Great thread

I will try to keep this as brief as pos, i have DS concieved 1st go and very traumatic VB with him (in another thread somewhere!) This time over 3 years to concieve with OI, IUI an ectopic pregnancy and finally IVF, i have been told CS is the best option for me as i had a very bad 3rd degree tear with imense problems for the year after (and some ungoing issues) as well as having a very short perinum. I have researched and done this topic to death as i really wanted a natural birth, but have pretty much decided that the risk of ending up with fecal incontinence, will sway my decision.

All that said i would love, after all the medical intervention to feel like i "CAN" give something of myself to this baby! if that makes sense, and have a VB. I definately will be breast feeding.
I may be way out of line and making a gross generalisation but i know a few women who have "elected" to have CS these women have generally been "older" I think working, corporate women may prefer CS for convenience and the "too posh to push" reasoning. Again another generalisation but these tend to be the women who have babies later and need assisstance in the form of IVF etc. I realise some women may want to fry me for these comments, but i am only speaking from my own personal experience and maybe a partial reason for sushee's dilema.

It interesting too the "left to flounder" points made, i was just talking about that the other day as i dont believe ACers are any different to first time mums, we go to antenatal classes and you basically get taught about the different medical interventions. The whole system needs a shake up we need to learn the "real" way to give birth and lets be honest unless you hunt the information down it is not readily available and usually at a pretty high cost.
The thing is during AC you do become so dependant on the medical system, we basically hand our bodies over and its almost heartbreaking when you hear "we dont need to see you anymore" i know after 2 years i felt totally lost.