How soon after.....

[mummydreamer]

ok so scared to be posting here, though i'm probably being excessively prematurely paranoid Lol.

BUT.......J was my 3rd birth, and the best ever...recovery was awesome. For both DS and DD, i bled for 12 weeks aftewards and needed to stop breastfeeding and go on the full strength pill in order to stop the bleeding (went on mini pill, etc, didn't work)

with J, bleeding was heavy for first few days and then has been off and on...so we DTD 6 days after the birth and also the other night, which was about 3 weeks after

bleeding has now stopped for good im pretty sure....so now im wondering what the chances are that i could get pregnant? i am going to go back on BC, but its a matter of making an appt, getting down there, etc. i just can't get my head around appts like that right now Lol. doing the school run and the grocery shopping is enough to do my head in.....

anyhoo, now im quietly freaking out coz of that whole super moon thing....doesn't the moon help with fertility or something? and im also kind of scared of the feeling that i WANT to be pregnant.....whilst not wanting to get pregnant at the same time!! DH said something wonderful to me when all this happened - he said he understands how women (and me) would want to get pregnant straight after. he gets that a part of me wants to have another baby....but now is not the right time, i agree. but i thought it was special that he said that.

okay....sorry for the weird long post, just any advice would be nice, from one of you who's been there, or knows someone....or just hugs, i don't know Lol.

[skybie]

i stopped bleeding at 4 weeks PP and still havent had AF return yet. BUT everyone is different hun, so yes if u were having unprotected sex and ur hubby did what u need to do to make a baby,lol, then it is possible.
We're taking the whatever will be, will be approach

[mummydreamer]

We're taking the whatever will be, will be approach

i think we would be the same if we were to get pregnant, well it was meant to be....

how are you going anyway? i've read your blog, forgot to tell you, thanks for giving me the link

[skybie]

Not too bad im having more better days than bad atm which is good. just really really want my body to get back on track so i know where i am in regards to the baby making lol

[crumpet]

after i lost DS, i had to have a D&C for retained placenta ( was done the day of delivery). i bled for maybe 2 weeks and then AF returned 4 weeks after that....

i wasnt allowed to get preg until id had 2 full cycles, mind u didnt stop me from trying after one, it didnt work, but the second cycle did.

theoretically yes i guess you could get preg if u o-ed at the time of DTD....


personally im a huge believer of things will happen for the right reasons when they are meant to, im sure i wasnt meant to fall preg that first cycle i tried....

at first, for about 4 days, after i delivered i couldnt even think of getting preg again, but once things settled down and i calmed down ( as much as u can in 4 days ) i HAD to get preg again....
i had to wait for a check up with my OB to find out when i could and all that, but i was so deseprate to be pregnant again it hurt, so i knew for me it was the right time.

HTH, good luck and im so sorry for your loss

[LionsandBears]

It is possible to get pregnant immediately after birth. It's different for everyone. I hope you're OK with whatever happens - just get resources in place to help you through, whether that's counselling of SIDS and Kids. Subsequent pregnancies after loss are extremely stressful. I recommend grief counselling anyway.

I understand it's difficult to get to doctors etc. Just driving somedays feels like trying to get to the moon In the early days, I planned to do just 1 thing a day and was happy if I did it. I still have days like that. I imagine it's a lot harder with other kids to look after.

We prevented for 6 months. DH didn't want our next bub due anywhere near DS's birthday. We found that time important for our emotional healing.

[crumpet]

DH didn't want our next bub due anywhere near DS's birthday. We found that time important for our emotional healing.

i wish we had of thought of that more, DS was born the 20th of jan, DD was due the 3rd of jan, so if i went over i would have been getting really close, mind u the chances of me hitting 40 are slim let alone anymore, but it still provided that extra un-needed stress