Why do LTTTCers seem to prefer a c/s?

[Devon]

This is an interesting discussion.

For me, it's really, really important to have a low or no-intervention VB, or at least to have the best opportunity to try for one.

I agree with the comment BW made about some AC women - for me I felt that my miscarriage, trouble conceiving and fertility treatment were signs that I was a failure as a woman. That was one of the hardest things for me to deal with. So now that I am pregnant, and everything seems to be going perfectly normally (), I really want a vaginal birth to reclaim that feeling that I am a normal woman. I agree with you Sushee - for me a VB means I am in control, a c/s means I have lost control. And I'm terrified of surgery, the idea of being conscious while I am cut open is the most horrible thought. I don't want to be able to feel people messing around with my insides.

I really want to go through the process of birthing my baby in as natural a way as possible. My main concern is how I will cope if I do end up with a high intervention birth, or god forbid, a caesarean. I need to do some work on accepting that, yet again, I don't have 100% control over the outcome of this.

I'm really excited to have booked our doula, and I'm hoping that she'll give me the best chance of having the natural or low-intervention birth that I so hope for, especially considering that I'm with an obstetrician in a private hospital.

And a small woo hoo - I'm 26 weeks today! I am so excited to meet our baby, I just can't wait!

ETA - please don't anyone who has had a c/s take offence at my comments, obviously any woman is a normal woman, however she gives birth. But at this stage it's just so important for me to have one thing about this pregnancy done the 'old fashioned' way, and to prove to myself that my body can do it.

Devon
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