Well, I started rambling on about finding peace in our circumstances blah blah, went around in circles a bit and then thought - I don't think this is very helpful. So I don't think you missed anything

I will say, though - and I don't mean to trivialise what you're going through in any way, cause I know it must be sooo hard, and I'm so thankful that we've not had to face up to it yet - that we all have to stop and be thankful for what we have, don't you think?

People say stupid things. I hope that you can come to peace with your family, such that you don't feel the need to defend yourself or explain.