thanks for understanding ladies about being MIA - great to see everyone is doing really well.
Thanks also for the positive reassurance about the low placenta :-)
Great to hear the news Me+ ~ CONGRATULATIONS!!
Enjoy the cuddles with you new little fella - love the name! My husband is Samual and I really love it as a middle name
Tei ~ thanks and YAY for the 2nd Tri!
AFM ~ think I felt my first significant movement yesterday
hi girls,
I'm having trouble... something came up in another thread, and it was made clear I really can't complain considering...but it just isn't sitting well with me...and I know I am lucky, and I'm not forgetting that and i'm not taking it for granteed.. but its playing on my mind and it is bothering me.
Its to do with getting 2 put in but having only 1 child. and yes, i feel its 'only' even though I know (my brain) knows one is amazing, my heart feels like its mourning the 2nd one...even though really, there wasn't really a 2nd child to mourn...just an embryo...
Ive bought it up before, and at the time was before we knew if they were both there or not, and eveyone said, you will forget and not even think about it.. but i do... I often imagine what would have been if there were 2... and often when i am imagining what type of life I want Spock to have, picturing him/her growing up, there is always that nagging feeling and sometimes a 2nd child pops into view and becomes part of it.
I do appreciate Spock, and love him/her so very much, and know i'm extrememly lucky. but i just cant let this go...
(i also didn't know where to post this, so thought here might be easier, as everyone here is preg... the other thread was full of TTC'ers who didn't appreciate my whinging about having 1 child..)
I also dont mean to offend anyone...this is just my personal battle at the moment i need to get through, and have decided I need some help with it rather than keeping it all to myself.
Hi ladies just popping in to say hi and i miss you all! Congtrats on the recent births and all the best to the ladies still awaiting their due date! Can you believe my girl is just about 7 weeks old! i can't believe how fast the time has gone. Things are going well, still not really in a routine but Ellie is now sleeping in her cot which im very happy about (loved the cuddles but don't want her to get used to that habit) she has started to smile a bit and make noises and really she is just wonderful. The days fly now that im a mum but i am loving it and i feel very blessed to have her in our lives. All the best ladies will pop in again soon xxx
Teirae : I completely understand, and when I was ltttc, I couldn't understand why anyone would complain about anything when they finally got a bfp. However now I understand, what my FS/OB told me is that we loose a sense of being in control when we get pregnant, it's a control you have in ttc, you decide if there is another cycle, you decide how many to transfer, you have these immense highs and lows, then all of a sudden, it works, and you can't control anything, the nausea, the vomiting, all of the fantasy goes out the door, and we are left with all these RAGING hormones that just ravage your thoughts and fears,a lot of which as a ltt er you never actually realeased. He said it is very common for women to feel like this after ivf, you have a lot of unresolved emotion
What he did say is that he has no doubt that with the drive, determination and persistence I had to get to hs place, I will be an amazing mum, who will cope just fine
We are probably on the other end of each others spectrums, and neither is wrong or right,we can hopefully support each other until hopefully these hormones and or thoughts dissipate x
Last edited by Bengal; January 1st, 2012 at 03:06 PM.
teirae : i felt like this in the beginning but as the preg has progressed i actually dont even think about it anymore. we had 2 put in and only got one baby... i also have had another 6 put in and got all BFN... sending you a hug . x o x o
yogi: yes they re all training for the circus lol. i see whole tummy movements now and sometimes wonder ?.... is it a foot or arm or what ??? lol. best of luck to you. x o
me him bub: so glad all is well and i loved being your PIG... lol..... best of luck to you and your baby. x o x o
AFM: well i am getting close now..... yes i am pregnant.... reminder to myself..... lol
i have been getting lots of pains and sometimes they are hurting. nothing regular but i am worried i wont know when i am in labour or if it is more braxton hicks ????
you think i'd know being baby number 4 ????????????? he he he
but all mine were quick and the 2nd one i thought were just BH then gave birth while DH parked the car at the hospital !!! and DH delivered DS 3 at hospital but midwife said i WASN"T in labour ?!!!?????
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and all the best to the ladies still awaiting their due date! Can you believe my girl is just about 7 weeks old! i can't believe how fast the time has gone. Things are going well, still not really in a routine but Ellie is now sleeping in her cot which im very happy about (loved the cuddles but don't want her to get used to that habit) she has started to smile a bit and make noises and really she is just wonderful. The days fly now that im a mum but i am loving it and i feel very blessed to have her in our lives. All the best ladies will pop in again soon xxx
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