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Greenslw - I'm not sure when to take the pessaries till. I'm seeing my FS on Monday for the scan and will do another blood test on Wednesday, so I'll know more then, hopefully. I'm glad it's just the one a day at night, that's not too bad. How many do you have a day? My new bra is awesome, will buy a few more, as I can't see myself washing them every day :$
Melster - so happy to see your good result! Such a relief to see it right on track!
Damprye - how was today for you? Are the kids any better?
Hi to everyone else!
AFM - long day at work today, managed to get up early, do all the chores, then went back to bed for an hour before work and that helped a bit. Had someone stare at my belly, I'm a bit bloated, but not that bad to make them think I'm UTD. I double checked with one of my colleagues and she was laughing at me as her belly bloats way more than mine and she's not pregnant.... I can't wait for bedtime now, am exhausted. And only 3 nights before we'll see our little one! Am getting a bit nervous...
Mel I am soooooooo stoked for you excellent outcome
Me4 I take 2 morning and night. Is your work full off bump watchers mine is lucky I don't eat sushi cos that's how they caught the last UTD
Damprye super woman comes to mind.
Mother in law down for the weekend DS is so excited went to sleep an hour late big family lunch tomorrow I'm cooking will be nice but so tired
Hi girls. Kinda feel like Im intruding a bit as I havent really posted here (properly) before but Im feeling crappy tonight and need some support. I hope thats ok?
I had a very early loss in Nov last year (due July), and am now 9wks (due Oct.).
I should have been 20wks today. Not 9. Im missing my lost bub so much tonight. My heart hurts. But I also feel so guilty because wishing "she" was here means wishing my current pregnancy away. And I dont, of course.
I was thinking before, now that the tears have run out, that maybe I havent really connected with this pregnancy like I thought. I mean, Im attatched to it. But I just havent been interested in looking at / talking about names or furniture or re educating myself about birth. I just cant be bothered. Now Im wondering if its actually because Im protecting myself incase the 12wk scan shows another angel or nothing at all, like last time? Which is silly because there was a baby there at ths 6 wk scan but I cant get that empty uterus image out of my head.
Not to mention how scared I am of there being some kind of "abnormality". I dont know if I have the means to care for a bub with a disabilty. I would love them to the ends of the earth, but I dont think we would manage financially, and mentally? I dunno. I think it would be too much for me. That sounds so horrible and selfish, I hope you get what I mean.
And Im still on blood patrol. Everytime I go to the bathroom I expect to be bleeding. Will that ever go away?
Am I making any sense? I dunno, maybe this should have been its own thread, sorry to be so negative. Ill get back in my box now...
I completely get what your saying, I feel the same way x
Yes it will get easier but not for awhile & I don't think blood patrol ever really stops.
I'm on my phone but I just want you to know your not alone xx
for you calluna. I don't have all the answers for you but I can tell you that your not alone. I felt guilty about being happy to be pregnant again because that meant I was happy to lose our first bub. In my head, that is. It took longer to bond with this pregnancy. I think part of that is the fear that it might be taken from us again.
I'm 18+5, i still don't feel "safe" now and im still on constant wipe watch btw.
Me4ever... Good luck with you're scan.. I'll cross everything for you.... Yeah I'm bloated too. I feel like I have put on a ton of weight already
Greenslw... Good luck with ur cooking
Calluna... I thinki it's completely normal to feel that way... I was scared throughout my whole pregnancy and I'm scared this pregnancy. I think it's a protection method. Maybe you will start to feel better after you're twelve week scan.
Me.... Well I have been feeling quiet sick in the mornings when I get up... And feeling extremely hormonal. I'm
Not loving it at the moment....but I am so appreciative the baby is ok at the moment. I need to settle a bit because I'm
Feeling quiet erractic at the moment... I can't believe I'm doing it for a third time... How will my body cope lol
Me4- I don't know what it is but something tells me you are going to be ok. I hope my instincts are right.
Greenslw- that sounds nice
Calluna- If I had of carried my first to term, there's no way I would have tried for DS1 so soon but it still hurts to have lost that one and all it meant. I'm no longer naive in thinking pregnancy means a live birth and every time with every pregnancy, I am on blood watch. I didn't really even bleed with that one, just lost a 20c sized clot and then the u/s the next day showed no HB. This pregnancy being so similar in dates to my first keeps giving me flashbacks. In general, it does get easier but there are some things that are harder. I keep thinking about the scan I had March 28 2006 and measuring 10w5d and this time, I will be having a scan on the 18th March @ 10w6d. Baby was fine on that scan and then a week later... It scares the hell out of me. AlthoughbI won't really know until it happens, I don't think I could keep this baby if I found out it were disabled. I already have a SN child with DS1 and a child with an allergy to near on everything with DS2 and so I don't think I can take it away from them, plus, how would I cope being single and with 3 high needs children? Some people may cope and I think its best not to stress too much over it as you never know what you can handle when the time comes. SN children do bring their special brand of joy into their families lives.
Melster- They say that your body is most efficient with baby number 3 so here's hoping
AFM- In quite a mood. I really wanted to meet Richard Dean Anderson today but I'm too sick. I have two gigs lined up for this arvo and noone that can replace me but I cannot let them down. Considering going with a mask to contain the bug so I can keep my reputation. May have to try outsourcing to another company
Been getting wicked painful cramps today but trying not to stress as I remember with DS2 I had the same thing at 9weeks. Feeling very sorry for myself and keep wondering why I'm pregnant. I don't want another child to X. There is also no way I want to lose it either as I know this will pass and I'll love it completely. The ms is playing havoc with my body as well. Even as I have been trying to type this, I've had to keep stopping to retch over my bucket. Thankfully (I think) no actual vomits yet.
So i woke up this morning symptom free. No m/s or sore boobs etc..
Of corse i'm know freaking out but i guess there is nothing i can do but wait till my u/s in 11
Omg blerrrgggg think thr morning sickness has kicked in...all I want to do is stay in bed. I should be reassured everything is going ok, I remember being sick with the girls but not like this. I must get something to eat for when I wake up. Hopefully this doesn't last for long.
Woke up with ms again here too. Damn. I think my body is used to it again though as there is no bile in my stomach, at least not yet. I remember that happening with DS2, although I also know I need to be careful with it as with him, my body was absorbing the bile rather than it going through my digestive system and I was peeing it instead so now I'm on the lookout for that. At least the vomits aren't that offensive this AM withoutbthe bile Still hurt the rest of my body though. Going to go take my wafer and get ready for work
horrible, if i'm not throwing up i'm dry retching. It's constant & unrelenting. It's even waking me at night now.
I really hate this part of the pregnancy it's draining, emotionally & physically and to think i have at least 5 more weeks of it is really depressing.
9 sleeps till my u/s
Hello ladies! Sorry to hear about m/s playing up... On the flip side, it's a positive sign, isn't it? I haven't had any m/s so far and never had any with the m m/c either. We will hopefully find out later today if all is well with bubs and if there is a heart beat. I'm getting pretty nervous and am so worried. I'll post as soon as i find out! hugs for everyone!
Sorry to hear about the ms ladies. If only itcould be at a reassuring level rather than being completely overwhelming.
Good luck for your scan Me4Ever.
Not much in the way of symptoms today. Less tired, virtually no nausea, boobs arent sore. Was a bit crampy this morning. Trying not to read into it as its likely to be just a good day. But hard not to stress.
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for you calluna. I don't have all the answers for you but I can tell you that your not alone. I felt guilty about being happy to be pregnant again because that meant I was happy to lose our first bub. In my head, that is. It took longer to bond with this pregnancy. I think part of that is the fear that it might be taken from us again.
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