Hi everyone
Bel: i am so so soryy you are having a hard time its really not fair after all youve been through! It sounds like the bubs are doing really good though and thats most important (doesnt help you stop stressing though) sending huge cyber hugs and loads of snuggling in vibes.
HP: Thanks for the supportive words, really have to stop being so senstitive!
Mon: yay to C&C thats awesome, they say with twins one is always really busy and the other is mellow!
Nixon: sorry i dont want to scare you. sorry prob TMI but i want to explain so hopefully you wont worry! My birth with DS was induced, i also had an epidual, he was posterier, i had an episotomy and gave birth lying on back, all very big risk factors for really bad tears. I also have a very short perineal area which is also a big risk factor! I was very keen to have a VB and researched alot so if you want to avoid tearing there is lots you can do. The main things being:
-dont give birth on your back stay as active as poss and try all fours or sometimes squatting
- dont have an epistomy, the analgy was put to me of trying to rip a towel, if you snip it first tis going to tear alot easier, if an episotomy has to be done it must be last minute when the skin is at its very thinnest.
-there is a method where you breathe the baby out rather than hard pushing, maybe someone else can help with the name but that is good and water birthing or staying in water till your ready to give birth softens the skin.
Also there is the perineal massage but i think the jury is still out on that one ! My BF took evening primose all the way through her pregnancy and didnt tear so that may help too. But i think the best thing is to be really educated about your birth and know whats going on. Hope that helps. and sorry for scarying you.