Jo, I really feel for you hun. I did a post almost identical to yours when I was prg too. I couldn't understand why finding out that people around me were pregnant still hurt so much - I was already prg!!
But now that our beautiful boy is here, I can tell you nothing much changes unfortunately. Well it hasn't for me. It still bothers me when I hear that someone has fallen prg 'accidentally' for example, because no matter that I now have my beautiful boy here with me and my DD too (and I am truly so grateful for that so please don't misunderstand me) I still will never have that experience.
Sushee is right (as usual!) it does change you forever and you'll never see pregnancy or babies or motherhood the same way again.
I've actually found that a lot of issues I'd buried during my prg, particularly in relation to the baby we lost and the circumstances causing my infertility have resurfaced since I've had DS and I've actually been to see a counsellor this week, just to talk it out and maybe deal with it once and for all. I don't know if I ever truly can, the grief is still definitely there.
So I guess what I'm trying to say in a very roundabout way (sorry, sleep deprived, you know...) is that your feelings are pretty normal I think.
I'm glad I stumbled across this thread because it's also made me see that my feelings are normal and I shouldn't be feeling so guilty that I'm not 100% ecstatic 100% of the time now that DS has arrived safely, which is how I keep telling myself I should feel after everything we've been through. So thank you for being brave enough to post.
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