Nixon- thanks, it's true, surrendering can be liberating...I am a fairly spiritual person and handing things over to the universe can sometimes lighten the load...i suppose when my turn comes aroudn again, that's what I'll need to do. Acceptance is something I am working on now...I think it will help with some of my anger etc

I think trying to view the IVF journey as a positive opportunity to have children, which we wouldnt have had years ago is certainly a helpful perspective also.