most people (like me, and many of my friends) have started to feel a whole heap better in the 2nd trimester. Hang in there ok - there's a damned good chance you will too.

Nic - I so know what you mean about getting all the kicks, headbutts, hiccups etc... and still not feeling like it's an actual baby in there. A few of my friends have brand new bubs at the mome, and for some reason, holding their gorgeous lil' ones hasn't necessarily made it feel much more real either? I am not even having dreams about babies / birth, like everyone else seems to when pg, especially in the 3rd trim. It sorta worries me actually. Am I going to be a bit in shock when handed my little bundle?? Will I feel anything for it, or will it still take a while for my brain to "get it?"
Oh well, we'll soon find out.
Don't know if I'm much help in the DTD dept. I have barely felt like DTD this whole pg, but have safely done so on a couple of occasions this last trimester. How cute is your DH - worrying about hitting bub. It's s'posed to be completely safe, as long as all is well with the pg, and I'm sure your ob would confirm that, but perhaps just ring and ask your ob so that your DH can hear it direct from him. Good luck!

Gotta go eat! Boy am I getting hungry these days.
Take care all.

[nic]

LOL Arielle at being hungry lately. I find myself making my way to the fridge (after the 3am loo stop) a lot lately too. As for DTD, DH's fear has stemmed from watching the OB do the u/s on friday and how low the doppler thingy was. He said it was on my c/s scar, which is pretty low, I usually wear some low rise hipsters, and my scar still sits below them. I also think he is a bit concerned that last time we DTD, I ended up with the UTI a couple of days later.
Combine those 2 things with him worried that DTD will bring labour on, along with the fact the hospital is 2 hours away, as our little local hospital is not equipped to deliver, which would then mean a ride in the helicopter to get there, I think my DH is freaking out majorly about DTD! Sadly, I think even if the OB said it was fine, DH still wouldn't want to do it Feels like we've done nothing but avoid it over the last 12 months.

Nic

[Carla MP]

Thanks Arielle
Once again you have come to the rescue....I think Im just waiting for that 12 week mark to go by.....see GP this Fridayt o arrange for my cans....NEXT week....hoping everything is ok. I think its fine as I am having a lot of hypos which I was told that its the baby sucking all my sugar out of me and then I teke insulin then I have a hypo....so maybe having them all is good news in a strnge kind of way. but I do know its not good for the baby so that is making me nervous but at the moment it it unavoidable. they say it will get better as time goes on and it will go the other way. i will have high sugars.....GREAT! Anyway....i just have to take one day at a time...

Hope your doing ok......not long for you now ladies!!!

[mako]

Hi Just a quick one to check up on Lismith. How are you doing? Any more signs of bub?

[lismith25]

Hi ladies hope you all had a wonderful mothers day.......IM STILL HERE
The leakage stopped so guess I may have peed myself, my swelling has subsided significantly since stopping work, and as of yesterday morning she had still not engaged .....I really find myself wondering if I am still pregnant, maybe I am just terribly bloated I havent been getting contractions at all the only difference now is that I get very sharp pain in my pubic bone, when she moves so she has to be doing something down there!!!!!

Its all so confusing, I want her out so badly but at the same time i am so scared now about the next step that I am starting to think maybe she should just stay put for a bit longer. FOR GOODNESS SAKE....THIS IS WHY I SHOULD HAVE KEPT WORKING!!!!!!The old brain has nothing to focus on accept baby and lack of. Maybe i'll hit my due date, fingers crossed

Sorry its a really selfish post, i'll be back to catch up with everyone
Hope your all doing ok, you all sound good xxxx

[onthefly]

hi guys, just checking in to see how everyone's going.

lismith - it's your dd already!!! how're you? hope all goes smoothly and you are soon holding your baby (if not already). do you have someone doing your BA?

hope everyone else is doing well - thinking of you

[arielle]

Helloooooo ladies!

Nice to hear from you Lismith!! Anything happening yet? Apologies if you're super tired of being asked that. Had to giggle at you wondering if you're still pg. Maaaaaaan!! That would be some pretty awesome bloating if you weren't - LOL!!! Good luck hun! Looking forward to hearing your good news

Nic - That;s funny! I've been keen on the odd middle of the night snackipoos too. I've taken to having both the Rennie and some biscuits on my bedside table. Has been a godsend.
Well, tricky situation re: DTD! I understand where your Dh is coming from, but also very much understand your frustration. Does he know that you will most likely not feel very much like it for a while after bub is born?? Perhaps that may change his mind?

Carla - yippeee! You're almost at the 12 week mark hun. Well done!! Hope all went well at the GP, and best of luck for your scan. After reaching 12wks and seeing your bub on the screen , I hope you're feeling miles better about everything!!
I'm guessing jelly beans / babies are your best friends at the mome with all those hypos, you poor thing! Personally, I'd love a good excuse to eat lotsa lollies, (self confessed sugar junkie!!!), but it's very diff for you ofcourse.

Shannon - how you doing?

Mako and marcellus - hope all's going great with you and your lil' ones.

All's cruising along well with me. Second and final antenatal class on Sunday was good. Not scarey like the last one, as this time we got lotsa useful tips on how to actually care for our bubs. We even got a demo of bathing a bub with a real newborn. Oh so cute!!
DH and I are now feeling quite excited after this class, and are really, really looking forward to meeting our little cherub soon. Bub needs to atleast wait 'til the end of this week please, as the hospital we're going to won't take you before 36wks.
We keep changing our minds every 5 seconds about what we're having. We were so sure early on that it was a boy, but now we're starting to think maybe girl?? Just about all of our friends have had boys of late, so perhaps it's time for some pink. She'd certainly be lucky with how many fellas she'd have to chose from. May be a bit stressful for Dh though - LOL!!!

Belly rubs, and a big hello to anyone I've missed. Take care all.
Arielle

[onthefly]

hi again
baby's asleep so i have a moment.
Lenny - i meant to ask, are you ok? you mentioned surgery...

carla - that must be so tough. i know what you mean about everyone having adifferent opinion, between the OB, GP and specialist. it's frustrating. hope things can settle down a bit for you, with any luck you'll feel better in the second trimester.

good luck with DTD - it's a dicey one

Even with kicks and punches and ultrasounds my baby didn't seem real to me. even after the birth when he was put on my chest it didn't seem possible that it was my baby - i just felt surprise & shock. a few days later i had this thought in the back of my mind that we would be leaving him at the hospital when we went home. I guess everyone's different, but our little guy grew on me over time, becoming more real each day. Now he's a fixture

take care all - hope to be seeing some birth announcements soon

[lismith25]

OH MY GOD....I AM NEVER GOING TO HAVE THIS BABY

I have tried all the old wives stuff, even managed to dtd much to dh's delight but i really dont think we will be going there for a while again. Now considering not only not being pregnant but actually becoming a virgin again...maybe this is how Jesus came about... it wasnt Mary was an actual virgin its just that she had a big stick by the bed and would attack Joseph if he even looked at her...so it just seemed that way by the time she actually gave birth......hum food for thought (now I know I am going insane)

Off to the docs again tomorrow to talk about options, but they only leave you for 10 days here, so I guess that puts a timeframe on it at least...I guess something will be born by next Tuesday regardless. Mum and Dad fly out on Monday, and are actually wanting to be here for the birth, so at least they will be happy.

I am just so ready, it is time

See and you guys have all this to come, then I can be full of wisdom and sanity...but in the mean time I might go dangle a mars bar between my legs to entice the little diva to make an appearance. DH thinks she is in conversation with my internal organs and reluctant to end it first like her mother...they are so helpful at these times

Marcellus - glad you are still around
Belly rubs everyone
Hum i cant believe im at the end of my ticker already....that was fast

[Shannon22]

Hi Ladies

Sorry i have been MIA

lis - I have absolutley no idea what you are going through so as annoying as it may be for you , i am going with the positive to say you will be holding your beautiful baby girl by this time next week! Hopefully she is here a little sooner, but huge for managing to DTD and lol ... poor Mary!

Arielle - How exciting only a few weeks left and you will have your little one. Glad you enjoyed the antenatal classes and the second one wasn't as scary.

Carla - Hun i hope you are feeling a little better and dont be sorry thats what we are here for

Nic - I hope you have had some luck with the DTD, and DH is feeling a little more relaxed. Did he have the same concerns with DD?

Marcellus - That was just beautiful your explaination of your bond with your baby! Just perfect!

Hope i didn't miss anyone

Well i am finally 12 weeks tomorrow and bubble and squeak are going great We met with our OB last week and she was just fantastic!! Which was a huge relief. We are tentatively booked in for a c section from Nov 13 - 20. And if everything is perfect at the time we can attempt a vaginal birth. We have our nuchal scan on Monday 26th, but we saw them on a scan at the dr's and they were both wiggling away and you could see their little hand and feet. AMAZING! Still trying not to cry during a scan and failing dismally!

Love Shan

[Carla MP]

Hi Shannon......wow we both made it........Im 12 weeks today and just got back from the horrid wait at the hospital to see 100 doctors....everything is ok....they are still scaring me with complications that could happen becuase Im a diabetic but i will be ok. We have our nuchal scan on Wednesday next week. Im nervouos but so excited at the same time. So we will be 13 weeks at the time of the scan and the OB told me today that we might be able to see what we are having...I thought you couldnt tell until about 18 weeks. Hope she hasnt got our hopes up!
I feel alittle more at ease but think I will feel better after the scan has happened.
It is so beautiful getting the scans and crying through it is not uncommon.....I DO IT TOO!!! We heard the heartbeat last week and a cried like a baby.....
Im so glad you are doing so well. They told me today that they are going to induce me at 38 weeks so guess we are having a November baby too now!!!!

[lismith25]

Big congrats Shannon and Carla on making it to 12 weeks, that is the first hurdle successfully overcome. I cried at the first scan and dh even had a tear at the second one, think the picture of the actual baby instead of the jelly bean affected him more than he thought. But I cant beleive we are talking about November babies already and the time will just fly.

Well she has finally engaged I had my stretch and sweep this avo to see if anything will happen, but failing that I am booked in for induction tuesday afternoon for a wednesday birth...finally I have a definite date Saying that though I am getting a lot of discomfort already so maybe just maybe it is working.

Have to apologise for the last post...I sound like a raving loon
Marcellus - forgot to say Aric is just gorgeous, I am so happy for you.
Arielle - You are getting so close now
TraceyLee - How are you doing, I think you were next?
Nic- did you manage to persuade dh to dtd? You deserve a medal for even contemplating it.

Big hi to everyone else, hope you are all ok

[Carla MP]

Hey Lilsmith 28/5/08....how beautiful....do you think you'll go before that? Well whenever your beautiful bub arrives I wish you all the best and know you will be great.........you must be so uncomfortable.....hang in there, you have certainly insprired me over the last few months..thankyou.....its all worth it int he end isnt it?
xoxoxoxox

[nic]

Arielle, how great that your ante natal classes are finished. Now just to wait for bubbas arrival

Shannon - YAY for being 12 weeks! OMG that went so fast!

Lis, hopefully you are holding your little girl in your arms right now. Thinking of you

Big hi to everyone. Have had a few days away from BB, been so very busy with getting DD's new room organised. Her new bed arrived this week, and DH finished off the painting, so we put the bed together, and surprised her as she didn't know it was arriving. there were a few tears, though if you ask her, she just had watery eyes! So we have a very happy little girl at the moment.

As for DTD, nope, not happening here. DH didn't have a chance when I was pregnant with DD as it was the furtherest thing from my mind then, I think I'm craving that little bit of extra intimacy that doesn't revolve around charts, or dr's/hospital visits etc. Oh well. only a few more months to wait LOL! We have our next OB appointment next week, and then another week and a half after that we have our hospital visit.

Nic

[Carla MP]

Hey ladies
Nic your story bought tears to my eyes!!!!! Dmn hormones.'
ladies I need to ask your opinion....I have been on progesterone pessaries since week 5...we are 12 weeks now and doc said I can go off it if I want. I had to ring him to see whether i could or not as I only have enough until next wednesday and if I needed more I needed tog et a script off him to get some....the nurse called me back and said he said I can go off them now...what do you think. Im scared to go off them incase of bad news but i hate them so much and give me the worst cramps and constipation. Im just concerned that no BT was done to check levels but I should really trust my DR huh????