Ferrals - sorry to hear you're spotting.. I've heard it's common with placenta praevia.... but common or not, still not nice to actually see. Enjoy your lie down and hopefully no hossy for you.

I decided I would announce Molly's arrival as it's such a wonderous bit of news to announce... and Tegam then gets to read all of our well wishes and welcomes for Molly. Congrats on 27 weeks too.

Kell - I used to drink peppermint tea a lot, helps with digestion. Not sure about heartburn.... hope you find a solution. Congrats on 23 weeks.

Melster - sweetie - every pregnancy is different... each of my 5 have all been different from each other in terms of how I have felt about the pregnancy and the baby. It's ok to be scared and not feel as "attached" to this pregnancy... it's only natural after a loss. It doesn't mean you love this baby any less, nor want this baby any less.... I think it's just a way we protect ourselves from being hurt.

But what really worked for me to feel connected to Hannah, was to put my hands on my tum as often as I could and just quietly say, "I love you and right now, right at this moment I am pregnant and I am growing you as best I can". I would then close my eyes and take some deep breaths and just try and enjoy the moment. If you can string enough moments together, eventually you'll get there. Some days, even when I only felt despair and forboding I would do this..it helped a little in those bleak times. It sort of became a ritual.. I find myself doing it even now. Most of the pregnancy I had to work hard at feeling like there was even any hope of getting to the end...and now look at me... I miss being pregnant and want to do it again.

I never thought I could love another child as much as I loved Amelia, our firstborn, who died. But even though each of my pregnancies have been hard and high risk, I love each of my babies. You do too, it's just hard for you to feel that right now, because there's so much else going on....

I hope you find a way through your feelings.... I have been there and felt much like you many times and found my own way through... you just have to keep trying to find a way that helps you. It won't be solved with the wave of a magic wand, but anything that is worth it, requires some work. And this is well worth it.

Go gently on yourself too.... this is hard stuff. Hugs.

It's also good to seek help from a counsellor. They can help you with thinking about things differently or help you devise strategies to get through the tough times.


Forshelby - ahhh I so miss to pregnancy woes and discomforts. Crazy I know. Good idea to be kind to yourself and get out of the heat and humidity. Just remember, even if you feel blah, you are doing to most wonderous thing ever - growing a bubba. And when you bubba arrives you can look at the tiny fingernails and say.... I grew these! And the impossibly small hand grasped around your finger and say I grew these!

Hmm - I am like Kell - can't remember too much of what was in the last thread.... will catch up another time. Take care mummas.

Audax - hoping you're enjoying your newborn cuddles.