I have just kind of accepted that this is the way it is and that there won't be any other way for me. Hey - it could be worse people - it could be 35 years ago when none of this was even possible. I would rather be in the situation I'm in now than what my mother would have had to go through if she was unable to conceive naturally. She would most likely never have been able to have children.

I have a married couple (friends) who the male sounds like he could have the same issues as DH (due to undescended testes). I listen to the talk about their efforts in TTC over the last 4 - 5 months and how they check each month via the good ol' POAS and I really want for them to not be in the same boat as us, but at the same time want to shake them and say "go get tested - don't leave it another year just find out NOW". DH is the same, but is starting to drop a few comments (not in a nasty way) but saying well a SA test wouldn;t hurt you know - just to rule any possible issues out. I'm keeping my mouth shut. They'll get tested when and if they need to and I'll be there to hold their hands if they do need to go down this path, but I don't want to steal that innocence from them earlier than it may (or may not) need to be.

Any-hoo. I am thankful that I live in this day and age and I'm going to start trying to see my IVf jorney in a more positive light from today on.

Possums sweets - I hope you can eventually find a way past your sadness. It may be that you won't enjoy the first 12 weeks, but I think there is a lot to be said for acceptance of situations that you cannot change. A saying I have for myself "I'm am learning to own this and I am trying to let it go".

You may not ever feel comfortable while within the first 12 weeks, but you know it and you also know there is nothing you can do to change it, so hopefully you will be able to learn to let go. Easier said than done, but I find that surrendering can sometime be liberating.

Anyway - Everything above said in love and support to you sweets.

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