hi ducky

i am sorry you are having a tough time of it. TTC is a tough enough journey and you wldn't expect that once you are pg it wld continue. i don't understand your family's attitude but i think you shd try and enjoy yr pg, perhaps by starting here on BB where there are multitudes of women and men who will be excited by your news (ME INCLUDED!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!) and happy to chat, offer advice or just listen.

are there people you know that have children already that you can talk to? mothers seem to normally be more than happy to discuss pregnancy as it is was a special time and they can probably remember what it was like the first time and be happy to help. can you talk to one or two of your friends and tell them you are so happy about your pg as it has been a long path to get there - that it is a dream come true and you would like to share your excitement with them. that you may need some help in the coming months and wld they like to learn a little with you together as friends do. you are not asking them to give up their lifestyles just grow and mature and learn with a friend who is heading in a new life experience direction.

it sounds like you are thinking of new paths in your life, with meeting new people, getting involved in different groups etc. this can be confronting but it sounds pretty healthy for your situation. my friends met women at birthing classes and informally exchanged contact details as they didn't have many friends with babies or pg. once they had a bubba they met lots of lovely people (here in canberra) at mothers groups, swimming classes etc.

i wish you a really H&H pg and hope things improve for you. if your family and friends can't embrace this wonderful new adventure with you, then it will be their loss really.

xx dusty