Pregnancy after LT TTC #10

[sammiejam]

Hi girls!

Sorry its been so long but I have been going through "stuff". I only have a couple of weeks to go and my pelvis is not holding up to good In lots of pain and can hardly walk. On top of that our house was only half way unpacked and i had an INSANE burst of nesting. I was seriously FREAKING OUT and could not bare the thought of bringing home lil Blue to a house that wasnt totally unpacked and perfect. I have settled a little and realise that I am not going to be able to paint the lounge and sunroom in this condition lol. I have accepted that and have contented myself with getting the nursery and getting every damn box done.

I have also been going through a bit of depression. I keep crying all the time and have had some very negative thoughts and feelings... its so weird because i love this baby so very much and am excited to meet him, actually the feelings about the baby, its more about DH. I sometimes feel intense ... anger? or something because I am scared to be vulnerable after the baby comes. I am not even explaining it properly. He has done NOTHING WRONG at all, its just me. I have spoken to my dr about it and he said its pre-natal depression and caused by hormones. Most of the time I am ok but then I have days when i am really low. Its kinda scary. Anyway reaching out and telling people is important aparently. At least now the doc is aware of it as is DH and my friends so they are all going to keep a close eye on me after Blue is here because I will most probably get post-natal depression as well

Sorry to be such a drainer. I hope you all dont mind me talking about this but as we all know, sometimes life is not always a bed of roses. It really does help to just get it out there and not be ashamed to admit it.
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Big hugs to everyone,

Sammiejam
However, I am feeling good today the sunshine is helping

[Miss K]

Sorry if I offended any girls by missing you its just what I copied and pasted!!!

BOC - Thankyou for putting me on there that sure is a crazy list you've got its alot harder to keep control of then any of the LTTC threads!! Good luck with the C/S booking! Are you nervous excited??

lise - Canada will be amazing!! I would love to do that Canada and Alaska trip!

Sammiejam - I hope you are ok hunny!! And know that no matter what having depression isn't your fault and your not the only one soo many girls go through it and it may take a tiny bit of time to conquer but I know you can do it you've made it this far And how many weeks do you have left?? What a PIA the unpacking is I think I am going to find out like you how hard it is cause we start renovating soon :s

AFM - not long till our first scan I am looking forward to it but no hopes up yet till we pass the 10 week mark! Has anyone woken up with bad pain on their right hand side like ovary to the back I had that plus a hot flush and nausea then went back to sleep and woke up fine it was strange!!

[lise]

sammiejam - thanks for sharing your story, a very brave and open post to share. I've experienced anxiety and depression in the past and am well aware of the possibility of what could happen on the future. I think people expect that because it's such a joyous time that everything should be just rosy, but doesn't always work like that. Am glad you have supportive friends and family around you during this time xx

BOC - OMG, tomorrow you're going to know your baby's birthday, wow!!! Oh, BTW, both LondonMiss and myself are expecting pink bundles and from memory Seph is having a boy

Miss K - I often have a pain or ache in my right side, never my left for some reason...! It seems to go away though, but if you're concerned ask your OB or GP.

Emerald - have you had your scan yet? Hope things are okay xx

Hi to everyone else, hope you're all well

[LondonMiss]

Hello all. Hope you are all well. Miss K - sorry you are having computer problems. I'm more than happy to do the list (I seem to be the only one not crippled with a lovely iphone) if I'm reading the thread right and thinking that there is a current vacancy, but if there's not, then quite happy to shut up. Let me know though and I'll grab whatever list is most up to date and use that if you could PM me it.

Sammiejam - I'm so sorry to hear you are having blue patches. I have them but only in my dreams, if you see what I mean. I have the most extraordinary nightmares, usually about my DH leaving me straight after the baby is born (this happened to one of our close friends recently). I've even had a dream that he ran off with the girl that our friend ran off with, which would be pretty fast going, even considering what I consider her morals to be. It's wonderful that you can share your thoughts, and I hope it lightens the load.

BOC - not long now! How exciting. I'm thinking I might have another hippo too, or judging by the comments I seem to be getting.

Sorry for not doing more personals. I've had a day and a half in bed, and the most spectacular (if I do say so myself) vomiting yesterday. I went to try and get a new passport (why the British consulate outsource this to auspost is a mystery to me) and spent ages in a queue with a woman who was determined that I must have loads of Aus ID, which I thought was somewhat missing the point... by the time I got home I was hot and nauseous and clambered straight into bed. Slept until 4, when I felt much better, had a glass of milk and then vomited everywhere. Felt pretty rubbish until the middle of the night when i (TMI) finally managed to go to the loo... haven't really noticed it but haven't gone for 3 days... which is probably the cause of the stomach pain.... didn't have a temperature, but have a GP appt today just to be sure. Little Miss is kicking away, so I'm not too worried about her. But made me realise how fragile I feel, and how it's not just me that I need to take care of. Bit of a thunderbolt moment. On the up side, not going to work today. Hurrah.

Hope you are all well xx

[wantbaby#2]

Miss K~
I had that type of pain in my left side which would be in my ovary and travel around to the back.Mine was due to the fact that the left ovary was where they removed my 5 eggs so it was tender up until about 10 weeks when the placenta started to take over.i also have PCO so may have had some small cysts.No pain since then though.If worried,give your ob a call to reassure you but sounds like that is what it is.

Sammiejamm~ My heart goes out to you.I have suffered from anxiety and depression since i was 14.When i had my son Connor,i was 19 and although my pregnancy was fine,i ended up with minor PND and didnt bond with him til he was 4 months old.I am so worried it will happen with this bub as i have days where i feel out of control.I went to slap my husband the other day in the carpark,because he was arguing about the stupid car!I cry and am very emotional and yet i,like you,am completely in love with my baby and desperate to hold him/her but feel like i want to kill my hubby.Yesterday i was staring at him and he said 'why are you looking at me like that'.... you know what i said?.... 'you have put on so much weight,your head is the shape of a butternut pumpkin!!!
He wasnt impressed LOL
I dreamt lastnight he ran off with his receptionist,Miriam....He doesnt even HAVE a receptionist..he is a builder and doesnt know any miriams.
Hormones make us all a bit nutty.Try and focus on the positives when things get you down or go and do something which is relaxing.Sitting in the sun,reading a funny book and even some meditation should help.Hope your feeling better today.xxxxx

Boc~ How exciting booking your c section date!
Hello to all.
AFM I have my 19 week scan this afternoon.The fetal anomaly scan.Im praying that bub is well and that there arent any problems.We are going to find out the sex today too,thats if the cord isnt in the way again. Im guessing Peanut is a boy...Omg im so in love with him/her.I love watching and feeling him kick.Im amazed.
Will pop in later to let you know how it goes.x0x0x0x

[kyrawolfe]

Sammiejam -=- Sorry to hear your going through depression.. I went through antenatal depression with my son and just felt like every day dragged on and like I was so alone and angry at everyone. I think one of the best things to do is get out of the house as much as you can and surround yourself with all of your family and friends as much as you can too.. The more distracted you are and more you enjoy your friends and that the more you might start to feel better.. At least thats what helped with me. The anxiety is the worst and the nesting becomes like this huge job that is never done right and it feels like the house is soo dirty even when uve spent all day scrubbing.. Good luck hey I really hope the feeling starts to lift soon and Im glad you have ur family and friends and of course DH's support now..

Miss K -=- I had the same sort of pain in the early weeks.. and it made me crazy after having two misscarriages previously.. But Im still here hope all is ok hun xx

London Miss -=- Oh you poor thing sounds awful. I had a bit of a tummy bug yesterday but its completely lifted now.. Get loads of rest and take care of yourself and your lil bundle! <3

Wantbaby -=- GOOD LUCK with your scan! Cant wait to hear what your having

AFM -=- I had my baby shower on Sunday. It went so well and we all had so much fun. All my gfs were so thoughtfull we went out and bought all this food and then each of them turned up with a dish as well! They brought such yummy things too like chocolate rolls with ganache and cream through the middle, and homemade mini quiches and zuchinni slices, bikkies dohnuts.. I think I put on about 3 kilos that day HAHAHA!!

We got heaps of stuff too bub now has this beautiful thick sleeping bag with little girraffes and hippos on it.. a fluffy snuggle blanket with a lamb at the top to cuddle and teething thingys on the sides.. an adoreable lil self propping up silver album that you can flip through like a calender sitting on our microwave.. some cute lil frames, toys, outfits, about 7 litres of baby soaps and shampoos and a kilo of cotton buds hehehe.. 4 boxes of wipes.. even DS got a big brother present (which was really for us too haha) it was a lil monkey bag he wears on his back that has a little strap at the back i can put around my wrist or the pram so if he pulls his run out in the carpark habit when I have newbie in the pram he wont be getting too far!

We played baby bingo and this necklace game where throughout the whole day you wernt allowed to say the word baby.. and if someone does you have to catch them out and take there necklaces.. It was so funny cuz by the end of the day one of the girls had just about all of them and she said "well im going to go pick up my baby" as she was heading out the door and another gf scored them all HAHAH! Everyone wrote down there guesses as to what the sex is/ birth date and weight. Funnily enough there were 15 guesses and not one of them thinks its a boy lol so either they are all right or not one of them is

I highly reccomend a baby shower! It was sooo much fun and really got us excited about having bub. I washed all bubs hospital clothes and blankets the next day and the bassinet matrees covers then I packed my labour bag and the hos bags for the stay so everything is in place now and it really is just a waiting game from here on in

Cant wait to meet my lil bundle We've decided to get out groovey nappy collection with some of the baby bonus as it starts to come in and probably a new fridge seeing as ours is one step up from bar fridge and were about to be a family of four! Five if you include pups! I couldnt believe it i got sooo clucky this last weekend I found myself even considering having a 3rd!! Have to keep slapping the thought out of my head as DH is dead set on stopping at two and we've already been through the fact that it will be our perfect number.. I know in my head that its true and I am probably just thinking irrationally cuz of all the cluckyness but I just keep on thinking about it hehehe.. But i musnt Im stopping at two for sure definately surely......

look at me I havnt even had this one yet! sigh

Hope you are all feeling well sammiejam my thoughts are with u hun

Ky

[barney]

just pooing in to see if there was any news from boc..but cant see any so ill be back later

belly rubs to you all.

[wishes]

Hi there girls

Well this is my first time in this thread, despite the fact that I am now 20 weeks pregnant!! I had every intention of moving over to this thread when we finally got our BFP, but for one reason or another, I just didn't. I lurk every now and then, so I thought it was probably about time that I actually joined in.

There are a lot that I don't know, but a few that I remember from LTTTC (Lise, LondonMiss, Mitf, Emerald Star), so I'm glad to see some familiar names.

I'm not even going to attempt personals as I will have to get my head around where everyone is up to first. So I will hopefully be able to contribute soon enough.

A bit about me - finally got our BFP in Nov 2009 after our 5th IVF cycle. I am now 20w2d pregnant today and I still can't believe it. We also had our scan yesterday and found out we'll be having a boy!!! DH and I are both very excited.

Think I might leave it at that for now, but will hopefully get to know everyone soon.

Wishes xoxo

[Mindhugs]

Hi BOC - my due date for the list is 25th October 2010.

Will pop back for personals later.

Thinking of you all and still feeling dreadful with the morning sickness (or all day sickness)

xxxxx

[wantbaby#2]

Welcome wishes!! Better late than never i say. Congrats on your baby boy news.x


Well everyone...i had my BIG scan today.Bub is healthy and average sized.The feet are 3cm long and bub was giving us the thumbs up before proceeding to suck its thumb...it was soooooooo adorable.My mum and DH were there and am so glad everything is looking great!!!

Anyhow....... I AM HAVING A LITTLE GIRL!!!!!! I am sooooo excited.I cant believe it! I thought Peanut was a boy...now i need a girl name.I only had a boys name chosen..LOL

[Emerald Star]

Hello Ladies,

Gee, i've missed out on alot...we are reloacating our business ( retail clothing store) and by the time i get home i have been to bugged to get on the computer...we had our scan on Monday and saw the heartbeat..it was amazing! now i have to move on to my OB..sad to be leaving all the nice ladies at the IVF clinic.

Mitf - thanks for thining about me....all is good so far. FX

Wishes - nice to see you in here....

Boc - My due date is estimated at October 26th, so you can update your list.

To all the other ladies..who are ready to meet their bundles soon..i wish you an easy birth!
To everyone else...hello!

[BOC]

Ladies!!!

Just popped in to update the list and to announce... drumroll please...


Little Cookie will be exiting via the sunroof on Friday 26th March!!!!!
..... ..... ..... .....

We are soooo excited and a little bit shell-shocked, it's gone from 4 weeks to 16 days overnight! I just wish DH was home to share the excitement!

Anyway hope you're all having a good week, catch you all soon!

[sammiejam]

WOW Boc! You caught up to me in one swoop lol!

Our babies will have the same birthday (all going to plan my end) How exciting!

[Emerald Star]

Boc - you made me laugh " Little Cookie will be exiting via the sunroof " .....Never heard that expression before and i think its fabulous!!!
Wishing you all the best for your birth.

[barney]

YAY BOC..GREAT NEWS HUNNY HOW EXCITING WOOHOO...

congrats wishes.

wantbaby woohoo on your little girl hun ..little girls are just lovely.

belly rubs to you all.

[wantbaby#2]

Smithy~ Thankyou! I secretly have always wanted a little girl but always thought i would have boys so it was a fantastic surprise.We are over the moon.peanut will be the 2nd girl in DH family's side.The first girl is almost 20 so it will be great news when she is born.(we are planning on keeping it a secret).

Regarding 3d/4d Ultra sounds,i thought this was interesting....
..... during my scan yesterday i asked i they did the 3d/4d scans and was informed the following:
The sonographer stated: 'those scans are highly frowned upon as there is not enough eveidence to prove they are safe.2d scans have been used for so long now and no reported side effects have been shown,wheras the 3d/4d scans are relatively new so there is no way of knowing of their safety.They only do them in very strict circumstances such as when they think that there may be an abnormality or defect.They are only for entertainment purposes and are not recommended for those reasons.
..... I thought it very interesting and decided against having one done.She said she could give us a 'quick' look,if we were really adamant,but she really disagreed with the idea.We didnt feel it was worth the risk.
I thought this was info that should be shared as i had previously had no idea that the scans can alter the growth/development of the fetus' cells.
I was very surprised about this.Just thought i would share xx

[sammiejam]

Thank you so much for the kind and supportive words ladies. I cant tell you how much it means to me

I feel so much better knowing that I am NOT the only one and that I am not losing the plot.

I did some research yesterday on what husbands go through at the end of a pregnancy. Aparently it is a very weird time for them. They are very in tune with the mothers emotions and start to mimick them ie, get very needy, want to be looked after themselves *sammie rolls eyes - TYPICAL * and this can play havoc on the mother. This is very common in couples that have been infertile prior to the preg. It even has a name, couvade syndrome. I think this is exactly what has been a main contributor to my depression. The man has been driving me nuts. Anyways, my sister called him last night and told him about what her DH did at the end of her pregnancies (he just totally lost it and was COMPLETELY USELESS) and my DH finally got a clue He asked me to write a list of things that I want him to remember every day and he would do them. I think my sisters DH getting on the phone and saying to him "Its going to get ugly. More ugly than you can imagine. Just do EVERYTHING she says and smile while you do it. And dont ask her if you can stop for a burger on the way to the hospital. Whatever you do, dont do that." ( LOL this nearly caused a divorce)

I feel so much better today. I think maybe yesterday was a bit of a turning point for me. You girls were a bit part of that so again - thank you all so very very much.

Oh and TMI but a some of the plug came away this morning... should I do anything or just wait?
Eeeeeek!

Hugs to all,

Sammie

[barney]

Smithy~ Thankyou! I secretly have always wanted a little girl but always thought i would have boys so it was a fantastic surprise.We are over the moon.peanut will be the 2nd girl in DH family's side.The first girl is almost 20 so it will be great news when she is born.(we are planning on keeping it a secret).

aww thats so nice hun,im very happy for you,im very sure your prinsess will be very spoilt.now you can buy some pink stuff let me tell you sweety there is some beautiful things out there for little girls heheheh