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  1. #1
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    Thank you

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    Me4- I don't know what it is but something tells me you are going to be ok. I hope my instincts are right.

    Greenslw- that sounds nice

    Calluna- If I had of carried my first to term, there's no way I would have tried for DS1 so soon but it still hurts to have lost that one and all it meant. I'm no longer naive in thinking pregnancy means a live birth and every time with every pregnancy, I am on blood watch. I didn't really even bleed with that one, just lost a 20c sized clot and then the u/s the next day showed no HB. This pregnancy being so similar in dates to my first keeps giving me flashbacks. In general, it does get easier but there are some things that are harder. I keep thinking about the scan I had March 28 2006 and measuring 10w5d and this time, I will be having a scan on the 18th March @ 10w6d. Baby was fine on that scan and then a week later... It scares the hell out of me. AlthoughbI won't really know until it happens, I don't think I could keep this baby if I found out it were disabled. I already have a SN child with DS1 and a child with an allergy to near on everything with DS2 and so I don't think I can take it away from them, plus, how would I cope being single and with 3 high needs children? Some people may cope and I think its best not to stress too much over it as you never know what you can handle when the time comes. SN children do bring their special brand of joy into their families lives.

    Melster- They say that your body is most efficient with baby number 3 so here's hoping

    AFM- In quite a mood. I really wanted to meet Richard Dean Anderson today but I'm too sick. I have two gigs lined up for this arvo and noone that can replace me but I cannot let them down. Considering going with a mask to contain the bug so I can keep my reputation. May have to try outsourcing to another company
    Been getting wicked painful cramps today but trying not to stress as I remember with DS2 I had the same thing at 9weeks. Feeling very sorry for myself and keep wondering why I'm pregnant. I don't want another child to X. There is also no way I want to lose it either as I know this will pass and I'll love it completely. The ms is playing havoc with my body as well. Even as I have been trying to type this, I've had to keep stopping to retch over my bucket. Thankfully (I think) no actual vomits yet.

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    So i woke up this morning symptom free. No m/s or sore boobs etc..
    Of corse i'm know freaking out but i guess there is nothing i can do but wait till my u/s in 11

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    Cheshire. Can you get onto your gp for a quick scan? Its more than likely fine though. I remember feeling like that sometimes with DS.

    Thanks Dampyre. I have no doubt that I would love and value my SN child equally as much as my DS but I just dont know if I have the financial, mental and emotional capacity to give them the care and attention they need. They would deserve more than I could provide, I think.

    hun. Hope today goes ok for you.

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    Dec 2011
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    Oh girls, it's like a roller coaster these weeks, isn't it . From symptoms to none to symptoms again... Stressing out about if there will be a heart beat or not next time in the scan. Sending all of you hugs. Cheshire, give it a couple of hours and I'm sure some symptoms will show up, I had this last week, felt really good, no symptoms whatsoever, then by the end of the afternoon I was exhausted again and had sore boobs... Fingers crossed the symptoms will come back soon.

    Calluna - sending you hugs.

    Damprye - Thanks for your reassurance. I actually found myself crying reading it, I hope you're right! Hope you get something sorted for this arvo and that you'll start feeling better soon! Seeing that you've pas 9 weeks already, hopefully m/s will ease soon! And indeed superwoman comes to mind, like greenslw said. What you've been through in the last few weeks, is huge, and you seem to have come out of it with chin up and so positive! I'm so proud of you!

    Greenslw - Argh 2 pessaries morning and night. I feel sorry for you... I will stop complaining about 1 a day I work with customers and I always admire their babies when someone comes in with one. This lady had a set of twins and I wonder if she guessed, but like I said I'm only slightly bloated and not showing yet at all. Maybe she'll tell me next time she sees me and it's obvious - I knew all along We'll see. Good luck with the family lunch, try and rope in the help of family members, just say you're coming down with something, if you're not ready to share yet!!!

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    Calluna I still check for blood and I had DS after mc hope time and talking ease your pain
    Me4 lol I feel the same ppl know guess we can only tell when we break our silence.
    Cheshire it is so hard when we are micro checking for signs I can only talk from my journey and symptoms do fluctuate hang in there
    Damprye hope gig went ok hard when you feel ick but are needed
    Melster hope you can settle I know it's a hard task if its not in your nature pg seems to make it worse for me.
    Me well cranky with DF who at 6 am after DS waking twice for the 3rd night thought it was the right time to inform me DS has me wrapped around his finger. So I'm wide awake after little sleep. Lunch was nice DSS has a great gf who helped lots mother in law is a control freak and keeps telling DS off for things only one more night why don't grand parents realise they can leave that to parents? Bit of doubt in my mind today maybe DF isn't ready for two kids? Bit scared of doing this on my own at some point and what that means........ Sorry for vent......

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    Cheshire, how are you doing hun?

    Thanks Me4Ever.

    Greenslw. My DF says crap like that sometimes. Makes me so angry. Also have parents/inlaws who think they can tell of my child. Infuriating! You have much empathy from me!

    Melstar - Hope you can settle in soon. Its impossible to relax when you are all over the place.


    Feeling a bit better today. Saw 2 rainbows in the last 2 days. Which is pretty rare for me. Wondered if that was my bub saying hello. Dunno. But its a comforting thought.
    Had a dream that I was bleeding and trying to tell my ex (we were in a relationship in the dream. Weird) that I was pregnant and it was his. And that I was bleeding. All very odd and confusing. There was also a lot of focus on some hand towels. Lol woke up feeling ok though and then had a spew. So feeling slightly reassured by that.

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    Good Morning Ladies,

    Melster- Yay for the good news on U/S

    Damprye- You are seriously wonder woman! I did LOL about bile stained walls sorry

    To all those suffering m/s, yeah it sucks! but it's also a very good sign!! Fingers crossed it passes quickly for you.

    Me4- Fingers and toes crossed for your scan today

    AFM- Not sure what's going on with me at the moment. BB sore still and have gone up a cup size. Having twinges so am hoping that mean something is growing in there!! Have moments when I feel offish but not overly nauseous and been bone draining tired. Have my next scan on Monday 18th and an appointment with my OBGYN. Am hoping there will be a little heart beat this time and that the scan I had last Tues was just far to early to see anything other than a sack forming. I think from memory I had fertile mucous late in my cycle and remember thinking that was a bit odd!! Maybe I did ovulate later than the 14 day norm?

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    Me4 how did you go holding my breath for you?
    Cheshire 8 till mine hope it goes fast

    sorry to hear ms is playing havoc seems to be bed time for me when it hits need it to cool down so I can have my heat bbag mother in law gone she's ok but hard work.
    Went shopping yesterday and felt so faint sick of dizziness
    flexi day for me tomorrow DS at child care DF at work physio and beautician for me. Can't wait till 2nd trimester need a massage stat sore back but poor DS no more lifting 18kg is too heavy for pg mummy. He's been soooo sooky too lots of sit down cuddles

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    Me4- The wait is killing me and its not even my baby LOL. Hope all is ok.

    Greenslw- Hooray for you time. I should be getting some on Thursday

    VV- We have our next scan on the same day. I not long realised that it is only one more week away. Eep

    My phone is about to die so will be back shortly to do the rest, sorry.

  11. #11
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    Dec 2011
    Perth, SOR
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    Sorry girls - only just got back. As I said it was just a scan by the fertility specialist, so only basic... It's looking good at the moment, it kept turning away from the ultra sound "wand", but measured about 6 weeks 6 days to 7 weeks 1 day, and I think I should be about 7 weeks 2 days, so really happy. (with mm/c bub measured 2 weeks behind). There is a heartbeat as well, but don't know how fast as ultrasound machine doesn't calculate that... I'm relieved, but at the same time know that the danger isn't over yet... I bought myself a pregnancy magazine and am itching to continue my craft for the baby room Will post this now quickly and will try and do some more persies next time