Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss November 2009

[TinaR]

Well, my little boy Billy Alexander John Martin came into the world wednesday night 8:51pm weighing 1310 grams 41cms long at 29.2wks. Everything is going as good as can be expected. he has been breathing on his own since he came out (he came out crying and did a wee!) and has been moving ahead nicely. he is out of intensive care and in special care so that is great. he is feeding now every 2 hours and having 5 mls and that will be increased by 1ml every 6 hours. i have had 4 cuddles and changed 2 nappies and loving it. that is fun every 3 hours. love to you all. be good to yourselves and enjoy everyday those little bubbas are in your bellies. don't take one day for granted. i am so glad i never did. i loved everyday. love lots, zoe.

Awesome news!! Now I just can't wait to meet my little one So glad your little man is doing so well!

[nicjay]

Congratulations zstar on the arrival of little Billy Well done and glad to hear is doing well, and big to you too for the loss of your grandfather.

Enjoy your little miracle boy

[milly5]

HI Ladies,

Zstar - congrats on Billy's arrival. He sounds like a miracle and a fighter! You are both in my thoughts. And your words were just beautiful, brought a tear to my eyes!

Any vommies yet Cherished?

Greenslw - sounds like you gave your family a panic attack! oops!

thanks for the welcome cantwaittobeamum!

Tanya - I hope you are doing OK,

AFM - just a bit of a concern or feeling I am having -
I can't seem to get it out of my head to "expect" a m/c. Everytime I go to the loo I am checking for blood on the paper (Angel #2 I bled for a week before actual m/c). It's not that I want to see it (NO NO NO), but that well, if it's going to happen, I would rather it happen now, if that makes sense. Sort of like when TTC and you know that AF is coming but you just want the cow to start so it will be over with (when you really don't want her to come at all?). I know it's being irrational, because I don't even have any syptoms at the moment or anything to lead me to believe I will have a m/c, just that horrible fear. Does that make sense or do I sound like a looney?

[Cherished]

Tanya hon I hope you are feeling better soon, not too much longer and the 1st tri will be over and hopefully your MS will be getting better too than you can relax a little more and really start to enjoy your pregnancy. I feel the same about the mc's around a the moment and I really had to stop my brain getting carried away with myself hence this thread is such a great reminder that you can have a healthy baby. Hang in there, I'm sure you will be fine

Smallfry you must be boiling!!! how are you going in the heat Greenslw?

Zstar hope you and bubs are still doing well xo

AFM feeling sick, had acupuncture today and got extra herbs for MS plus a mini needle which stays in my ear, I can rub it whenever I feel sick and it does it's magic, let's hope it at least stops me from vomiting....

[chappas]

CONGRATULATIONS ZSTAR ON THE BIRTH OF BILLY. WELL DONE

[Cherished]

Hi Milly, haven't vomited yet but golly gosh I feel like it's not far away You are not silly thinking about the mc, I have to admit that I have looked a couple of times for blood but I had to mentally stop myself and change the pattern, I thought about it and decided that it wasn't going to happen like that! I think if I was going to mc I would loose my pregnancy symptoms 1st or they would get way less and my boobs are so sore and I feel so sick that there is no way I am going to mc! Try not to think about it hon

[Tanya]

Thanks girls,
Still feeling very panicky, I haven't vomited in two days and I keep thinking my symptoms are fading.... I don't know if they are of if I am just scared and thinking they are. I hardly slept last night, partly because it was so hot, but also because I keep fearing I will lose my baby. What would I do if I did

SFP, what movie did you see? You are very close to meeting your little one now

Milly, I am a paper and knicker checker too... I don't think it will change any time soon!

Cherished, I don't think I am going to feel better until I am about 20 weeks and feeling bub on a regular basis... I kind of like feeling sick, it is a little reassuring that I am still pregnant.

Almost vomited a minute ago... I have been running to the toilet a lot lately but keeping my meals down.... which is good I suppose.

xx

[LittleOnes]

tanya - could be that you're subconsciously steering away from foods that will make you vomit. Maybe try and track something down that you know you can't stomach... there's an off chance it will make you feel better about things. How far along are you? Could also just be that you're passing through that horrible morning sickness stage. I had nausea for a long time but not vomitting this time around whereas the first two I was vomitting constantly. keep growing little one

[Tanya]

I am only 8 weeks... so too early to be getting over it from my experience.

[LittleOnes]

Yeah, that would generally be too early for it to fade. However, it can come and go and each pregnancy is different so perhaps this one just has a little less nausea for you.

[Twin Sister]

Tanya - I know exactly how you feel. I am 12 weeks now and i am still constantly checking for blood. I've already had 2 bleeds in this pregnancy and I FREAKED out both times even though it was very little both times. I think it's normal to worry after our past experiences. I hope you feel sick again soon (funny thing to say) so you are reassured that all is well.

[LionsandBears]

Tanya I'm sorry you're stressing.

I actually came on here today to ask when does the fear go away? I can see we're in the same boat. Absolutely terrified of losing our bubs again.

I woke up early this morning and couldn't get back to sleep because my boobs didn't feel very sore. I haven't had many symptoms, so when they're not there, I freak out. I feel fine, and apart from getting tired and occasionally the runs (TMI) from eating meat, I'm perfectly fine and it scares me stupid. I'm REALLY trying to stay positive, but it's so scary. Seeing the hb helped for about 4 days, then the fears came back. Afterall, we saw the hb last time too, didn't mean a thing......

I'm glad you guys are here. Even reading about someone else being scared too helps a bit, which is weird. I could do with a window into my uterus though, just so I can be certain everything is OK.

Hoping all our bubs are doing fine and wondering why Mummy is freaking out.

[LittleOnes]

tashybabe - I'm not sure the fear does completely leave you during a pregnancy after losing babies. For me, the big fear didn't leave until the end of first trimester but I still feel afraid and part of me is convinced something will still go wrong. I try to just enjoy it but even that is getting difficult with heat and stretching and other damage to self being so easy now. I guess that's normal but it is still something I struggle with because I was so naive for my first two pregnancies, I just assumed from the moment I knew I was preg that everything was fine and perfect and I'd have a beautiful baby at the end, and because that's pretty much what happened, it was such a shock when I then had two m/c after having two healthy pregs. When people ask about it, I tell them everything's great and pretend there's no fear but at the back of my mind I can't help thinking that things are going too easily now and something has to go wrong. It's tough, but they tell me it's worth it in the end. I'm sure it will be (and I'm also sure I'll never stop colouring my hair to keep all the new greys hidden!)

[Greenslw]

Milly I think I checked my paper in the loo till I was 24 weeks. I know that doesn't help but at least you're not alone.

Tanya keeping food down is a good thing.

Tashybabe

Smallfry I agrea with you totally I think a mc makes up fearful and careful but also so apreciative of what we have.

ATM Just waiting ladies, Nothing I can control, just have to wait.
Although thank goodness for cool change! I almost melted last night.
Loads of belly pain but no signs of labor yet. Common bubba it's time.........

[eliselouise]

Hello ladies, im so glad ive just found this thread and think its about time i posted.
Firstly its SO good to see so many familiar face in here and also a HUGE congratulations to zstar on the arrival of little Billy.
I think i really need to post in here because to be honest im freaking out at the moment and there are still just so many m/c happening around me and i think that too is stressing me out a little.
Im 7w5d today so its further than what i was last time, ive had no bleeding at all and have had terrible ms and the sorest bb's ever (all sounds good i know but just cant help but worry) Ive had some sharp pains in my lower abdomin over the past few days and i think thats whats concerning me the most. I dont go for my first scan until the 27th Jan and have tried to get in earlier but cant anywhere.
Sorry for the rant girls but as you all must know its always in the back of your mind after suffering a loss.
I just cant wait for this 1st trimester to be over and to start enjoying this pregnancy

[LittleOnes]

eliselouise! If i'd realised you didn't know where this thread was I'd have invited you when I saw your bfp! Congrats again and again and again! Great to see you in here at last! Cramps are pretty normal for where you're at - everything starts to stretch and swell and that makes things crampy. Doesn't mean you don't stress but it helps to know it's normal!

greenslw - you're itching to get that baby out aren't you?! lol Wasn't long ago you were worried it would all happen early.

[Cherished]

Hi eliselouise so great to see you and I too didn't realise that you didn't know where this thread was when I suggested you post in here I am sorry to hear that you are also worrying and I hope the 2nd tri would hurry up for us all so we can relax a little!

I have a question about a doppler, my 1st scan is next Wed but I will only be 6 weeks 6 days, can a heartbeat be heard that early with a doppler? I don't expect him to see much if he does a scan because it's at the OB's office not with a sonographer. The OB had originally said to come in at 8 weeks but he will be away so it was either a week earlier or a week later so I thought the sooner the better and I will than get another scan at 9 weeks with a sonographer... But will it jut be a waste of time going that early?

AFM I think those little acupuncture needles in my ear are really working! Whenever I am feeling sick I rub them and it goes away! amazing... Now I just hope they can stop me from vomiting cause I know it's still early days. I'm also excited that I've booked into do pilates at a physios office 2 x a week, they have small classes of 3 and I've asked to be in a class with other woman who are pregnant

[Tanya]

eliselouise Welcome (hugs), don't worry you are not the only one freaking out! The 1st trimester sucks!

Greens, wow you are close! Could be a couple of weeks yet, tho I hope not.

Feeling pretty ill here today, which is good.... Slept a little better last night, I think I am feeling a little better about the pregnancy, just don't want to get too comfy, yk?

xx
Tanya