Pregnancy after LT TTC #17

[grub17]

lol MH! mine addiction is strawberry flavoured milk... and chocolate.

went and bought a new spanking breast feeding chair. Hardly Normal had 20% off or soemthing like that so i got a $500 gliding recliner for $400. It's not going to last 10 years but hopefully will do the bf job with number 2 and also come in handy as an extra seat in the lounge room.

with DS i used an old office chair we picked up about 5th hand... it is grotty, but i hide it under sheets or blankets and when feeding DS had to use about 10 pillows to get comfy. So i hope this chair is better!! can't be worse eh! It's not a 'bf chair' as marketed in the baby shops, but pretty much the same and similar price range.

hope that thrush has cleared fully Lori! I'm sure you'll just fall in love as easily with a little boy as girl. But i know what you mean, DH and I have sooo convinced ourselves we're having a little girl that I am worried DH may be disappointed if it is a little boy instead... and i'll certainly be shocked and need time to compute.

kelly -that sounds so lovely about your mutiples group, it's so nice when you can find somehwere you fit in. I think i'll join one of those new parent courses through community health here cos that's how my last mum's group was formed... and we are all still in touch! most have gone back to work but we've created our own secret fb group so we can chat, share pics and offer/receive advice

I'm just so glad you've made it this far! I know you feel soooo uncomfy but i suppose every extra day inside you is one less day they have to spend in hospital afterwards! OMG i remember itchy skin with DS but i think i'm sufficient stretched from my first pregnancy that i haven't had it this time. I remember I scratched myself to bleeding on my legs several times, just absentmindedly!



hope you are all having a great weekend!
oxox

[airline]

anyone remember murraycod? tried to send a pm but inbox full. wondered how she was getting on. how are you all....theres' a lot happening on here!! yeh for a busy thread, love to all bellies and bubs xx

[oneday86]

Hi Ladies just quickly popping in to read everyones posts. Iv got my 12 weeks scan tomorrow im so excited but so nervous too, i dont know why but i always doubt my self but everything is going to be just fine and im wondering if just maybe they might be able to see what sex it is?? prob not i know but two girls at work found out at this scan (both boys) so im guessing if its a girl they def wont say. I went to these awesome markets in sydney with my sister yesterday it was all home made baby and childrens clothes, shoes, toys etc it was all just beautiful so when i find out what im having im going back down to go crazy!! lol

[grub17]

good luck oneday!!!! thinking of you tomoz love!!!

they can't tell the sex til 16 weeks i think love so don't be disappointed if they say it's too early.!!! and remember bub might do what ours did... and not show!!! lol.

sorry airline i don't know murraycod. was she on this thread??? oxo

[Possums]

kelly- what a relief, so great you have made it this far, been thinking of you. You must be very uncomfortable now

aimee- great news on your scan and congrats

lori and aimee- just a word from me on the gender topic. i can relate to much of what you both say. Basically I know people in my family were waiting for a baby girl...and I personally have no experirence with boys, and being an only child and very close to mum, think I had subconconsciously always imagined myself with, and dearly wanted, a girl of my own.
That's why i wanted to make sure I knew the gender, so that I would have time to be mentally prepared and to bond more with our little one, whether they be a boy or girl! As it is a boy, I am very glad we did find out and already he feels more real to me now and DH and I think we have found a name we both like. It's also given me a chance to accept that fact that this baby is not a girl and that I might never have a girl. There is a sadness for me in that fact, which is entirely separate to the excitement and happiness I feel about being pregnant and having a healthy baby, boy or girl, if that makes sense. I think it's a hard subject to talk about though, because a lot of people will judge, without understanding.

oneday- good luck with your scan!

kaybee- hi...on the public v private thing, i would go private in a flash if i could. It's not offered in port mac, with the way our healthsystem is set up. the private obs can only see us until 12 weeks, then they rotate at the public clinic. I am not happy with the public clinic so far for a few reasons. There is also no consistency and I have a high risk pregnancy and would MUCH rather be seeing my own Ob each time.

grub- great about the GD test! and your smart shopping...now go enjoy some choc!

afm- all going well. As i mentioned above to lori and aimee, things are more real now we know it's a boy and I am so glad we found out and I have time to adjust etc (that it isn't the girl I have so long imagined I would have). We've even found a name we both like (amazing!lol)...and bought a few little outfits, so much fun. And now I can chat to him more and embrace him in my heart ...we've even hung one of the cutest outfits on the nursery door, so it feels real and we think of him already whenever we walk in there.

I haven't been feeling too well lately. I seem to have developed an ULTRA sensitive digestive system. If I eat anything even remotely spicey...or anything beyond totally plain basically, I feel very sick, get cold shivers, bad stomach pains. And that can last for three days (during which time i have to eat plain rice etc) until it settles again.

I also still can hear my heart pounding through my ears/in my head. It can be pretty tough to sleep at night because of that. It's also made some of my exercise a bit more challenging.
I very much wish I had the option of private care here and am not really satisfied with the public clinic. Am also tempted to drive an hour away so I can see a private Ob. But like you kaybee, I wonder if it's just too late now?

But, despite that, I am still very very happy to be pregnant and on the way to holding our much longed for baby.

[dreamrise659]

lori and aimee- just a word from me on the gender topic. i can relate to much of what you both say. Basically I know people in my family were waiting for a baby girl...and I personally have no experirence with boys, and being an only child and very close to mum, think I had subconconsciously always imagined myself with, and dearly wanted, a girl of my own.
That's why i wanted to make sure I knew the gender, so that I would have time to be mentally prepared and to bond more with our little one, whether they be a boy or girl! As it is a boy, I am very glad we did find out and already he feels more real to me now and DH and I think we have found a name we both like. It's also given me a chance to accept that fact that this baby is not a girl and that I might never have a girl. There is a sadness for me in that fact, which is entirely separate to the excitement and happiness I feel about being pregnant and having a healthy baby, boy or girl, if that makes sense. I think it's a hard subject to talk about though, because a lot of people will judge, without understanding.

Hi Possums,

Thanks for your understanding. I know so long as it's healthy that is the most important thing but I have been made aware of how important gender really is. Even when you try to raise a child without gender stereotypes (like my ex and I did with her son) they still seem to just automatically develop boy or girl traits (like he always loved toy cars even though she had all sort of toys for him including dolls etc and he had a natural aggression which I haven't seen in girls - from day 1 he would screw his face up when he screamed and seemed so angry at the world!). Friends tell me that my child will be different because I will raise it differently (I never felt I had much of a say in what happened with my ex's son and she did alot of things with him - like letting him get away with bad behaviour, that I didn't agree with and never let my daughter get away with when she was his age). But I wonder how much is how they are raised and how much is just inbuilt... because he just seemed to be that way from the moment he was born. That is what scares me being on my own.

I can understand you wishing you had a girl since you were so close to your mum (like my daughter and I by the sounds of things). I'm really glad she is a girl and atleast I've had the experience of a close parenting relationship with her... probably even more so since I was younger when I had her and on my own from day 1 so in some ways she is like a friend rather than a child. we can talk about most things and plan our holidays together etc, make decisions about where to live etc. In some ways she's probably had more adult experiences (like going overseas etc) but I've also ensured she is encouraged to still be a kid (only got her own computer last year and still doens't have any electronic games machines, doesn't wear makeup etc... still very much enjoying her childhood and building treehouses etc). One of my friends has a daughter the same age (was also a single mum when she was born but now has a partner) and she encourages her daughter to dye her hair and get it cut spikey and wear makeup, have a belly button ring, wear "boob tubes", "****ty" short skirts and G-string undies etc and she's already had several "boyfriends". It means our 2 girls now seem like there is atleast 4 years age difference between them (where really there is only 1 month).

I think I've done a pretty good job of raising my daughter. I'm proud of who she is becoming and I guess that's why I'd love another girl... because I'm confident I could do a good job again, and not so confident about a boy.

Maybe you will have an easier journey concieving a 2nd child (if you decide to go down that path again) and maybe you will end up with your little girl?

It's a pity you can't get private care where you are. I can here but can't afford it. I appreciated having a private OB when I had my daughter as I liked the consistency - especially when I was adjusting to the idea of raising a child as a single mum. He was always so supportive and non-judgemental (unlike many others I encountered in medical circles who assumed as a young single mum I was stupid and had no future). I think being older now and because I don't have any major health issues going private is just a cost I can't justify. However if I had private health cover and it was included I would definately be going private.

Lori
DD -14
Bub due 28th Aug.

[Mindhugs]

Wow - you ladies have put a completely different spin on the gender thing that I had never considered. I have so many girls around me, sisters, nieces etc so it was expected by my family that I would be carrying a girl. I have always wanted a brother and so actually really wanted a boy. However I do not relate to boys at all. Although having a girl would have been just as good after all that we have been through. But I can see your perspective here, and it had never occured to me that it might feel like that for some people. Thanks for sharing. I don't judge, just more intrigued with the "how's" and "why's". I get it, I really do.

As you all know I'm having a boy. And am ecstatic, yet so scared. How on earth do you raise a boy when all you know is girls??? There were collective sighs around my family when I announced "a boy"! (as in - nevermind type of sighs). Yet I couldn't be happier.

Private care is good - but the costs are not!!! Waiting for our $2,000 "OB management fee" bill to come through the post. Which Medicare re-imburse a max of $200. Aaaargh!

OK - we need some happier topics here people.

I'll start....................is anyone else experiencing itchy nipples? Seems bizarre, but that's what I'm getting. DH keeps offering to scratch them, which I think is an excuse to continue to get closer to my new "bigger" boobies!!!