Oh sunshine and stars i am so sorry hun words can not even come close to how sad i am for your family and your loss my thoughts are with you.

Cheezelmonster-you can get good scans after having a bad outcome with a pregnancy.
With my Abbi every scan from the 12 week one was bad it went from a bad nuchal scan fluid at the back of her neck was 4.8mm then a scan at 16 weeks showed skeletal dysplasia then 17 weeks showed major heart , hand and foot abnormalities then at 18 weeks it got worse with other organs looking abnormal we got to 19 weeks before someone could give us an idea of what the hell was going on and we were told the inevitable she was not viable with life.
So you can imagine my pregnancy with ella was just traumatic and absolutely stressful every upcoming scan i was sick with worry because i knew what to look for and i dreaded looking at the screen but every scan got more reasuring and finally after a failed CVS (the doctor dropped the sample before they could test it) and an amnio at 16 weeks we had our morphology scan and i could finally believe everything just might be ok and look at me now i have a sweet 6 week old snuggled up in her bed.
So do believe it can and does happen life goes on even after a tragic loss.

Damprye-glad your little man is ok.

MrsS-welcome there are a few of us who have had late losses in here and everyone has experienced the heartache of m/c so we well and truely understand i look forward to seeing your BA.
Giving your son (born at 17 weeks) a name just might help to talk about him and deal with his loss and maybe coming to terms with what happened we had to end a pregnancy at 19 weeks 5 days due to SLO (non viable with life) it was the hardest thing i have ever had to do we gave her a name Abbi christine jean she is our 1st daughter and i include her in our lives we had a teddy made for her and a xmass globe for the xmass tree and a candle for her Bday which the other kids light it has helped imensely (spelling) and i we were able to come to terms with the whole ordeal so i hope my telling you this gives you something to think about and maybe help with what you are feeling everyone deals with loss differently that was just my way.

Forshelby-Ella has been fantastic last night and today she is settling so easy and no more painful noises while she is sleeping and drinking her bottles has been bliss no arching her back and neck and not one scream so touch wood the Zantac is the reason and now my girl can be more relaxed and happy oh and putting her to bed she is settling herself and falling asleep without me having to go to her repeatedly to sooth her and put the dummy in every sleep so far we have just put her down and popped the dummy in once or twice and she is out like a light.

Angelfish-already on it Ella has a pillow under her sheet to keep her upright and we burp with a vengence she is also on lactose free formula which is thicker anyway so she doesnt bring up much at all.