Thats great news that u have a beautiful little healthy baby growing! How annoying that u have already come down from that high tho.. i was always the same.. Get my reassurance, feel that sense of relief but then those gloomy thoughts wld come back into my head. Those first 12 weeks were really scary for me too.. and i cld never actually imagine getting this far in this pg. When i had a small bleed at 14 weeks i was thinking to myself Oh well theres my luck gone, what else was i expecting? So negative but its so hard not to be sometimes. U just have to try ur hardest to have some faith in ur body.. it knows what to do! Its made a perfect little girl before!
I still cant believe that i am 35 going on 36 weeks along.( still on bed rest)
Sorry that i have not had time to read everything that everyone has posted
Possum Magic I'm so pleased to hear your got to see your little sweatpea on scan. Woohoo another hurdle over. I felt the same way. Even now I don't feel I am safe IYKWIM. All the people I have cared for I remember and feel I am never safe with this bub even when she is out I am petrified of SIDS etc. The anxiety just never seems to go away although alot of the time now I love everything about been pregnant and preparing for a baby even with the thoughts there not to prepare to much. Such a shame such a wonderful time in our lives can be fueled with such fear of not getting a take home baby at the end. I hope your anxiety eases up when your over the 12week mark.
Stoked woohoo for having a sneak peak at your bub again.
Unfortaunely for DH the vein problem I have has made my desire to DTD greater then ever . I can only put it down to the increase in blood supply down there. We are averaging 3-4times a week in my head I want to stop because it does make the thing blow up even more and causes discomfort afterwards and maybe thats whats made it so bad in the first place. Its almost double the amount when we were ttc. DH has a converstation with his cousin who is ttc their 3rd and he was complaining that as soon as his wife is pregnant he will be lucky to get it once a month. DHs cousin was saying he felt sorry for DH as pregnancy = no sex lol. DH had to have a chuckly that he can't keep it up to me I'm hoping it might influence DH to have another baby one day. We always planned on another but after loosing 3 pregnancies and taking over 2yrs to fall pregnant DH was very keen on having the snip and closing the book so we finish up on a good note. Maybe when he doesn't get much after the baby is born he will change his mind again
Reet can you send some of your cleaning vibes to me? I just can't get motivated.
OOOOOhhhhhhhhh!! how i miss my fabulous sex with DH we are a 3-4 times a week couple aswell aslong as work doesnt get in the way and now thanks to this placenta NOTHING! NADDA BUBCUS! it's so depressing i even leaned over hubby in bed the other morning and opened up our goodie draw and said i miss you to them it made hubby laugh but it is still depressing but i do hope that my u/s at 32 weeks shows it has moved away from the cervix then it will be a sexfest until little miss arrives.
Possum & Mildez-i feel like that i still worry i wont be taking our girl home but i make an effort to enjoy this pregnancy because it isnt fair on her for me not to believe everthing will be alright and if it does turn out all good i dont want to look back and regret not enjoying being pregnant with her or doing all the normal pregnancy preperations so i had to force myself to put a pram and carset ect on laybye and buy everything she needs but i feel good knowing i am ready.
AFM- Two 10 hour shifts down now two days off then two more 10 hour shifts yuk!
HI all, it has been such a long time since i posted...i have now lost four little angel babies. I remember when I first joined in here i would read others sad experience and thought how awful it must be to lose more than one baby, i never thought for a moment it would happen twice let alone 4 times.
Anyway the clincher is I am 12 weeks pregnant tomorrow, I went to have the NT scan and the sac was empty WTF! I cant believe it????
So the thing is, I had the scan, he started with an abdominal scan and my uterus was tilted too far back to see so he switched to vaginal and there is clearly no 12 week baby there but there was something...the dr said so, and made comments like "there is something in the corner here" he measured its rate as it was flashing and it came back at 139 BPM. He said well theres definitely a fetal heart, he then continued to poke and prod and finished with, it must be blood flow... he told me it wasnt a viable pregnancy and go home as I would likely miscarry in the next 3-4 days.
Thing is I left there believing him and then the more I thought about it, the more I question it. I googled...i know...(sigh) and tilted uterus' have been known to hide babys, there is even a story of a lady who didnt see her 12 week baby and then at 18 weeks there it was...
Do you think that if it was blood flow it would be running at 139 BPM?? I dont know, I just thought maybe if my uterus was tilted enough that maybe bubby was hidden behind the corner or something. Its like he thought it was a baby and then changed his mind and stopped looking at it.
I decided to do afollow up scan tomorrow with a different place, I rang them and told them what happened and they were happy for me to come in. I called my midwife and she said definitely get a second opinion as crazier things have happened.
If this is loss number 5 I cant believe it, especially when i thought I was 12 weeks, we were so excited to have finally made it.
Sorry this is all about me today, thanks for reading. PLease share anything you have, its my last shread of hope tomorrow, i really dont think I can do it again...
Exited and disappointed at the same time. Bub's HB was between 101 and 119 whichthe lady said is good. Bub is also way behind on dates though. I should be 8w2d but am only measuring as 5w5d. Not sure wwhat to make of that but I get to go back for another scan in 10days I think it is.
millyD I'm sorry to hear your scan was so confusing. I haven't heard of that before but I have cared for a woman who had a very interesting few months. Firstly her pregnancy was an IVF pregnancy where she had 2 embies implanted. At 6weeks she had a scan which showed one empty sac and a healthy pregnancy measuring around what she was. At 10weeks she had a bleed so had another scan which showed a bub measuring 8weeks with no heartbeat. She had PV bleeding at this time and it was written in the conclusion a D&C was recommended. She refused as she said she knew the baby was fine. She had a repeat scan a week later which also showed the same thing. The lady then had a scan at 18weeks which showed a healthy pregnancy at 10weeks so they referred her else where and then a scan at 21weeks (done at a fetal medicine unit) showed her bub was 21weeks and perfect. No sign of the sac with no heartbeat in it or the smaller bub. If I hadn't read the reports myslef no way would I have believed it possible to have so many scans that were wrong. I couldn't believe everything I read in her notes had recommended she have a D&C and how luck she was to have stuck with her head and refused. Bub was so lucky.
Damprye glad to hear you got to see your bubs beautiful little heartbeat. Did they do an internal one or external. My second child measured 8days behind and by the 13week scan was measuring what I really thought she was. Then they said because my uterus was retroverted that thats why they didn't get the measurements right. Hope the next 10days goes quickly for you.
After everything me and DP have been through, he now wants to abort our baby! He has decided that he doesn't want anymore kids. I think for the protection of me and this babe, I will have no choice but to leave him :'( He has never had to go through the physical and mental ramifications of m/c or stayed with a partner after abortion so I do not believe he is entitled to any opinion on the matter yet alone try and force me to go agains my morals! If it was to sick or was killing me then yes I wouldn't have any choice but with a healthy pregnancy, no bloody way! I have supported others through abortion but friends should be supported even when they are doing something you find immoral as long as noone is trying to force you to go against your own morals. There is no reason why this baby would not live a good life even if I had to raise it alone so as far as I am concerned right now, he can take our relationship and shove it where the sun don't shine! I am moving out ASAP
damprye: sorry to hear hun, hopefully he was just being silly and worried for you.. but if you do move out please take it easy!
milly: best of luck for today i hope it turns out wonderful for you.
everyone else: hey! hope its all going well.
afm: went to my local gp yesterday, cuz ive done 3 home preg tests he isnt going to send me for the confirmation blood test, the blood tests i am going for today is the blood group, fbe and antibody scan?? i dunno whatever!! he isnt sending me for the rubella and hiv one cuz i only had that done in june. i just want it to be next friday so i can see if my little baby is ok!
Alish: Sorry you have a week to wait to see your baby! Some Dr just dont get it do they, why not just give you the blood test you wanted! Will be thinking of you!
damprye gee what a shock. I can understand that need to take yourself and belly bub and run. I hope everything is ok under the circumstances. Am thinking of you.
Millyd: I remember you from the last time you were here. I'm sorry you've had such a tough time. No one should have to go through that. I really hope you get good news at your next scan and that, as you say, it is because of your uterus position bub is hiding a bit. I will have everything crossed for you.
Mildez, that's an amazing story about that lady. Seems miraculous. LOL about you keeping your DH on his toes. Sure he will want another baby after how lucky he's getting with this pg! Thanks for your kind words. Yes, it seems there is always something to worry about and I wasn't like this with DD but i've lost my innocence after my losses. Hopefully it will improve though.
Damprye: Wow, you've had some real ups and downs the last few months. I can understand why you would want to protect your baby. What a shock to hear that from your DP after all you've been through to get pg. I hope the next 10 days go as fast as they can and that you get good news at your next scan.
Ferrals: you poor BD-starved thing! LOL at you saying 'i miss you' to the goodie drawer! I hope you get your wish and placenta has moved up at the next scan! I must admit there is no action at our house. I'm too scared. Last time i miscarried it was the day after we DTD. My OB says there's no medical reason not to DTD but agreed most women with my history are too scared. I think i'll give it a rest till (if) i make it to 12 wks.
Reet: Yep, definitely hard to hold on to that reassured feeling but i hope i will get better at is as time goes on (if baby sticks).
Angelfish: Hope you are managing with bed rest and your BF is still doing more to help. You are getting very close to having your baby in your arms.
Alish: Roll on next Friday! Can't wait for you. I decided not to get HCGs done this time because even if they were good my OB said that did not tell us as much as a scan showing a heartbeat. So i decided to hang out for that.
Tegam:
AFM: I had two days of feeling really queasy and then it died down again. Not sure what to make of that. Feeling really hungry (and start to feel sick if i don't eat soon enough) and tired and headachey but otherwise not feeling very pg. But no more bleeding so i just have to wait and see.
Damprye, sounds like you'll be better off without him..... He's jerked you around so much it seems he only thinks of himself.
AFM very scary night last night. i woke up at 1am with a tight hard sore belly, and feeling sick as a dog. clever me jumped in the shower and proceeded to be violently ill (both ends.... TMI!!) for at least half an hour. Dp slept through my sobbing and um gurgling which is probably best as it was quite undignified to say the least. This morning i had backpain so called the hospital. apparently all is ok as long as i dont have any more tight sore tummy, backpain doesnt increase and im not leaking fluid. so far so good.
Sorry for the me post, just feeling a bit rattled after such an awful night. my back still hurts, time for panadol i think.
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. I can only put it down to the increase in blood supply down there. We are averaging 3-4times a week in my head I want to stop because it does make the thing blow up even more and causes discomfort afterwards and maybe thats whats made it so bad in the first place. Its almost double the amount when we were ttc. DH has a converstation with his cousin who is ttc their 3rd and he was complaining that as soon as his wife is pregnant he will be lucky to get it once a month. DHs cousin was saying he felt sorry for DH as pregnancy = no sex lol. DH had to have a chuckly that he can't keep it up to me
I'm hoping it might influence DH to have another baby one day. We always planned on another but after loosing 3 pregnancies and taking over 2yrs to fall pregnant DH was very keen on having the snip and closing the book so we finish up on a good note. Maybe when he doesn't get much after the baby is born he will change his mind again
WTF! I cant believe it????
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