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Glad to hear your family are helping a little with some of the costs Ferrals. I didn't know how youth allowance worked. I know some of my friends got it at school it wasn't much but it helped. It was there money but they had to contribute to certain things in the house such as a bit of food etc. I guess all of us with financial concerns will find ways to manage. I'm the same when I stop working. I earn more then DH does and all my money goes on food and the kids. I do get that gov parental payment but were not applying to receive it until July. I've worked out I can hold of my direct debts to DDs private schooling until July. Biggest worry is food and both kids need Winter clothes and I don't have $ nor does DH to buy any. I've had a look at Vinnies but our Vinnies is so scabby. I swear all the things there you would only use as rags for your dog.
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Hi everyone!
Sorry i have been MIA again! Got some sad news about DH's mum last week, she has cancer and there is now nothing they can do for her. Very sad, she is only 55y/old! They will do some pallative chemo/rad in hopes that she will be here for when bubs is born! Been very stressful!
Question - I have started having Braxton Hicks - all very new to me! They woke me up about 5times last night, not painful but very strong. There still happening this morning. How often do they come and go?? Had a teeny spot of blood over night too so i have called my obs rooms but he is in theatre! Bubby is booting around so thats reassuring! Any advice?
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T-Hopes BH can be funny. They can be regular and painful and mimic real contractions or they can be irregular in strength, duration and frequency. Have they stopped? I'd call your hospital or intending birth place and ask them. Maybe its wise to get checked out especially if you have had a drop of blood. If I were the midwife on the phone I'd tell you to come up and get checked out just to ensure there were no cervical changes and that they did stop. I've been having them since 15weeks and I'll get alot then go for a week or two with nothing. I've now had them for 3days irregularly but not painful at all just the tightening feeling and discomfort but it normally always goes away when I lie down and take some panadol.
I too am so sorry to hear about your MIL. I'll keep everything crossed you and DH and your baby get alot longer with your MIL then expected. What a difficult time it must be for you all.
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Mildez - Thank you so much for replying! My ob called back and said that if there is any more blood or if they get painful in anyway, to go straight to my birthing hospital. He is in theatre all day but he wants to see me tomorrow morning to do an examination! Im still having them now, maybe 2-4 an hour and they dont feel as strong as last night and early this morning so hopefully its easing. No more boods thank goodness! Thanks again for the advice, really really appreciate it xx
And Thanks for your kind words about MIL, hoping and praying we get some special moments with her and bub xx
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Had my scan & it's not an ectopic, we didn't get to see a HB but we did see a yolk sac and it was measuring 5w4d.
My cervix is closed as well so all good signs :D
I do have a bleed near the sac & cervix so that explains the bleeding/spotting so i have to take it easy & go back in 10 days or sooner if i have another big bleed.
I feel better knowing there is a reason for the bleeding & i wont stress anymore about the spotting because i have a reason for it.
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Alish - It's not uncommon for m/s to come and go. I know it doesn't help to settle your nerves though! I would feel weird having such a touchy feely MIL too, lol.... I hope you get to have another scan soon so you can see that beautiful bubby growing safe and sound.
Cheshire - Those numbers are promising, as are the results of your scan. Looks like bubby is snuggling in :)
India's Mum - Good to see you're still around :) Great news the bleeding has stopped and bubby is snuggling in. Keep us posted!
Ferrals - Wow you've done so well only putting on 5kg! I've put on 16 in total.... but I don't know where I've put it. I really don't look that much fatter, well except for the expanding belly. (it's probably all in my huge swollen feet and ankles lol) Great to hear your mum and dad are helping out, it must be a relief knowing they're there for you. Don't feel ashamed about asking for help with the elec. bill. These things happen, and you're doing the right thing trying to get on top of things. Keep your head held high and keep on fighting! I'm sending employment vibes to your DH as we speak :)
Mildez - :hug: It's so hard when you're trying to dig yourself out of a hole and more expenses keep on coming in. We have a lot of great op-shops here on the coast, if you need anything I'm more than happy to be your personal shopper. Set me a budget and give me the kids sizes, likes and dislikes (we all know how fussy they can be when it comes to 'fashion') and I'll take care of the rest.
T-Hopes - Ohh hun that is very sad news. :hug: How is your DH coping?? I don't have any solid advice about the BH..... but the spot of blood would have me calling my doc too. I hope you can get through to him soon and get checked out. Better to put your mind at ease. Perhaps your little ninja is just getting a bit over-excited in there with the kicking??
AFM - Nothing to report here, just being a good housewifey today and doing some last minute preparations before bubby arrives. (pest control, debt consolidation.. ALL THE FUN STUFF) lol. We'll hopefully be able to put all our eggs in one basket and have some cash leftover so DP can take more time off work. Ya-ay! Dory, I still haven't forgotten about you, I actually have some news on the baby shower front, it's just a matter of finding the time to park myself in front of the computer long enough to respond.
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Hi Lovely Ladies!
T-Hopes- Oh im so sorry to hear about ur MIL :( That is devastating. How is ur dh? a mess? How is ur MIL coping?? Gosh i dont even know how u wld cope in that situation.. im really hoping she gets to meet ur gorgeous little baby. Will it be her first grandchild??
Ive been getting BH since about 8 weeks.. ive complained and worried about them a few times on here and to my ob. and midwives but everyone has always said they are completely normal. Theres times when i get them very regularly too, like every 15 mins, but they are never really painful, my uterus just bulges out (or sometimes its only bits of my uterus, like left side, or the bottom of it.. very weird!) and feels really really tight. I found a great article on a baby website that explains that getting them thruout ur pg is really good and it helps ur body be a lot more labour ready! Lets hope its true! :) Braxton Hicks contractions Have a read!
I hope the spot of blood was nothing to worry about.. good that ur ob. is happy to check things out tho. Good luck!
Ferrals- I have found some car seats that are for newborns right thru to something like 20kg.. and they are only like $200, have u considered just buying one of these? Especially if ur dad is happy to pay for it??
I really hope ur dh can find a job soon, it must be super frustrating and stressful for u. Has selling his bike been spoken about again??
Forshelby- Oooh have u had ppl reply to ur baby shower invite?? So its a go ahead again?? I really hope it turns out to be a lovely day! :) Yay for being able to afford for dh to be home longer! How long are u hoping for now?? How on earth is his work going to cope without him??! Are they fine with him having extra time off??
Melster- How are u going?? I find that i try and protect my dh too when hes being an a**hole cos im embarrassed, not sure why either tho! I hope ur feeling a little better now, not a very nice way to spend ur anniversary :(
From reading ur girls stories on child support and ex's I am SO bloody grateful that my dh has never had any kids with anyone else! Gosh it sounds awful! I think i wld hold a lot of resentment towards my partner if i cld see that our hard earned money was going to his stupid ex.. i dont think i wld handle it too well! I really hope the issues get sorted and the problem somehow magically disappears and u can live happily like u deserve too. :hug:
Sunshine- How did the EEG go the other day?? Hopefully the results came back normal again. Enjoying lots of kangaroo cuddles??? :) Has his jaundice completely gone now?? Is he putting on weight?? Or will it take a little while?? Thinking of u.
Alish- Funny that ur MIL is touchy feely, i guess its better then being one of those evil MIL's!! I dont mind ppl touching my tummy (not alot do it yet tho.. i dont think its bulging enough!) except i saw a guy i went to school with at a shopping centre the other day, his partner is also pg, u know what he did??! He just lifted up my top to have a look at my tummy!! I thought that was SO RUDE! I was so caught offguard! And a tad embarrassed! Im glad i had my maternity pants on with the highish waist band (even tho thats quite embarrassing in itself.. there not exactly very stylish!) cos i hadnt been waxed in a few weeks :redface: How embarrassing if there had been a few little strays hanging out! haha.
How annoying that ur not having a scan tomoro.. can u say that u want the nuchal translucency scan done at 12 weeks just so u can get one earlier??
Mildez- So glad that u have been able to bring ur shifts down to 4 each fortnight now.. must be a bit easier on u, bet u still cant wait to have some much needed time off tho! Has ur baby been a bit more active the last few days??
Tegam- I hope u got thru ur ectopic anniversary ok, was thinking of u.
Cheshire- Oh what great news!! So happy for u!
I hope i havent forgotten anyone... i leave too much time between posting and get so far behind its not funny!!
AFM- All good here! I thought maybe my waters cld have been breaking this morning this morning tho. I got up to go to the toilet at 6am and on the walk back to our bedroom i had a stream off water run down my leg! It wasnt a gush or heaps but it was definitely enough to run down my leg in a thin line and reach the floor! I got some toilet paper so i cld check the colour, it was just clear so i wasnt really worried. Went back to bed, dh was up for some action, DTD, had showers and then half an hour later the same thing happened! Luckily i was wearing knickers by this stage tho! Then nothing for the rest of the day thank goodness! I figure it must just be from DTD! (sorry for the tmi!!) I always clean up really well afterwards but i guess there was some 'stuff' left inside me from last nights 'session' and it turned all watery!! And then this mornings session wldnt of helped either! Im glad thats all it was tho.. Im so not ready to have this baby! We still havent bought ANYTHING!! Must go shopping this weekend for the cot etc.
I had my Ob. appointment yesterday, i took my sister with me, she loved it! We havent had any babies on our side of the family since her and that was 22 yrs ago so its all very exciting for my family! The baby was opening and closing its mouth and poking its tongue out.. adorable!! Im going to take my older sister to the next appointment in 2 weeks and then my mum the fortnight after, then i even think my MIL wants to come once as well! Lucky from 32 weeks onwards i will be having fortnightly appointments and then weekly from 36 onwards! Will be seeing baby lots.. yay! :)
Anyway i better go.. WELL DONE if u have managed to read all this!!
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Reet-yeh i have seen the car seats but i dont want to buy 2 as you need one from birth until they are 7 now so there is one that is from 6mths to 7yrs my dad is buying that one and my sister has said she will help pay to hire the capsule for the 1st six months.
And the lovely drippy vag isnt it just wonderful the further i get in my pregnant state the worse is gets i have had the dribble down the leg a few times now and thought oh! sh#t is that my waters but i remembered with my last son i felt a pop or snap feeling 1st then the water this time it is just excess cm from being pregnant or fooling around even though we are not supose to we have had a sneaky very gentle fool around with mainly for hubby i hate him missing out but OMG! do i miss my big o's none of that for me no upsetting the uterus.
T-Hopes-i am sorry to hear about your MIL god i hope she gets to see her grandbaby before she gets to ill and what an awful time for your family.
Cheshire-all looking good for a nice sticky healthy bub.
Mildez-the braxton hicks i have been getting have woken me up some nights and can be slightly painful i will have a run of them for 30-45 minutes even at work then they settle i hope they dont aggrivate my PP to much i had quite a few false labours with my last son it went on for a few weeks were painful and lasted up to 2 hours then died off until one night at 37 weeks pop went my waters and 2 hours later DS3 arrived.
And the money situation is a worry isnt it.
AFM-My dad told me today that as soon as we are back on our feet and DH has a job and this court sh#t is over with he will buy us a house and we can pay him rent until he dies then its ours so i wont have to worry anymore about moving and bad landlords we will have to wait about 6-12 months to get all our current issues sorted and i am back at work but WOOOOHOOOOO!!!! i will have my own house for the rest of my life.
Just have to find a rental for another 12 months while we get all sorted.
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T-Hopes sorry to hear about you MIL, I lost my Mum last Nov so i know how hard & upsetting it is.
I hope the BH have stopped.
Ferrals how fantastic is that, that must be such a relief. I'm glad your family are helping you out :)
Reet glad it wasn't your waters & that's really nice of you take your family to your appointments. I bet it means a lot to them.
Forshelby glad everything is going well with you.
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T-Hopes how are you this morning? Hope the BHs are giving you some peace.
Ferrals how wonderful your Dad is going to buy a place for you to rent and then own. Thats amazing. I'm so pleased to hear you will have a nice place of your own where you don't have to move and put up with landlords etc in the near future. Lol on the drippy Vag. Charming isn't it?
Reet I too have had the drippy thing going on. Freaks me out as with DD they thought my waters broke at 32weeks but wasn't discovered until 36weeks when we both had an infection. They were sure they had ruptured which is why I went into labour and I said well I'd smelt liquor since 32weeks and I didn't get tested as it was only a damp feeling, not dripping and I thought they would put it down to incontinence. Anyway I got a mouth full from the Ob about it. I guess you can never be to careful but.
Cheshire your scan sounds spot on. I had one around the same time (5wks3days or 4days) and they saw similar. They didn't see a fetal pole just the gestational sac and they said a hint of the yolk but they couldn't bne sure so the official report didn't comment on it having the yolk. But only 5days afterwards we saw bubs HB.
Reet yes my bub has been more active. I worked yesterday evening and not a single movement in the 6hrs I was there. I think reducing the hours should help with that.
Forshelby that pain you were having is it still there? Anymore show looking stuff? Not long til term now!
Well DH is really peeing me of. Thats really my only news. I've been scheming ways to leave him. Maybe its just a pregnancy thing but right now I am so SICK of him. I told him last night I've lost all my respect for him. I wish he cared that I have but I don't think he cares. He seems to be working less and less and doing nothing around the house and nothing with the kids but its all my fault the house is a mess etc. Then to make matters worse I'm cranky that he isn't working more (his averaging about 4hrs 5days a week (his self employed) normally it wouldn't bother me but it does at the moment. We ahve never had join accounts so its his money my money etc. He wants me to apply to get the gov $ as soon as bub is born so the financial burden isn't all on him and I basically told him to stick it. He can support us for 2months. Thats not going to kill him. And if its difficult for him he can go work more. I'm so sick of him knocking back work as his busy but he only comes home for hours at a time and does nothing anyway.
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Hello ladies, I am still here, but as I only have my phone for Internet at the moment it is very tricky to keep up with this thread as you all chat so much! Hahaha! Makes for good reading though!
Found out yesterday that I get to have another Homebirth so very excited about that! Also heard the beautiful heartbeat which was the greatest sound!
Have a lovely day everyone! Xx
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Stoked great news on the homebirth. I'm so jealous. I enquired before I was pregnant about a homebirth and it wasn't going to be possible without relocating (the closet IM is basicaly 500kms away so chances are they wouldn't make it) I'm not into freebirthing so its another hospital birth for me. I guess with the chances of haemorrage and my placenta its for the best.
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Just wondering if anyone knows where our twin mummy vanished to? I've forgotton her user name but its been ages since we have heard from her.
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Hmmm, twin mummy may have been before my time here. I can't remember reading of anyone having twins.
I didn't think I'd get into the CMP for a homebirth again as I had a PPH after my last birth and also after the last m/c I lost alot of blood. But we have already started an active management plan so fingers crossed all goes well!
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mildez.....oh i defiantly know how ur feeling at the moment. The hormones defiantly play a role in making the problem worse....and the lazy part...i defiantly can sympathise...
Ferrals..thats great to hear about the house..
Cheshire....stay positive it sounds great
reet...im glads its not ur water...yeah i know i always try to protect him when maybe i shouldnt
forshelby...not long now...how u feeling
hey stoked everyone else....
Atm...spoked to hubby last night to try sort thro a few things...im still not at home tho. Think its going to take time...with the cs phone call monday its really not helping matters either not until we know what were in for and how much. They keep ringing him to tell him to answer monday. He said something about why is he in arrears and not paying 300 a week and being behind.....hubbys like um no i didnt do a tax return because im on disabilty idiot.........he is like ummmmmmm ill get back to u.......they dont even have the right info..........im going to be real nervous until we can sort this out and know whats going on...guess there is not much we can do and ill need to try and accept it and not let it ruin our lives...unfair or fair............so the waiting still continues and my guts churning............plus my dad my have dementia which is also really stressing us.......when it rains it poors.........
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Mildez-I am pretty sure it was hope who was in here and she is in my Belly buddies group and doing well.
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Ferrals - oh bugger - you beat me to it... I was going to say Hope... she's due not too far away... glad she's going ok. I am glad that there is some lightening of the load financially.
Reet - I had that weird ass** leaking too - once it was serious and all the other times, who knows what was going on? But I got checked out at the obs for it. For me it used to happen after I showered so I thought maybe I was just douching too enthusiatically....LOL.... DH and I were in a drought so it was DTD. But still go and get it checked - the ob/hossy might check your cervix to assess whether there are any changes and do a swab to see if it's amniotic fluid. The swab is just getting some of the fluid, not a huge internal exam ( aka ordeal).
Mildez - Sorry you're doing it tough with DH just now.... I hope it's just a pregnancy thing. Maybe you should have an indepth discussion about whether he has depression - the lack of interest in his usual activities ( work, family, chores) is just ringing alarm bells with me.
T Hopes - I am so sorry you got such sad news about your MIL. And so young. Hoping she is able to have some dignity in this very hard journey....
Cherished - phew - that's awesome! What a relief huh?
Forshelby - oh sweetie - Tegam said it, what's the chances of us both being psycho's? Honestly ... I don't tink I am a psycho. And about the $ - not to worry - my shout. You have enough to worry about AND I don't want money to be an excuse. I am the queen of anomimity.... usually, but remember my name is Dory, so I am unlikely to actually remember any of the embrassing or peronsal stuff you've written. I am pretty forgetful and vague. I am not usually this confident or pushy either... not sure what's going on. I really liked what you said too about partners making choices and making their priorities right... but can't remember who you said it to? Anyway, it was tops advice.
India's Mum - good to see you popping in.
Sunshine - - Just wanted to say hello and that I am thinking of you and DH and little Obie. I even put your name in colour so it's easier for you... I know you don't have much time and that this thread moves really fast.
AFM - well a fizzer of a day here. I WAS going to redeem a day spa voucher I was given for chrissy. My aunt took the day off work to sit Hannah. Well 10 mins after I left Hannah started to cry and didn't stop. My aunt called me just as I got into town ( 30 mins trip in) and I came straight home ( only 10 mins .... wee bit of a zoomer on the way home and really good traffic). When I got home Hannah was crying and so were my aunt and I. After I calmed Hannah down, she had a breast feed snuggle and nap, and then we 3 girls went out to lunch. I feel bad that Hannah was just inconsolable. Guess we just need to get Hannah even more used to my aunt and start with smaller increments of time. It was hard enough just getting me to go out in the first place, and part of me says -"see I was right". But I am going to try again..... as hard as it all was, there is one thing that just comes home to me and it just melts my heart.... my baby needs me..... I never thought I would get to say that.
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Yes Dory your little bubba Hannah needs you. Sounds like she was ensuring you knew it lol such a clever girl. She is just adorable in your picture. Yes your right. I'm sure my DH is depressed and I'm sure its over money which I obviously haven't been helping demanding he supports us financially. Obviously its something he isn't coping with which sh-its me when we have been together 7yrs, had a bub together and he has never contributed even 50% financially ever. It ****es me of but perhaps I should back of a little and except he is like that. He doesn't sponge of me at all just seems to have trouble supporting anyone else but himself. I'm sure thats probably why he isn't doing many hours at work as he just has no motivation anymore even his ambition is going. Hopefully its just a phase as I don't know how long I can deal with this myself.
