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yay Iona welcome back! i really hope this one is the one for you! sending lots of positive and sticky vibes hun xxx
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Welcome back Iona, thats great news. Heres to a H&H 9 months.
Kit sorry to hear about your grandpa, hopefully you have a lovely celebration of his life and enjoy catching up with family.
Twinsis yep 35 weeks, it has absolutely flown by. I start maternity leave at the end of this week so i think that will slow things down a bit but hoping not
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Congrats Iona, that's fantastic news!!!!
Kit - sorry to hear about your grandpa. Hope the plane ride goes well.
Elise - yay for mat leave, enjoy your time off
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Kit, so sorry to read of your Granfather's passing XXXX
Iona, CONGRATULATIONS honey well done!!!!! Sending you loads of sticky Vibes XXXXX
Hi to everyone, I'm on the very quiet side, but doing well X Love to you all X
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Hi Iona, great to see you making a 'come back!'
Kit: sorry to hear about your granddad. Hope the trip goes ok. Glad to see you are doing well.
Murraycod: have often thought of you but wanted to respect your 'quiet time' so didn't PM you... but relieved to hear you are going well.
Twinsister: GL for the birth. Looking forward to your BA.
ELiselouise: Yay for stopping work!
SammyP: glad you have got past your difficult week.
Hi to everyone else. Still lurking a bit : )
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thanks ladies for the welcome
murray - I'd wondered where you had got to - oh you are so close to the the 2nd trimester, how are you travelling??
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Thanks for the well wishes
Murray - I was wondering where you were too. Glad to hear all is going well.
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Ionna - CONGRATULATIONS girl. Awesome! Believe, believe in every moment and day! I am so happy for you.
Murray - OMG girl - almost 12 weeks. That is sooooooooooooooooo awesome. How are you feeling? How is Mr Cod? How is little cod? When is your morphology scan?
I have a scan next week.... and honestly I am pretty excited about it. It's on the same day and same place as the day we first met our wee little Nicholas, but DH and I discussed it and thought we'd be ok about the coincidence. I have taken the view it's a nice way to honour and celebrate the memory of our little man.
Twin sis - sory about the tummy bug in your home at the moment - hope you haven't got it! I just can't wait to get to 40 weeks and feel so big and uncomfortable! I am excited for you... waiting for your BA.
Elise - I bet time is moving forward so slowly for you at the mo! How are you going?
Kit - oh sweetie. I am so sorry about your grandpa, it always sad when a loved one dies, but you are good to remember your grandpa's life and honour his memory. When I was a teenage I went to the funeral of the wife of a friend of our family. They were "old", and at the wake I spoke to the husband, and was really struck by how positively and lovingly he was able to celebrate the life of his wife and their time together. It was the first time ever I had experienced anything like it and it has stayed with me. He was still sad and bereft, but there was so much love. How ironic it was to become such an important lesson for me? It will be really good for you to catch up with family. Hopefully QLD turns on its best winter weather for you. I hope you'll be ok on the plane too.... I haven't had the pleasure of having to puke on a plane. But you'll be ok. Just be prepared just in case - take your tooth brush and some water and some mints, to freshen your mouth up and maybe some handwipes/face washer, so you can freshen up your face as well? Not sure what else might help you manage. I find peppermint tea/mints help. I used to take ginger tablets too - and they helped. Not sure if you can take them during pregnancy, but am pretty sure you can. But try them before you fly just in case they don't agree with you! What are you going to do with George when you're away?
Teagm - thanks for your kind words. I am lucky enough to have experienced labour twice already.... I am looking forward to it this time around. I agree with your comments, it was totally life changing for me and DH. But honestly in the end, the most important thing for us is the safe delivery of our little bundle into this world.
Possum - good to hear from you!
Sammy P - glad you got through a tough week. Hugs your way!
AFM - am coping well enough with the absence of my little fur baby ( only 2 weeks and 1 day til he comes home!) and I call the vets every day to check how he's going. DH can visit him tomorrow for 30 mins a day! I have a little cold at the moment, and feel a miserable. I know what a softie! I have the luxury of being able to rest, and feel miserable.
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Iona - congratulations that is wonderful news
Kit - sorry to hear about your loss but its great to hear you speaking about celebrating his life, after all i think thats how we all would want to be remebered in the end.
Dory - glad to hear you are coping without your little fur baby at the moment. We have 4 dogs and i cant image being without them for 3 weeks. We sadly had to put one of our dogs down a week after i miscarried and it was so hard to see her go at a time when i needed her. But i think she is now looking after my little baby just as she used to look after me.
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I have a quick question?
How do all you lovely ladies cope when talking about the number of kids you have?
I really get distressed by saying "this is our 4th" because there are those two lovely angels out there! But you know you cant say that to a stranger?
Do you understand my distress?
Like Dory: WHat about when people say "oh is this your first?"
Do you feel like screaming? crying? Sometimes i feel like i am going to be sick?
Sorry for the downer....
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Teagm - that is the toughest question to answer. The answer I give depends on the context and how I am feeling.
I have been really blunt previously, but that has been in response to a direct question " have you been off having a baby?" to which I replied " yes and she died" or later "yes and they died". The other day at the pathology lab, I was asked "is this your first pregnancy? And I responded , "the first that has gotten this far" only to be greeted with an awkward "oh". But other times, I just smile and say "yes", even though I feel like I am not honouring my angels when I do. For me it really depends on context and how I am feeling. Do I feel like explaining my history? Do I feel like having to manage that awkward silence when I do explain my history? Am I up to explaining my history? Does it matter to me if the person who asks knows my history? Is the person asking out of politeness or curiosity?
DH and I are attending a Baby PPP program and the other day the facilitators handed out birth notices cards that we can complete and send into to the facilitators so they can keep a track of things as there is a post partum component of the program. It's basically we just have to complete the blanks, but the wording is " are pleased to announce the birth of our firstborn child". I was really perturbed by the wording and actually am still uncomfortable with it. To be accepted into the course we didn't have to explain any past difficulties, just whether there had been any major issues with this pregnancy, so n one knows our history and we're not intending to share it.
It's just such an emotive question when you've had a loss, but for most people it's just an innocent question and a way of making conversation. So just remember that when they ask. For some reason it's acceptable to ask those sorts of questions in the broader community. Sometimes I actually think people are genuinely interested in your answer too, rather than just making conversation or having their chance to stand on a soap box and give advice.
I often feel like doing all of the things you describe... and also running away.... but those are the times I usually try to face my fear head on. I have this bizzare need not to let it overwhelm me. I think I am just to stubborn for my own good sometimes.
And by the way, for me it's not a downer and you don't need to apologise to me. If you are feeling sad then this of all places is the place you are free to let it out. Big hugs.
Hoping - oh sweetie - how sad. It's ironic, we had a cat that died suddenly in 2006 when we were away on holidays and after Amelia, it really helped me when DH would talk about our cat looking out for Amelia and then subsequently Nicholas and Sophie. In fact it still helps and now included little Sprite. Just like you. Odd the sort of things we can find comfort in isn't it? Send your poochie some nice angel pats for me.
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Oh how oh how are you such a wise women Dory!
Every word made sense. I need time to let it settle before i reply!
But thank you for sharing your soul again and again for all of us!
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Iona congrats... I am so happy for you.
Kit i am so sorry for you loss.
afm i am changing obs this one that i had was not staying ontop of things and i just had a bad feeling about him. So i got refered to a high risk ob. On Monday i got to see the baby and i saw it move and heard it's hb. I am 11 weeks now cant wait for this frist trimester to be over with i know i am not in the free in clear.
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Hi Ladies, I am a lurker hoping to join you soon :-)
Tegam - I think when people ask you in a casual situation how many kids you have, they mean "living kids", they are just trying to figure out what your family looks like. I always tell them one, because the uncomfortable silence that would follow any mention of the miscarriage would be more uncomfortable for me than for them. I have lost my father when I was a very small child, and then when people asked me "what does your dad do" and I would say "he is dead" it was always very akward. I imagine it would be similar if I said "I have one living child and two angel babies" so I'd rather not drag them into the akwardness plus I do not want people to look at me with this "you poor thing" look at their faces. Never liked it.
When a doctor asks, then I tell them of course.
Hi ladies,
Just popping in as i am lurking now since i got my BFP i know a lot of you ladies from the ttc thread and most of you are nearly ready to have your babies or some have already had them i don't know if i should join this thread just yet as i have to get past a 12 week cvs i have a 1 in 4 chance this baby wont be healthy so i am scared to join and talk all baby stuff only to have to leave and start again in 8 weeks time.
But in the ttc threads i feel i should not discuss my fears as there are ladies still ttc.
I am 4 weeks and 2 days today i got my BFP last sunday/monday 6 days after my day 3 embryo TF equivilent to 9dpo which is a good sign the babys hormones are nice and strong as my little girls hormone were really low and hpt were really faint from the day AF was due so i am a little excited this baby might be ok but not allowing myself to get my hopes up just yet.
I have to ring our Genetics professor as soon as i have my BT to make an appointment for an early dating scan then i go back to the professors at the fetal medicine unit at royal north shore as i am classed as very high risk of a sick bub until we get the all clear so i have many appiontments and scans ahead of me and it is going to be a very scarey wait to see if this baby has smith lemli opitz syndrome or not.
So i hope you dont mind me lurking and popping in from time to time until i get the all clear then i will be a regular.
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Sounds like you have a lot to talk about and this is the right place. please dont lurk! This is the place we all talk about our fears, probably more so than the bubbas. i wish you all the best and hope the next few weeks go very quickly so you can be happy knowig you have gotten the all clear! congrats on you BFP.
Thanks Luna!
Congrats on 11weeks Angelfish!
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ferrals - congrats again sweety, chat away in here sweety as much as you like. we will help you thru the many processes you and bub have to overcome
xoxox
AFM - 5 weeks today - did another hpt yesterday and the line is stronger again yay so now to my next accomplish is to get to 6w 4d still need to get myself to dr but wanted to wait so that I can go for a scan and hopefully see bubs and a hb
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Ferals hunny I am so glad to see you here and a HUGE congratulations on your BFP. i know its only early days but hold onto hope sweetie and remember we are all here to listen to all your fears, concerns and of course your happiness. I look forward to chatting with you more now that your on this journey, i have been missing some of you from the TTC thread but i think most of the originals are here now.
Take care hun
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