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  1. #1
    BellyBelly Member

    Jan 2006
    Coburg -Melbourne
    655

    Yay, managed to get on here twice in 1 week!

    WTH - hope you are feeling better and cough has eased. Here's hoping your baby's low position is only that and he/she hangs in awhile longer

    Greenslw - yay for mums. Would be awful to go to scan alone. Even when everything is perfectly well, its nice to have someone to share the joy

    zstar - glad you are feeling better. Hope you can enjoy the pg soon
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    babymiracles - Ooooh getting so close now. Its a very exciting time. Enjoy every moment!

    Easha - Glad to see you at the nesting stage. Its really lovely organising baby things

    erybery - Hope your bubs hangs in longer too! A few more weeks cooking would be ideal

    Megsmum - so nice to see you back and womderful that Emma doing so well. You sound so happy... very well deserved!

    AFM - scan went ok. "Upsy" is generally well but definitely on the small side. Overall measuring around 20th percentile but slight worry is that her abdominal circumference is 4 weeks behind - not even within percentiles - so seems very skinny. Could just be her or could be an early sign of the placenta packing up. Fluid levels are low but still within the "normal" realm. She is also very "low" although sonologist didn't think anything of this ( might interest you WTH!).Haven't spoken to my OBsince the scan but he left a msg wanting to see me again next week and discuss plan then. I know prior to scan he had said if bubs was tiny ( ie around 10th percentile) he would reccomend pulling her out early. Not really sure what he will say now but thinking/hoping may just mean some close monitoring at least for now.
    I am not panicked given she seems otherwise ok but like WTH, having a bit of a freak out that i am not really prepared for a baby to be here so soon. Seems silly since we have been told for many mths to expect a possible premmie baby and have even had the steroids shots forher lungs..... just hadn't really sunk in!

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Jan 2008
    Newcastle,uk
    156

    Greenslw - Glad everything is going well. looking forward to news from your scan, good that you have your Mum going with you.

    WTH - Glad your sinus problem has eased,hope you get rid of that nasty cold soon. Hope your little one hangs on in there for a few weeks yet.

    Meredith - Glad your scan went ok and fluid levels are normal. Hope that next week goes well and they will monitor you. Consultant told me if bubs was breech i would have to have c/s because i had such a bad time when i had my emergency section with DD and he doesnt want to risk rupture.

    Zstar - Glad m/s has eased

    Babymiracles - Glad your scan went well and everything looks good, hope you gonna take it easy when moving.

    Easha - Yay for finishing work, heres hoping our last few weeks go quickly.

    Erybery - Glad things are moving along nicely for you.

    Megsmum - Great to hear things are going well with little Emma and you are enjoying your time.

    AFM - Had physio on Wednesday and they gave me a girdle (really attractive) if this does not help i have to go on crutches next week. Having my scan nxt Wed to see if bubs has turned, if not he may be arriving next week which is quite scary.

  3. #3
    BellyBelly Member

    Jun 2008
    Brisbane
    185

    Hi All,

    Erbery - yes the count down is on now...scary but exciting at the same time. Can believe I literally have less than 3 weeks left. Pink overalls sound gorgeous.

    Greenslaw - yay for kicks, mine just feels like somersalts (spl??) are occurring now. complete tummy shifts which is very cool - although strangely enough my belly button is now sitting to the right and is no longer centered - anyone experience this??

    Megsmum - Emma sounds perfect, yay for cloth nappies, mine are washed and ready to go although they still look quite big even on the smallest setting - ending up getting Baby beehinds.

    Meredith - best of luck for your appt. Hopefully ob leaves bub in for now - is that not the best place for growth ???

    Chappas - sorry to here your having alot of pain - hopefully the girdle works.

    AFM - going to pack the hospital bag today and am painting the cot. My 6 year wedding anniversary is today to so will be nice pottering around the house with DH.

  4. #4
    BellyBelly Member

    May 2008
    NSW
    696

    Oh my, I am behind on persies again.

    Chappas - I don't have a girdle, just a brace. Can be a bit hot and uncomfy at times - is it the same for you? If your bubba comes next week you will have technically reached "term" (37 weeks), so your baby will be perfect when it comes. Hope you don't need crutches

    Meredith - yes, it is surprising how sonographer's opinions can differ to our ob's (and our Googling). I hope your baby continues to grow and can stay put a little longer I am slightly less panicky now - have packed some basics for hospital and a case for DD for when she stays at my parent's. DH and I finally had the name conversation last night. I had been dreading it as it was so hard agreeing on a name before DD. It actually went rather well

    Megsmum - don't worry about emails - you are VERY busy! But am happy to read everything is going swimmingly for you and your little piglet LOL x

    Greenslw - so glad to read how well everything is also going for you - you sound so happy

    Erybery - bub definitely feels (and looks) low to me. I am going to the toilet at least five times a night! I don't know whether the baby has "dropped" or done something extra... Meanwhile - HOORAY - your countdown is on! Wishing you all the best, you deserve it. And the overalls sound very cute!

    Easha - glad to read you have finished work and our now feathering your nest. Fun, isn't it!? HAPPY ANNIVERSARY X

    Babymiracles - Thanx for your well-wishes. I hope all is going well with your renovating. I know what you mean about over-indulging. I have discovered White Kit Kats - the FAMILY-sized bar is not lasting two days at a time LOL

    Zstar - glad the MS has eased. Not long to go until your scan - every day is a victory x

    AFM - This wretched cough has continued to wreak havoc with me. It became so unbearably painful in my chest on Friday that I got squeezed into my GP as I was worried it was becoming a chest infection. He gave me a codeine drink to take for three nights (before it becomes addictive for me and bubs), but it hasn't really eased anything. Now the pain has moved to my back! So I probably have to head back in again early this week On a positive note, I have been getting a lot more organised in case bubs comes early. Have been washing baby clothes, built the cot and DH is installing the capsule right now. Starting to get a bit excited...

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Sep 2008
    Adelaide
    676

    megsmum I'm not a light person pre baby so 1kg is fine. I will need to seriously look at my body when baby is out. Heaviest I've been in 4 years. Glad Emma is growing well such a proud event for you and the family.

    Meredith hope OB has some anwers for you.

    Chappas what ever helps I think. Goodluck for scan.

    Easha how cool is your belly, can't wait for that. Wow bags are packed how exciting.

    WTH i'm so ssorry your cough is still with you bugga. Glad you have the energy to organise not sure I would.

    ATM DF is waiting to go shopping back for a me post later.

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Sep 2008
    Cairns, Australia
    69

    OMG for anyone here who has ever felt a little guilty about not posting for a week or two - paste a bloody big smile on your face and enjoy the pain of this lapsed Catholic who hasn't been on since - 19 July - and has small essays handwritten in front of her at the moment...

    Welcome to zstar and lauren22 as well as human bean, cantwaittobeamum and josh'smum - it is wonderful to see the evolution of the thread as new mummas-to-be join - hope everything goes well for you all! zstar - sorry to hear about the spotting - I can remember how paranoid I was for about the first 13 wks - if the constipation gets bad again - cheap, effective remedy is pear juice - if you can keep it down - it is also brilliant for the first b/m after birth too to keep things civilised and manageable. human bean - I remember feeling really ambivalent and finding it difficult to get excited about this pg until I had passed little Marley's EDD and all the early panic points - it made me feel a little guilty that others were do excited and I kept wondering what was wrong with me - but I suppose defence mechanisms take all forms... josh'smum - I cried my eyes out when I saw Little One's hb this time - it seems another part of the healing process - can sympathise with the m/s struggles with toddler (DD is 4) and it has been a bloody hard slog this time to stay on top of the mundane realities and stuff that needs to be done and keep that bow-in-my-hair sunny temperament thing going on at times Welcome Sunny09 - a h and h pg to you!!

    HannahD - congrats on little girl - it has been such a pink thread this time!!! It is fun buying the baby gear but lord - isn't there a lot of it out there???? Really happy to hear you have an awesome midwife and she makes you feel grounded and confident - really important

    Greenslw - first and foremost - congrats on your ENGAGEMENT!!!!!!!! What fun to have so much going on - pleased your boss was supportive and you feel valued rather than 'oh well see ya then' and that they have spoken about the future with you! Have fun with your 'girly' prep - and may your U/S on the 31st go well...

    megsmum - am kicking myself that I missed Emma's birth - but have left a birth announcement message for you - wonderful to hear how she is thriving and that you are coping well

    Zachary's mum - so close now - am very excited for you!!!!

    MeredithD and WTH - can sympathise with the 'what do you mean it could be soon...' feeling - DD didn't hang around too long and rocked up at 37 1/2 wks in the middle of tiling three rooms and me having just dumped 16 yrs of teaching resources (unfiled of course) in the loungeroom - brilliant planning of course when you are having a homebirth - mind you, did give DP something to seriously do for the first stage of labour... Meredith - glad to hear the wig has lifted your spirits a little and here's hoping that DS's excitement continues - my DD wavers between being really loving towards the baby and regressing completely to wanting to be the baby in response to the uncertainty of it all - makes for some very entertaining days... Hope you both have good news around your issues...

    Rach2281 - wonderful to hear you have picked a name for your little girl - we have a list of both, same as before - such little commitmentphobes we are

    Easha - can feel for the waddle-thon - I have to keep wondering if my keel sway was quite this pronounced last time and wonder what the heck it must look like from behind - at yoga I must admit when we get into figure 8s and other pelvic rolling I do feel like a bit of a git the way your stomach kind of moves independently of everything else... Easha and Erybery - sorry to hear BP has been higher than you would want - mine was higher first pg and didn't ease down until I finished work (too much on my feet) - I also had high ketones first time round but GTT showed normal and this time it hasn't been an issue (I have a sluggish digestive system so my body hacks into its own stores to compensate - hence the periodically high ketones) - erybery - love the hiccups in the pelvis - both my bubs have been big on that and it certainly is freaky!!!

    Chappas - hope bub is prepared to do a bit of gymnastics for you - although as someone else here has said - breech doesn't automatically mean c-section - there are a lot of breech bubs who deliver well vaginally with midwives/obs keeping an eye on distress or heartbeat with a doppler or other non-invasive device (e.g. not full on strap down heart monitoring where you can't move) - sorry to hear about the pelvic probs - unlike first time I am getting my dodgy hip slipping out from time to time on the right at the moment in the arvos - keep freaking out random men in supermarkets when I clutch at the shelving and double up until it passes - I do get a warning twinge before it happens which is good - a lot of women who have had bubs in breech at this point have said to me acupuncture has been good at times for shifting position for them - I feel much better now I've been on liquid iron for a couple of weeks now - the anaemia really sucks doesn't it...

    Tam83 - a very belated congrats on Maison's birth!!!!

    Mollycat - great to see you powering along

    pash - my bub has done a great cigar impression for a long time but is rounding out a little more in the last couple of weeks - love your analysis of DP's hormonal rollercoaster - he must love that!!!! I love playing 'guess what appendage that is...' - at the moment I think I am being mooned on a permanent basis...

    babymiracles - great to hear you had a good scan - lord a lot of us seem to be packing and moving at the moment - apparently it is in the top ten most stressful life activities...

    AFM - meetings with our homebirthing midwife are going wonderfully - I get reflexology each fortnight and it is divine. We have sorted our finances, the house is almost sane and apart from the periodic hip collapses - it is a very normal, run of the mill pg for which I am very, very grateful - bub is head down and bouncing around and I feel is likely to come sooner rather than later but we're so much more organised this time than last - I feel that it wouldn't bother me even if a few things were still undone... Turned cougar (40 with younger fella) in July (whoops - better change my signature for truth in advertising purposes... (not sure whether to be proud of that one or not) and am now past full on DD's bday and rellies visiting as well - we have all been terribly ill (hence our outing from BB for a while) but I think everyone is on the mend now - the wonderful hacking, mucuousy, digusting afflictions that seem to be plaguing everyone at the moment and have no social skills to know when to go... Just want to be well when bub makes his/her appearance (so WTH - my sympathies really have been with you on this long haul...) DD is stunningly mature and loving one moment and as frustrating and inexplicable the next about the bub - but I have a few friends with toddlers who have new bubs and it is interesting watching how each child deals with their new brother/sister - so onto the next evolution of our family I suppose

    Good outcomes and much better health to everyone
    Karen van

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Sep 2008
    Cairns, Australia
    69

    OMG for anyone here who has ever felt a little guilty about not posting for a week or two - paste a bloody big smile on your face and enjoy the pain of this lapsed Catholic who hasn't been on since - 19 July - and has small essays handwritten in front of her at the moment...

    Welcome to zstar and lauren22 as well as human bean, cantwaittobeamum and josh'smum - it is wonderful to see the evolution of the thread as new mummas-to-be join - hope everything goes well for you all! zstar - sorry to hear about the spotting - I can remember how paranoid I was for about the first 13 wks - if the constipation gets bad again - cheap, effective remedy is pear juice - if you can keep it down - it is also brilliant for the first b/m after birth too to keep things civilised and manageable. human bean - I remember feeling really ambivalent and finding it difficult to get excited about this pg until I had passed little Marley's EDD and all the early panic points - it made me feel a little guilty that others were do excited and I kept wondering what was wrong with me - but I suppose defence mechanisms take all forms... josh'smum - I cried my eyes out when I saw Little One's hb this time - it seems another part of the healing process - can sympathise with the m/s struggles with toddler (DD is 4) and it has been a bloody hard slog this time to stay on top of the mundane realities and stuff that needs to be done and keep that bow-in-my-hair sunny temperament thing going on at times Welcome Sunny09 - a h and h pg to you!!

    HannahD - congrats on little girl - it has been such a pink thread this time!!! It is fun buying the baby gear but lord - isn't there a lot of it out there???? Really happy to hear you have an awesome midwife and she makes you feel grounded and confident - really important

    Greenslw - first and foremost - congrats on your ENGAGEMENT!!!!!!!! What fun to have so much going on - pleased your boss was supportive and you feel valued rather than 'oh well see ya then' and that they have spoken about the future with you! Have fun with your 'girly' prep - and may your U/S on the 31st go well...

    megsmum - am kicking myself that I missed Emma's birth - but have left a birth announcement message for you - wonderful to hear how she is thriving and that you are coping well

    Zachary's mum - so close now - am very excited for you!!!!

    MeredithD and WTH - can sympathise with the 'what do you mean it could be soon...' feeling - DD didn't hang around too long and rocked up at 37 1/2 wks in the middle of tiling three rooms and me having just dumped 16 yrs of teaching resources (unfiled of course) in the loungeroom - brilliant planning of course when you are having a homebirth - mind you, did give DP something to seriously do for the first stage of labour... Meredith - glad to hear the wig has lifted your spirits a little and here's hoping that DS's excitement continues - my DD wavers between being really loving towards the baby and regressing completely to wanting to be the baby in response to the uncertainty of it all - makes for some very entertaining days... Hope you both have good news around your issues...

    Rach2281 - wonderful to hear you have picked a name for your little girl - we have a list of both, same as before - such little commitmentphobes we are

    Easha - can feel for the waddle-thon - I have to keep wondering if my keel sway was quite this pronounced last time and wonder what the heck it must look like from behind - at yoga I must admit when we get into figure 8s and other pelvic rolling I do feel like a bit of a git the way your stomach kind of moves independently of everything else... Easha and Erybery - sorry to hear BP has been higher than you would want - mine was higher first pg and didn't ease down until I finished work (too much on my feet) - I also had high ketones first time round but GTT showed normal and this time it hasn't been an issue (I have a sluggish digestive system so my body hacks into its own stores to compensate - hence the periodically high ketones) - erybery - love the hiccups in the pelvis - both my bubs have been big on that and it certainly is freaky!!!

    Chappas - hope bub is prepared to do a bit of gymnastics for you - although as someone else here has said - breech doesn't automatically mean c-section - there are a lot of breech bubs who deliver well vaginally with midwives/obs keeping an eye on distress or heartbeat with a doppler or other non-invasive device (e.g. not full on strap down heart monitoring where you can't move) - sorry to hear about the pelvic probs - unlike first time I am getting my dodgy hip slipping out from time to time on the right at the moment in the arvos - keep freaking out random men in supermarkets when I clutch at the shelving and double up until it passes - I do get a warning twinge before it happens which is good - a lot of women who have had bubs in breech at this point have said to me acupuncture has been good at times for shifting position for them - I feel much better now I've been on liquid iron for a couple of weeks now - the anaemia really sucks doesn't it...

    Tam83 - a very belated congrats on Maison's birth!!!!

    Mollycat - great to see you powering along

    pash - my bub has done a great cigar impression for a long time but is rounding out a little more in the last couple of weeks - love your analysis of DP's hormonal rollercoaster - he must love that!!!! I love playing 'guess what appendage that is...' - at the moment I think I am being mooned on a permanent basis...

    babymiracles - great to hear you had a good scan - lord a lot of us seem to be packing and moving at the moment - apparently it is in the top ten most stressful life activities...

    AFM - meetings with our homebirthing midwife are going wonderfully - I get reflexology each fortnight and it is divine. We have sorted our finances, the house is almost sane and apart from the periodic hip collapses - it is a very normal, run of the mill pg for which I am very, very grateful - bub is head down and bouncing around and I feel is likely to come sooner rather than later but we're so much more organised this time than last - I feel that it wouldn't bother me even if a few things were still undone... Turned cougar (40 with younger fella) in July (whoops - better change my signature for truth in advertising purposes... (not sure whether to be proud of that one or not) and am now past full on DD's bday and rellies visiting as well - we have all been terribly ill (hence our outing from BB for a while) but I think everyone is on the mend now - the wonderful hacking, mucuousy, digusting afflictions that seem to be plaguing everyone at the moment and have no social skills to know when to go... Just want to be well when bub makes his/her appearance (so WTH - my sympathies really have been with you on this long haul...) DD is stunningly mature and loving one moment and as frustrating and inexplicable the next about the bub - but I have a few friends with toddlers who have new bubs and it is interesting watching how each child deals with their new brother/sister - so onto the next evolution of our family I suppose

    Good outcomes and much better health to everyone
    Karen van

  8. #8
    Registered User

    May 2009
    Boondocks Qld
    327

    Hi , I was sitting here today stressing about my new preg when I realised that, of course, Belly Belly would have a thread where I can say my fears with other ladies who will understand.
    I got my bfp last thursday and by my lmp am 4wk 4days, very early days I know. Had my hcg levels done Fri and only 140, had them done again today but still waiting on results. had my first big day at work today and have had a sore tummy ever since. not like period pain or anything though so not sure if I should be stressed or anything

    this is preg 5 and we haven't had a bub to take home yet so I am that this is a sticky bub. I went through an amazing midwife last preg and have already rung her. She has said if any pains etc let her know immediately and I can come in for hcg test and ultrasound etc to see where its all at.
    I'm thinking if I am at work tomorrow and i get pain that I will do that. I guess I'm just wondering what are normal pains? I now everything is starting to stretch etc down there but am still SO scared.
    Sorry for the all about me post, kind of freaked out and hoping for reassurance. i know a few names from the ttc thread - so nice to see you again and I see a few of you aren't due to be on here for much longer - can't wait for you to meet your bubs!

  9. #9
    Registered User

    Sep 2008
    Sydney
    1,413

    Hi TinaR - I lurk quite often in the TTCMC thread so I know your journey well. I was so thrilled whn I saw you got your BFP! I hope this is a happy and healhty pregnancy after all you have been through you definetly deserve it!
    I got lots of cramping and painswhen I was first pregnant, actually I was still getting cramps till bout 20 weeks! My Doc was great and did HCG tests every 2-3 days for me from 4-7 weeks till I had my ultrasounbd with the Obstetrician. Sometimes it is very reassuring thoigh can make things stresful too. Your level sounds fine to me. big hugs and best wishes!