Reet - No such thing as silly questions! This is my 1st bub too so im just as curious about things as you are! Ive been doing a bit of reading on labor and its really helped my mind from wandering outta control! Im not scared (yet) of giving birth, I know its gunna hurt like no pain i can even imagine but i figure everyone goes back for more so its gunna be more than worth it!
Ive also got the fear about something being wrong with bubs - my sisters little boy has a very rare genetic disease called Ectodermal Dysplasia, we have no idea where is has come from in the family as he is the 1st to any of our knowledge to be born with it. As much as he is a gorgeous little boy, they are lucky as he has it mild but in some cases it is very bad! He has no teeth and never will have, he is 6y/old and wears dentures! It also means he cannot sweat and he overheats dangerously fast. He also had very sparse whitish coloured hair, they all seem to look the same! Thees a lot more to it but he is otherwise a normal, little boy! Very intelligent and active 6y/old. ED is mainly common in boys but girls can be the carrier! So i worry since we dont know where the heck it came from, that i am a carrier! The geneticist doesnt believe i will be a carrier as i would have had to have shown certain traits like dry skin, eczma, thin hair and thin brows! I have the opposite to ALL of those symptoms! I have thick, thick hair and brows, oily skin and suffered from acne not dry skin conditions! There is no in-vitro testing for it in Australia yet so not much we could do! My sisters 2nd little boy doesnt have it so they think maybe it was just one of those freak things that could have started in him!
Its a fear that sits in the back of my mind but no matter what my love for this bub is un-conditional. It worries me for the babies sake, not mine. I hate to think its little life may be harder because of it, i dont care about mine but worry for bubbys sake if that makes sense!?! Anyway what im trying to say is what will be will be
Ferrals - glad you got a good nights sleep! Please reveal your secrets! Im miles behind you and sleeping is a nightmare already! Eiiik!
AFM - im at home today and half of yesterday having a sicky, had a stinking headache yesterday and so exhausted but starting to come good now after resting!
Friends of DH's had a baby boy last night and they used our EXACT baby boy name! So spewing! Even the same middle name! Dont ya hate that! Ah well we aint changing so may have two boys within 4mths of each other with the same name!
Oh and im 24wks today! Hoooorrrraaaaay! Hurry up June, I cant wait to meet our bub!! P.S we arent finding out the sex of this bub but I am getting soooo tempted too! Someone stop me!!!! We promised ourselves we wouldnt!!!
Reet you need to wait until the placenta is seperating from the wall of the uterus as otherwise there is a risk of pulling the uterus out also (inverted uterus where its inside out if that makes sense very unpleasant) I've only seen this twice so its rare but if you just pulled the cord the rate would be much higher. Or else you can pull the cord and snap it or rip it of the placenta. Often when this happens and this is common its not a problem and the mother can push the placenta out without any cord traction but sometimes it will cause haemorrage as until the placenta has detached from the uterus it has a lovely vessel supply. Not a problem for bub as he/she is out by then but it can be from mum. Another reason for a physiological 3rd stage of labour in comparison to active (drugs, tugging etc) as its allowing it to come on its own.
With my first I pushed for 2.5hrs but she was posterior and the midwife had me pushing before I had any urge so I didn't have my body to go with. I think had I been allowed to wait until the urge was there it would have been quicker. I insisted on waiting with no2 although I'd been fully dilated for 30minutes before and when I pushed it took literally 1minute and she was out. That time I couldn't have not pushed for the life of me.
As for the cord been to short I have only come across that 2-3times and then its clamped and cut so mum can have bub on her chest. The few I've seen have been so short that they have needed to be cut to get them above the vagina if that makes sense. One was about 25cm and it did cause a few minor complications. Mum had some tugging during labour on one side (where the cord was attached) and when she pushed the baby was stuck as the cord wasn't long enough. It did snap all was ok but now I'd be more aware if someone complained about a tugging sensation during labour. But I'd say well over 99% of cords are normal length.
T-Hopes woohoo on been 24weeks. Your so close now don't find out.
Well my morning resulted in me getting a flat tyre 40kms from home on a dirt road. My car is a patrol so I knew I couldn't change the tyre (Ive been doing it for years) but the weight of the tyre been pregnant made it impossible. Luckily my Dad was able to come to the rescue or else I'd still be walking.
I think it's official - I am officially addicted to BB. I need help.... I should be out doing gardening ( well maybe not in this blustery wind) or I should be doing housework whilst HB is asleep... but no here I am, furiously checking the threads. I have given myself some leniency over the next couple of days but then with any luck I will hopefully take a bit more of a back seat.....
Mildez - poor sweetie - Yay for Dad's to the rescue.... that's a pretty decent amount of time to be pushing my dear... well done.
Reet: everyone seems to have answered your questions. Thomas cord was shortish and the placenta fell out at the same time as the baby! so it was on the floor and we had to cut it quickly so i could hold him properly... Id say that the contractions sort of stop...i mean in the way that whilst your in labour they are intense but as soon as you get the urge to push there is NO pain, just a purpose and something to concentrate! The afterpains Dory explained get worse the more kids you habe so normally none for your first and very stronge for my 4th....everytime the baby sucked i contracted, ouchy!
Dory you asked me if having your 2nd or more is harder or easier than your first..... Well thank the lord no nothing is ever as hard as having your first baby.
All those preconcieved ideas you had, the worry the unknowns...The 6 week rule still applys but you are more confident, so you truely believe it will end. You get less stupid advice and are more able to filter what you do get. Yes you have to juggle more, yes you are probably more tired but you are more use to the lack of sleep. And you have the joy of sharing the experience with the children you have.
And sadly you say "why did no one tell you it was this hard" Well people did you just didnt want to listen and they just didnt deliever it the right way. People dont want to hear how hard it is before they have a baby, one views are allthrough rose coloured glasses. But thats the right of a pregnant women, the key is to be there as support when your friends need them after the birth when the going gets tough. Think about it, could any advice have made it easier? Nope its a learning curve we all must go through!
Dory - Oh yes, can't wait to powder that little bot-bot... lol. So true that it obviously isn't that bad considering how many people have more than one baby. I think the first time would definitely be the most nerve-racking and brutal hehe. I'll be thinking of you and your precious Amelia tomorrow.
Reet - Appointment went well, I was a bit annoyed that the Dr was slightly cranky (with the receptionist) and so was very rush rush and quite impersonal this time. I guess we all have cruddy days.... but yeah. It doesn't feel like a bowling ball between my legs yet, more like a bowling ball on my bladder. I will definitely find the time to answer any questions you have even once I have a newborn to take care of. Afterall, you were here first lol. As for your questions about labour, I think the other ladies have said all I was going to say. But girlfriend, get yourself some books STAT! Hehe You will feel so much more at ease knowing exactly what happens (or usually happens). I do have some book reccomendations. I've read: "Ina May's Guide to Childbirth", "Active Birth", "Kid Wrangling", "The Birth Partner", "What to expect when you're expecting", "Hypnobirthing", and "So you're going to be a Dad". Ok, I've read a lot. And I only read the dad book because one of us should dangit! DP 'doesn't do reading'..... pfffft. I found all of those books really good. Ina May's and Active Birth were particularly enlightening. I can give you the names of the authors too if you like. Also, this may or may not help....... but here's how I look at it. I try not to think of labour as 'pain'. (even though it may very well be excruciating). I'm trying to think of it as just plain old hard work. If I go into it expecting it to be very painful, then it's more likely to be that way. However if I go in there with the most positive mindset I can muster, even though I know there will be pain, it will be productive pain. Every contraction just means i'm closer to holding my baby. We'll see how that holds up in the delivery room, lol.......... but that's the mindset that for now is keeping me from being nervous about the birth.
Possum - Look at your sweet little peach on your ticker..
Alish - The odds are in your favour. Missed mc's are not so common and the fact you still have nausea etc is very encouraging. Also you're right, the odds of mc are lowered after 8 wks, and again after 12. I don't know the statistics... but things are looking good for you. Oh and great work on the stroller, bargain!
Ferrals - Ahh sleep. What's that? LOL, I'm at the point where it's hard to get any decent zzz's when every time I roll I wake right up because I'm too heavy to just flop over onto the other side. Not to mention the sound of my spine/pelvis cracking.. it's SO loud lol. The unknown is the worst part, isn't it?? I'm not afraid of going into labour..... I'm just afraid it'll happen at an inconvenient time
T-Hopes - Wow 24 weeks! Congrats I hope you're feeling better after a good rest........ and I too would be spewing if someone stole our boys name! I have a few up my sleeve though, my favourite of which is (don't laugh) Axel. I don't know why but it was the first boys name to 'jump out' at me and it stuck in my head. Oh and I agree with Dory. Not finding out the sex makes things VERY exciting.... we can't wait to find out whether it's a pink or blue bundle for us!
Mildez - Oh how sucky getting a flat tyre! Glad you didn't have to walk all that distance.
Tegam - Great advice. I'm going to try to think of the first 6 weeks of motherhood as 'boot camp'. Kinda like the first few weeks in a new job. Plus sleep deprivation and there's no training provided lol.
AFM - Getting tireder and tireder by the day. I've had a couple of catnaps already today, and feel like I could go for another one! I suppose I should rest while I can. Not much else is going on..... the Dr says bubby is still reasonably high, not engaged yet, so basically a rebel without a cause. LOL.
reet - it was a sack with the blood pumping through it, like the heart wasnt fully formed yet!
ive been going mental! i couldnt get in and they wouldnt book me in so ive had to deal with it!
dh loved the pram, he never had a choice but im glad he likes it!
thanks forshelby - i know im going to be ok but there is always that doubt, hopefully 3rd times a charm!! p.s 20 days to go wooohooo!
Oh THANKYOU SO MUCH girls for all ur replies to my questions!!! What wld i do without u! U all have a few different stories so its given me a bit of an overview of what i cld expect.. im going to read over all ur replies a few times so it all sinks in a bit better.
Kell-We have an antenatal class on the 12th march.. im having our baby at the private hospital here and they only do the one 8 hour class.. im happier with that then going every week since dh works away alot.. luckily its his week off that week. Im also thinking of doing the ABA course thingy.. its apparently a really good b/f course... i wld rather have a bit of my own knowledge so i dont have to listen to everyone telling me what to do and how to do it!
If i have any more questions i wont hesitate to ask all u knowledgable women.. u are so much help!
Alish- Was there more then just a sac at ur last scan?? Gosh i dont know how u have done it, i wld have definitely had to have another scan for peace of mind! U will be fine tho, the 12 week scan is the best, its so hard to believe that ur baby is still so little when it looks like a fully formed little human! So ur definitely going to find out the sex at ur 20 week scan?
Well done on ur stroller purchase! Bargain! Funny how males love prams.. my dh is insisting i wait til hes home to choose one.. hes got all these little requirements for it.. haha im glad he knows a bit about them.. i have no idea! As long as i can push it im happy.. ive had a terrible time in the past trying to push my SIL's babies.. the pram just wasnt going where i wanted it too!
Ferrals- Gosh u always hit the nail on the head.. u are so right.. my mum has mentioned a few times that once u have kids u know what constant worrying is like... its just one of those things i dont think u understand until ur a parent. Gosh i know i wld have tried a bit more to be an angel in my teenage years if i had known how worried my mum was! Love ur comment 'hang on for the ride of ur life!' haha so true..
Dory- Oooh energy drinks during labour hey??! yummo! My addiction was V's before i fell pg... i see them now in shop fridges and just gaze at the wistfully.. haha u have got me all excited! One of those will definitely boost my energy levels and spirits! Ill have to double check there ok when b/f.. im sure one wont hurt during labour tho..
Oh and i imagine that delivering the placenta wld feel a bit weird... (TMI!!!) about 4 days after my m/c started, i 'delivered' the sac.. it was about the size of my palm.. i was in the shower and just felt this big thing gulump (cldnt think of any other word to describe it!) out of me... it was a bit bizarre! I was tempted to just try and jam it down the plug hole i dont know what i was thinking.. thank goodness i didnt! I got some toilet paper, picked it up and woke up dh to see it.. probably not the best thing to be woken up too!
Im very curious about our dear friend Murraycod too! Where oh where is she??!
T-Hopes- Oh ur poor little nephew, he sounds like he manages quite well tho! I can understand ur fears, but im sure everything will be alright with ur beautiful little baby.. its sad how these freakish things can just happen. You have helped to put things into perspective for me.. i know i wld love our little baby regardless too.. i started feeling really overwhelmed the other day wondering how I wld manage looking after a disabled baby and all the things I wld miss out on.. like b/f possibly etc, very very selfish of me!
Like ferrals said the other day, women are made tough to cope with whatever life throws at us. I guess all u can hope is that ur baby is going to be healthy but yep what will be will be!
Oh and how on earth did dhs friends name there baby exactly what u want to name urs??! Did they copy u???! Thats crazy.. and quite annoying!
Stay strong with not finding out the sex too! Im finding it really really difficult.. especially since im getting u/s's every couple weeks from now on at my ob's office! It will be worth it tho..
Mildez- Oh hopefully i get a good midwife that doesnt make me push too soon, hopefully they only tell me too once my body feels the need too.. pushing for 1 minute sounds a lot easier!
U poor thing getting a flat tyre! That really sux. Thank god for ur Dad! Theres no way i cld lift a tyre now.. U wld have been absolutely crazy to try too! Did anyone drive past that cld have helped in the time u were waiting??
AFM- Feeling so so sad about the earthquake in Christchurch, its absolutely devastating. Its making me feel sick watching it on the news.. i just cant seem to turn it off tho. Give me a cyclone anyday over an earthquake, atleast there is warning. All those poor injured ppl and families that have lost loved ones We got married just near Christchurch, it is such a beautiful city, so many old buildings that have been damaged and wont ever be able to be replaced. Its all so sad
Its making me worry a bit that im bringing a baby into this crazy world...
OMG i wrote a post and did some persies and its not there..arrggggg dont you hate that
Im having one of those days and im tired....
My backs actually quiet sore and my stomachs real tight.....anyone have this after scan? do you think its all the prodding and poking she did? the baby was doing flips while she was trying to get shots so i dont think she was too happy...
Reet no we live in the sticks. I was on my way to visit my parents on their property so had been on the dirt road (of the main highway) for about 3kms when it blew. Luckily my Dad heard his mobile which lives in his ute as he was walking past it about to get in his tractor and go bush. Thank the lord as I was even contemplating driving it the way it was (it has a 3" hole in it where I obviously hit a rock on the gravel) I know I could have stuffed the rim but even if I got a few kms closer would have been good. Gee I'd be in trouble if I did do that! I was working on my plan of attack when my Dad answered. The joys of having a massive beast of a vechile I guess. I reckon I could safely lift a small tyre but not one for my vechile.
P.S we arent finding out the sex of this bub but I am getting soooo tempted too! Someone stop me!!!! We promised ourselves we wouldnt!!!
i dont know what i was thinking.. thank goodness i didnt! I got some toilet paper, picked it up and woke up dh to see it.. probably not the best thing to be woken up too! 
We got married just near Christchurch, it is such a beautiful city, so many old buildings that have been damaged and wont ever be able to be replaced. Its all so sad 
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