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I had my scan today - it was at a new place I've never been to before and they were so thorough and the sonographer told us everything as she did it. Normally they don't say much to us and just take the measurements. It looks like we are breaking the blue trend with a pink bundle on the way . So happy she's healthy and looked just perfect!
Sometimes I find it a bit tricky as DH's dad has voiced that he is waiting for a male grandchild (from us) quite often and another family member was rubbing it in that our second baby was another girl . I don't really want my children to feel devalued because of their gender.......but I know they don't treat them poorly in the long run. The last baby we lost (before my ectopic) was a little boy at 13 weeks pg just after I had food poisoning. And we didn't have this baby for a specific gender, but I guess I still feel sad about it sometimes. I'm more than happy for a healthy baby I think I'm just dreading others comments...........I hope that doesn't sound like I'm whinging too much.
Kelly D - its hard not knowing what will happen, I bet you are on tenderhooks, but praying for a safe delivery for both babies!!! Hopefully they will behave themselves and stay put until you're ready! My DD1 was breech, and they still gave me a c/s when I was almost fully dilated (she was just over 5 pounds). But I'm sure its a bit more complicated with twins.
Dreamrise - Thanks for the info!
Mindhugs - Glad you're enjoying the maternity bra, my dh still can't figure out how to unclip the back of the normal ones so I don't think he's every attempted these.
My computer has had a virus, so I haven't been able to get on here. Finally, I'm back. Have been reading the last few pages of the old thread and now can't remember who said what.
Aimee - congrat's on another pink bundle. That's awful that your family can say such hurtful things about your beautiful baby - hopefully it's just dumb comments that don't say anything about how much they will love her.
And Possums - Yay for a boy. I have to agree with um, was it grub? Boys are awesome - from my vast experience of one baby. I don't think I would even know what to do with a little girl. Congratulations.
Grub - nice work on the GD test!
On the food and food poisoning thing - I am also pretty over-cautious. I just think it took too long to get here to risk it. Not that people who didn't do ivf can afford to take the risk, but I am just so aware of how those tiny risks can become a reality. You know, a small percent of women have fertility problems (I'm one of them), a small percent are unexplained (me!), a small percent of pregnancies end in mc (me again) so if even just a small chance is there of getting listeria from eating something, then I bet it'll be me who gets it. Chocolate doesn't have listeria though, so I woof it down.
Kelly - jeez - a possible VB when you hadn't even though about it before! It's probably better than stressing about it for months like most women though. Breath ALL the way in and ALL the way out - might sound simple now, but it's not. Can't wait to hear your lovely, smooth, calm birth story. Good luck
Sorry - I am rambling so much! Just found out that I actually do have private hospital cover and so could really have a private OB if I want. Do you reckon it's too late? Or even worth it? I don't know. I hate decisions.
Thanks for the advice on placentas (was it you Possums??). I have read that it takes longer to feel them moving, so am just waiting calmly (sure). I went to the doc today, for something totally benign and pointless just so she might put the heart beat thingy on me, but she didn't. I was too embarassed to ask. God I'm a d**kh**d.
oh kaybee never be embarrassed to ask! i learnt that this pregnancy. I was 10w5d when i had to go to a gp in my hometown who i'd never seen before to get a referral for the doc here in darwin (we moved when i was 8 to 14 weeks preg ugh what a hassel getting scans done etc)... anyhoo, I asked on the off chance if he had a doppler as i was feeling anxious etc... He went one better and gave me a sonogram. Not the best quality but we coudl see the bub and the heartbeat and it just made my day. He later said that he doesn't get asked much cos - bieng a country town - there aren't alot of ivf mums coming through but seeing as I was an old pro with scans etc he was happy to show me in other words, if more women asked, he'd give them one too!
on the private v public, personally for our 2nd i was happy to go public when living in Newcastle cos the big hospy there has a very good rep. Differnet matter here but fortunately i got inot the birth centre which sends us home about 4 hrs post birth. I just feel as this is my 2nd i'm probably going to want to be home with my darling lovely little Ashton and husband, rather than seperated from them. BUT i went private all the way for DS and it was great. DH could stay the whole time and we got lots of help... we didn't even know how to change a nappy lol
aimee - huge congrats on a little girl!!!!!! that's so wonderful and tell FIl to "shud upa ya face" lol. Sorry but I would not respond well if he said that to me so i think you've done well not to give him teh forks and a wtf. that probably doesn't help, but i'm sure once bub is here he'll adore her. all talk iykwim.
kelly - that is exciting that you may get a VB. I know you weren't mentally ready for that and i can highly recommend you read Juju Sundin's Birth Skills book, I found it helped me put in the right frame of mind and find that focus you need. Did you have a CS with Tara? i can't remember. I have heard of women doing a VB with one twin and CS with the other... not sure where tho but i wasn't surprised when i read your post. It must be getting a bit scary and a bit exciting for you now! I'm so glad you can stay in ballarat like you want tho! Sounds like you really have to give up any expectations and go with the flow. Anyhoo, i'm thinking of you!
Hope all our girls are doing well and bubs are doing great
Aimee: Congrats on another pink bundle. I would have loved to have a houseful of little girls as I just love my little girl to bits.
Grub: Yay for your good GD results...mmmmm more chocolate.....
32 weeks today so we are now all clear for staying in Ballarat, I can tell you that is one weight off my mind so now just looking forward to my scan on Thursday as I think this will give me a much better idea of where things are at in the baby positioning dept. Oh, had a fantastic child free morning yesterday when I caught up with some mum's from our local Multiple Birth Association. Was just supposed to be morning tea at 10.30am but we all didn't leave until almost 2.30pm. I think that this group in going to be fantastic for us as they really like to include the other siblings as well.
Apart from that I'm just trundling along, my belly is now getting overstretched and I now have stretch marks around and under my belly button and my tummy is so itchy from it and it feels like I have a basketball between my legs which makes walking and sitting a very classy affair but on the home stretch now.... how much long will it be, we are thinking no more than 4 weeks to go.
Hi Aimee, Congrats on having a little girl. I find it quite ironic that a few women I know would love a boy and they have found out they are having a girl (or have just had a girl) and here I am I really, really, really want a girl and I feel 80% sure it is going to be a boy!!!! I have my scan in 9 days and I'm feeling really anxious. At the moment I can still hold out hope that I am wrong and it will be a girl but once I have that scan there will probably be no doubt (not that I want any doubt mind you).
When I was talking to a long time friend about finding out the gender she said "Oh, so you want to know?" I told her I NEED to know, becaue if it is a boy (as I fear) I will need that time to get my head around it and try to mentally prepare for it. If they can't tell the gender at this scan I will be trying to organise another one (even if I have to pay privately) because I really do need the time to prepare myself emotionally.
When I had my daughter I was a little worried about having a boy but hadn't had experience with boys so wasn't as worried as I am now. My ex had a baby boy and he was such a brat. I think this has turned me off boys even more. Even by 1 year old he showed a real aggressive streak. She also had a nephew who used to visit us regularly and he was a horror and I now look after 3 girls and 1 boy and the little boy (who is 5) isn't really aggressive or anything like that but he can be nasty to his sisters and I just struggle with him a bit (thank god I only have 5 days left with them now as this past week the little girls who are normally really well behaved have started to play up a bit - yesterday I had to give one of them time out 3 times and normally I'll be lucky to do it once a week).
Kelly, glad to hear things seem to be going well and your meeting with the multiple births association was so enjoyable.
AFM: finished the thrush medication but it is still slightly tingly (like how it started) so not sure whether I should be seeing the Dr about taking more or just wait and see. Coldsore hasn't come up yet - I've stopped eating chocolate as chemist said it makes it worse... so maybe that is helping?
OK - which one of you lovely ladies recommended stringy cheese to me a while back? I'M ADDICTED!!! The other day I went grocery shopping and had to keep pulling over onto the side of the road to open another one. It was crazy. Or perhaps the baby was telling me it needed some calcium
lol MH! mine addiction is strawberry flavoured milk... and chocolate.
went and bought a new spanking breast feeding chair. Hardly Normal had 20% off or soemthing like that so i got a $500 gliding recliner for $400. It's not going to last 10 years but hopefully will do the bf job with number 2 and also come in handy as an extra seat in the lounge room.
with DS i used an old office chair we picked up about 5th hand... it is grotty, but i hide it under sheets or blankets and when feeding DS had to use about 10 pillows to get comfy. So i hope this chair is better!! can't be worse eh! It's not a 'bf chair' as marketed in the baby shops, but pretty much the same and similar price range.
hope that thrush has cleared fully Lori! I'm sure you'll just fall in love as easily with a little boy as girl. But i know what you mean, DH and I have sooo convinced ourselves we're having a little girl that I am worried DH may be disappointed if it is a little boy instead... and i'll certainly be shocked and need time to compute.
kelly -that sounds so lovely about your mutiples group, it's so nice when you can find somehwere you fit in. I think i'll join one of those new parent courses through community health here cos that's how my last mum's group was formed... and we are all still in touch! most have gone back to work but we've created our own secret fb group so we can chat, share pics and offer/receive advice
I'm just so glad you've made it this far! I know you feel soooo uncomfy but i suppose every extra day inside you is one less day they have to spend in hospital afterwards! OMG i remember itchy skin with DS but i think i'm sufficient stretched from my first pregnancy that i haven't had it this time. I remember I scratched myself to bleeding on my legs several times, just absentmindedly!
anyone remember murraycod? tried to send a pm but inbox full. wondered how she was getting on. how are you all....theres' a lot happening on here!! yeh for a busy thread, love to all bellies and bubs xx
elocin: yeah i'm with you for stalking the birth announcements. lol. hope everything is going well for you, when is your next scan ?. hope you're feeling o.k. :-)
kelly: wow yeah some big boys in there, good luck for it all, hope it goes well. fingers crossed. we cant wait to hear the birth announcement. lots of good luck for it all. x x
kass: how are you going ?, hope all is well. good luck to you and thanks for your support. x x
possums: great you're having a good time with hubby. as for the ear thing, i have hot ears ?. like they are heaps warmer than the rest of my body ?. lol. who knows whats happening.
what a suprise to come back and find me in here ! it's so exciting. 5 weeks tomorrow. good luck to you
hi to everyone i forgot . will catch up with everyone soon.
AFM: well i am 5 weeks tomorrow, woohoo and 12 days til scan...woohooo
not like i'm counting down, lol
i have been feeling a bit emotional and got a bit cranky with DH today.
have had some twinges in my tummy and still a bit bloated.
i am going to make myself some maternity skirts for work and also one for my sis who is 16 weeks preggers. we are so excited to be pregnant together
i got myself some scarves and a jacket for mothers day as the kids will prob do something at school
DH got me some chocs
which by the way i am NOT feeling like choc for the first time ever, typical.
LOL
Hi ladies i had my first midwifes apppointment today was long but was so worth it to hear bubs heart beat again, i could never get sick of hearing that! Have any of you hired a dobler machine? im thinking about getting one?
I also booked in me antenatal classes which start in july-august for 5 weeks one night a week but once i got off the phone i realised i will only be about 26 weeks preg when they start, is that too early to do them? or does it not matter.
oh that's a complete rip off jbm!!! the chocolate thing i mean! lol.
kelly- wowee girlfirend! you are awesome! those boys are going to be ready to go home before you! fingers crossed they come by their own accord before weds.... but i get the feeling they are rather comfortable in there lol.
heya kaybee!!!
possums how you trundling? got your card re that book. thank you!
ugh, feel very taxed today. rang the mw about some pain i'm getting in the middle front of my belly, between boobs and bellybutton. think it's muscular but with the terrible groin twinges, swollen feet and gravity pulling on my belly, i just feel uuuggghhh. doesn't help DS was a toad with his day sleep today and he woke up on a foul mood!
BDT - Awesome news. Got your text and will respond
Possums - life is one big holiday!!! La la la la la la. Hope you are feeling ok with that ringing in your ears. Enjoy every minute of it (the holiday that is).
Elocin - yay another newbie!!! Congrats. Looking forward to following your journey too!!!
Kelly D - well it's about time girlfriend! You do have some big boys in there. Gosh I bet Wed can't come quick enough for you. We will all be WAITING to hear, so don't keep us in suspense too long............Woohoo!
Grub - I keep forgetting I'm preggers and getting off the couch and out of bed using my tummy muscles, and them whoops, I pull a muscle.
OneDay - I don't think that's too early at all for antenatal. Go for it! I don't get to do it as I'm having a CS.
Hi Kass & Kaybee!
AFM - is everyone feeling UGH, or is it just me? Gosh, I've been so depressed this week. Could be the weather, could be our lack of finances - I'm not sure! I even had a little sook the other day, which I'm blaming on the hormones. Hoping it will pass soon. Nappies are on sale this week! Bought a box of "Newborns" for $33, and we also FINALLY chose and bought a pram for huge discount at Pram Warehouse!!! So have kicked some goals this week. Although if you add the very steep $2,000 Obstetrician Management Fee bill I also paid this week it probably discounts all those savings
oneday - we did our classes from 26 weeks cos DH was going away. we were a few weeks behind the other couples but it really didn't make any difference as it's mainly for your info. so enjoy!!!
yeah MH i think it's just getting over it all!
taking my nanna (who is visiting with us this week) and DS for a mother's day morning tea so best go and sort child out etc. oxo
Kelly, good luck for Wednesday. I hope all goes well and will also be joining the girls in stalking BB to find out your news as soon as possible.
I have a shocking cold at the moment and saw my GP yesterday (told her about the pains under the rib etc and she said it could still be my gall bladder - inflammed rather than actual gall stones and that wouldn't be obvious on an ultrasound so she said if the pains continue she will organise more tests). Anyway due to the pregnancy I was told that I can't take any over the counter cold-flu medication so just have to ride it out and hope it doesn't drag on too long.
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hope all are well ox
. I don't really want my children to feel devalued because of their gender.......but I know they don't treat them poorly in the long run. The last baby we lost (before my ectopic) was a little boy at 13 weeks pg just after I had food poisoning. And we didn't have this baby for a specific gender, but I guess I still feel sad about it sometimes. I'm more than happy for a healthy baby I think I'm just dreading others comments...........I hope that doesn't sound like I'm whinging too much.
32 weeks today so we are now all clear for staying in Ballarat, I can tell you that is one weight off my mind so now just looking forward to my scan on Thursday as I think this will give me a much better idea of where things are at in the baby positioning dept. Oh, had a fantastic child free morning yesterday when I caught up with some mum's from our local Multiple Birth Association. Was just supposed to be morning tea at 10.30am but we all didn't leave until almost 2.30pm. I think that this group in going to be fantastic for us as they really like to include the other siblings as well.
and my tummy is so itchy from it and it feels like I have a basketball between my legs which makes walking and sitting a very classy affair but on the home stretch now.... how much long will it be, we are thinking no more than 4 weeks to go.
I wonder if 7am Wednesday is too early to start stalking the BA thread?
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