I think you are very strong and courageous. C is going to be a beautiful happy child and what Holly said about Luke hopefully helped you see that she will be fine. In some ways better off even
As a child (sheesh, that was years ago ) I had a few friends who were only children, mostly due to separation/divorce. All children have such different family lives due to country/city living, rich/not so rich, huge extended families etc, that I don't think you can worry about this negatively affecting her.
But i can imagine that there are days when you change your mind and want to try again - it's a big decision.
Aww I didnt see that Marcellus till today. Hmm now I'm wondering what you posted LOL!
Thanks for the hug though.
Lenny, I tell myself that all the time. I think a child will be who they are because of a variety of things. Parenting, personality, culture etc all play a part, not just the absence of siblings although I guess that would be part of it the same way that your place amongst siblings can sometimes do.
I am already getting comments (Yesterday from my very ignorant, impulsive best friend who speaks before thinking) along the lines of parents of single children get it easy etc etc. Why must people be judgemental about everything? And without knowing the background behind things, or even if they DO????
Sigh. I'm sure this is just the beginning of having to either defend our decision to have one child or explain constantly that it isnt necessarily our choice.
Well, I started rambling on about finding peace in our circumstances blah blah, went around in circles a bit and then thought - I don't think this is very helpful. So I don't think you missed anything
I will say, though - and I don't mean to trivialise what you're going through in any way, cause I know it must be sooo hard, and I'm so thankful that we've not had to face up to it yet - that we all have to stop and be thankful for what we have, don't you think?
People say stupid things. I hope that you can come to peace with your family, such that you don't feel the need to defend yourself or explain.
I absolutely think that Marcellus! That's why I named the thread as I did not "big sob story from sazz" or something. LOL. Just leaving it open to anyone else who is at that stage too and feels like posting.
I know a few women with 3 or 4 children who are really battling with their choice to stop now. It comes to every couple eventually to decide to be content with what they have.
hello, popping in here to send you a hug, I can imagine what a tough decision it must have been! DH and I don't even have one child yet, and already we have discussed whether, if we are blessed with one, we will push on for a second. We had always assumed we'd have two, but no longer assume that will happen, and realise there will be a time when we will have to stop. What scares me, is I think DH will reach that stage one day, even if we haven't managed to have one. He will say enough is enough now ( I know that won't be for quite some time yet, but I know he would reach that point before me, and I hope we don't have to face that scenario).
) I had a few friends who were only children, mostly due to separation/divorce. All children have such different family lives due to country/city living, rich/not so rich, huge extended families etc, that I don't think you can worry about this negatively affecting her.
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