Pholi I hope everything is progressing well inside. Its hard to analyses HCG levels after 5-6weeks. They seem much more predictable in that first week you find out your pregnant and then the variation of normal just gets bigger and bigger.
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Pholi I hope everything is progressing well inside. Its hard to analyses HCG levels after 5-6weeks. They seem much more predictable in that first week you find out your pregnant and then the variation of normal just gets bigger and bigger.
Thanks, Mildez. I was starting to feel so confident and safe... And all of sudden I feel like I might lose my baby . That I shouldn't book in with the Obs yet because I not even be pregnant by then. That every person I tell had to be someone I'm happy to tell the bad news too as well.
If you don't mind sharing what was your Hcg?
How are you going, Pholi?
I had my first major freak out yesterday and couldn't go to work today.
How do ppl manage to stay happy and positive in this situation? We're supposed to be happy but all I feel is scared. I got so used to AF coming every 25 days and all the emotions and disappointment that goes along with it that now I don't know how to deal with this BFP. Everyone around me is so happy and looking to the future, have I thought of names, where will I give birth, when will I finish work, what games do I want at the baby shower?? I feel like a deer in the headlights tbh.
I've moved my scan forward to the 27th and I don't know what I'll do if there's nothing there. I keep checking for blood every time I go to the toilet. How do you get through it? :(
Yeah, same. We're keeping it pretty quiet for now, just a few people know, and they know that I'm not counting my chickens (so to speak) yet. I say something like 'So far, so good. But we're not out of the woods yet.'
It's so stressful, so much pressure to just grow a baby, and we have no control at all over the outcome! I'll feel a lot better (I think!) once we get a scan that shows appropriate development, a heartbeat and so on.
The friends we've been holidaying with this week have respectfully said nothing despite overhearing phone calls (in the car) about my progesterone levels, and actually collecting my pessaries for me from the compounding pharmacist, and noticing that I was on soft drink all night at a classy food and wine degustation... They must know. :/
It sounds like your friends want to give you the opportunity to tell them yourself, when/if you are ready. How long til your scan? I moved mine forward to this Friday. I'm hoping it's not too early to see anything.
We don't get back to Perth til March 7th, and my scan is booked for the following Wednesday. So it's still 2 1/2 weeks away. I have one more blood test this Tuesday, then nothing til the scan.
How many weeks/days will you be by Friday?
Going by the date my doctor is using I'll be 6+4.
I thought 6 weeks was about the stage where they definitely see a heart beat if it's there? I suppose if you're a few days out, though... Gosh, how did our mothers and grandmothers cope?!
I thought 6 weeks was about the stage where they definitely see a heart beat if it's there? I suppose if you're a few days out, though... Gosh, how did our mothers and grandmothers cope?!
Pholi that's really nice of your friends to not ask questions. Its a long wait until your scan but think when you have it your baby will actually looks like a baby. At 9weeks they really start to take a more human like appearance.
Spoons I was always very anxious especially with my last. I'd had 5 losses before him, my HCG I thought was low (compared to my successful pregnancy before him), I had no MS and a lot of pain. I'd had an ectopic before and lost my tube and was in agony. It turned out I had 3 ovarian cysts the largest measuring 11cm but combined they got to 21cm across at their largest. They were going to operate as soon as I hit the 2nd trimester. They were just something else to worry about but at my 12week scan they had shrunk by 3cm so I didn't end up needing the surgery. I tried to be happy I was pregnancy today and tell myself that that's all I wanted and not look too much into the future but take each day at a time. Easier said then done but you do eventually get to the end and once they are born worry about something else like SIDS.
Hi ladies [spoons and pholi xo]
I am hoping to join this thread. Had my bdp bt on 25feb15, now 14dp5dt. This is my 7th cycle of ivf, after conceiving my ds from a fet (2nd round) in nov 2012.
Still doing poas to keep me positive through the next 8weeks until 12weeks. Have my 7 week scan booked for 18 Mar. Bubs sue date - 03 Nov 15 ( but I think I will have to have a csect as I did with ds).
Hello hopeful mum and congrats! Would you be about 4-5 weeks? Are you having any further blood tests? I bet you're on the count down til 18th March! I know I was.
I had my scan on Friday at 6w4d and we saw the heartbeat flickering away. I've been very tired and a bit nauseous, sore boobs too.
Hi spoons. Yes I'm 5weeks on Tuesday coming. I have bt's for 4th and 11th Mar. Going to be doing poas the day before just to keep me sane.
Wonderful to see that your scan went well and that you got to see bubs' heartbeat:-) It's a beautiful thing to see. Fx that the rest of your pregnancy goes well.
Pholi, good luck for your wed week scan. Fx that it all goes well and that you see your little ones' heartbeat too :-)
Spoons, Pholi and Hopeful Mum, yay!!!!! So glad to see you guys in here. I have been following the other thread the entire time. Congratulations and wishing you all the very best for uneventful healthy pregnancies. It can seem such a long haul at this point, with all the anxiety/symptoms or lack of and it is just really really tough. One breath at a time, I sometimes got down to. Like it was one day, then one minute, then just this one moment. Just hope this time just zips by for you all, and/or you enjoy every minute.
Mildez, I have been following all your posts too, here and in the other thread. How's your little boy going? It sounds like you have a really wonderful connection. I am so glad for you.
AFM, I am 37 weeks on Friday and I will get the cervical stitch out next week. We will wait for labour to start, and then if it hasn't started, I can wait til 41 weeks and either be induced or just opt for C-section. My OB is very kind and supportive and has said I can opt for C-section at any time really (I mean, after 38 weeks or so). I have had anxiety and ante-natal depression symptoms coming and going, including CP (chronic pain) and it has been so bad at points that I have asked my psych about starting medication (though TBH I never found an AD (or a pain killer) that really worked for me, especially since I have a family background of bipolar so for my brain, I need a mood stabilizer as well and these are not great for preg/BF). There have been a lot of stressors including my best friend being hospitalized for a kind of psychotic/manic break (and she has MS and is newly pregnant which is a really big deal bc she had to go off her drugs to become pregnant and this is dangerous for MS). Anyway, a lot of fear issues are being raised (I was in the mother-baby unit with my daughter). Sorry, this has turned into a large purge. I am seeing a lovely psychologist for mindfulness/CBT therapy and my peri-natal psych and my lovely OB. So I am well looked after. But those tough days are hard! Very hard. I sometimes withdraw and cannot post or I can't sit and type because too sore.
Wishing everyone some peace and calm during this time, and more excitement down the track at delivery.
lots of love,
WW
x
How wonderful to hear from you, worrywart. You've had such a rough time and you're now on the home stretch. I wish you all the best for the next few weeks xx
Spoons how are you going?
Pholi how did your scan go??? I so hope that it went well.
I'm currently going through a scare. My hcg level has decreased since my last test. Having another one tomorrow. I don't know what my dr is going to suggest if it continues to decrease. I want to ask for a scan / ultra sound, but will wait for results.
I know that there is nothing that I can do. What will be will be, but I'm feeling heartbroken already that my bub is dying :'(
I'm sorry you're going through this, hopeful mum. After everything you've been through to fall pregnant and now this :( I really hope things improve for you. How far along are you now?
Big hugs hopeful mum xoxo just awful I remember going through countless times all this worry. The only way to get through is in the moment day by day and let out your emotions xXxX
Goodluck spoons, hang in there. I hope u get a great scan result xox
Goodluck worrywort! Very exciting :-) enjoy it all xox
How's your beautiful boy mildez ?
My news is I delivered a healthy baby Girl on February 24th at 4:04am <3:-)<3, named Kiara weighing 8lbs, 6. And a long 51cms! She's got the longest legs!
A lot of fuzzy medium blonde hair that sticks up too :-D so cute!
Love her to peices! All yrs of the losses and heartbreak and awful worring during preg was worth it.
Oh and can you believe this? When the nurses checked out her placenta after birth it was HEART SHAPED!?!?! ... My hubby piped up because she was made with love :-) hee hee ...
Keep going girls, day by day is all you can do.
Congratulations Sarah. Such a long awaited blessing. I love her name. Enjoy every precious moment, it goes by so very fast.
Congrats Sarah! You give me hope :)
Thank you so much Vic and spoons :-)
Just keep riding the wave for as long as possible spoons and when you think you're going to give up push yourself a lil further! It's the only way it happend for us in the end, A LOT of persistence!
Everyone has their own boundaries but I found I had to push through mine.
Big hugs and tons of baby dust *******
Thank you sarah. Enjoy your little one :)
Hopeful mum, how are you today?
Hi ladies. Well my hcg has decreased to 1800, from 1900 yesterday.
Ivf nurses were unable to contact fs after 4:20pm so decided that I should do another bt on Monday. I was able to change my fs ultrasound appt from wed arvo to mon arvo. Once I started getting emotional about my hcg lowering, she was wonderful and found a spot for me at 3pm. He has surgery booked out until lunch time and I know he is really busy.
So Mon i will find out one way or another if I still have a bub growing inside. The nurse had mentioned that maybe it is due to one of my two transferred embryos not continuing. I am so praying that this is the case.
I will let you know how it goes, good or bad. For now I am going to focus on positive thoughts about there still being a bub growing :-)
Positive thoughts for all you wonderful ladies in your continuing pregnancies. Each day is precious xo.
Good luck for your scan on Monday. I'll be thinking of you. I hope you have enough distractions and the weekend goes quickly for you xx
Good luck
Sarah, many congratulations on your little girl!
Hopeful mum, it's very scary. I really hope your scan on Monday is good news.
My scan was bad news. The embryo had stopped developing around 6 weeks (I should have been 9 1/2. It probably never had a heartbeat.
I had a D&C yesterday. The remains will be tested for chromosomal disorders. I will have BTs to track my hormones and see my FS in a month or so for results and to make a plan.
I am very sad.
I'm also really ****ed off that I got that far and have to go right back to the beginning in terms of IVF, as we have no embryos left. And I'm ****ed off that had I know this 3 weeks ago I could have at least enjoyed a drink and eaten a salad on my holiday .
But mostly sad.
And DP has already initiated the 'we can't afford this forever, it's taking a toll on the family, I'm under a lot of stress as the money earner ' conversation.
Oh Pholi, I'm so sorry :(
It sucks. I totally get the feeling of having to go back to the beginning. In some ways it feels like it's starting all over again. I tried to comfort myself by saying at least I GOT pregnant this time. Be kind to yourself and feel as sad as you need to. Tell hubby that you're too sad to talk about that right now. But you promise you will discuss it with him when your grief isn't so raw.
Xoxo
We have to deal with it now because of other financial consideration (moving house, etc) which are coming up soon and have deadlines for decisions next week.
So I just have to bite the bullet and talk about it regardless.
I'm so sorry, Pholi. I wish you all the best for these tough decisions xx
Pholi I am so sorry to read your news :( I don't really know what to say except I hope your future has another baby in store for you.
Hopeful mum I hope you have some news now and its good news. HCG levels taper off at a certain gestation. I hope that is all it is.
Sarah4Kurt I can't tell you how happy I am to read your brilliant news. I bet she is just beautiful. I hope everything went well with the birth and she is settling in well. What does your daughter think of her?
WW I hope all is well and your holding your precious baby now. What a roller Coaster you have been on.
Hello to everyone else :) I have not read all the posts but I hope everyone is having smooth sailing pregnancies.
I can't believe my baby is 10weeks old. I put DH referral in for a vasectomy the other day. Its the end of an era for us. I usually get pregnant once a year just its taken 2.5-3yrs to get a sticky baby so we are 100% done. A bt sad really but I am also so happy to put ttc behind us.
Hi mildez. I won't know anything until Monday afternoon, 3pm or so. I'm only about 6.5 weeks so my levels shouldn't be going down :'( Well that's wha I read. I haven't stastarted blebleeding (tmi) or having cramping. This could mean I'm still pregnant or that my body isn't getting rid of my deceased bub/s.
I am trying no to think abou it, staying positive. The next 2 days are going to be worse than the tww :-(
Will post outcome on Monday arvo, good or sad. Have a wonderful weekend lovely ladies xo.
Because of my age, over 40, I am planning on trying again if this ends in heartache. I won't have time to to think about myself, just to get some lovely eggs and embryos going again.
Good luck for tomorrow, hopeful mum. I'll be thinking of you.
FX for you today, hopeful mum.
Well fs couldn' find sac with his scanner. Hcg level rose from 1800 (last thu) to 2100 (today) so he sent me to qld xray for a scan.
They couldn't find a sac and thought maybe an ectopic but later confirme that cocouldn't find theither. Strange as i don't have any pain or bleeding?
Plan is for another bt on Wed morning then a cha with fs. If hcg rising, then another scan.
So no news as such, good or bad. So weird that this is happening, fs doesn't know what's going on :-( I just wish that it was determined one way or another. Was so sure that there would b a bub to see, especially with a rise in levels.
Ah well. Until wed ladies. Take care of you and your bubs. Xo.
I'm sorry you're in limbo, hopeful mum. Good luck for Wednesday.
Good luck today, hopeful mum xo
Stil no bt result. Wearing my lucky hot pink bra {wore it transfer day and bfp bt test day} Thinking it can't hurt, maybe has some more good luck in it lol.
Will see you all tonight :-) with hopefully a result/decision on what's happening.
Still no word on the results :-(
How are you going spoons? All well with bubs? Fx thathyou have a wonderful pregnancy xo.
Hope you get your results soon hopeful mum.
I have been thinking of you over the last few days and hoping you have been doing ok.