S&S thats a good idea about a list of when our bubs are due.
Wonderful to hear Murraycod is so close to meeting her little lady. Murray if your out there I think of you and your little girl!
Stoked thinking of you and hope your next scan comes around quickly. I felt exactly the same and had multiple scans in the first trimester. 6 by 13weeks and I was still a mess.
Possum magic with my 2nd pregnancy I looked pregnant at 10weeks but this time I still don't look near as far as I am. You have had a scan haven't you? If not maybe there are 2 in there!
alish there are some not very nice names out there isn't there? I have named our baby but DH hasn't agreed just hope he likes it as I'm attached to it. I'll be so disappointed if he says no when little miss is out.
Sorry for the lack of decent persies... I'm working from memory here as I've let myself get a bit behind. I have been reading though, and thinking of you all of course.
Ferrals - Don't forget you and I are racing to the delivery room.... hehehe. We should definitely start some kind of a list so at the bottom I will post my due date.
Reet - This might sound like a crazy suggestion, but what about a neutral/earth tone like brown? Before you gag and say 'what, poo colour?' I'm talking a nice rich chocolate type colour...... even better I would go for cream walls with a chocolate/light brown feature wall. Very modern, and won't keep baby awake all night, lol. Just a thought! Good to hear bubby's been moving around a lot, it's all so exciting. Good luck with the baby shopping, too.
AFM - I've been pretty lazy lately, just feeling exhausted (probably the lack of iron) and sweaty and just blech in general. This is probably way TMI, but I'm also experiencing a change in my um, number 2 habits and wondering if this will last until bubby arrives.
In other news, my sister told me yesterday that Mum called her asking her to book flights and accomodation so she can come and meet baby. For those of you who remember, she made things very difficult for me, saying she didn't know if she would come, made a bunch of excuses why she couldn't etc............. and generally made me feel unimportant and stressed out. So naturally I'm ANGRY that she's pulled this little stunt for what seems like her own gratification. It's like she enjoyed making me beg, knowing she of course was going to be here. That's the kind of selfish stuff she does. Everything is about how SHE feels, and as long as she has the power, then she feels good. Well, I've had enough of that, and I'll be telling her so asap. I just don't know why she couldn't have said 'I haven't organized the finer details yet, but I will be there soon after baby is born one way or another'. HOW HARD IS THAT?! Ok. Deep breaths. Anyway, apparently she said to my sister when she asked why she wasn't calling ME about this, 'Oh, she'll be angry at me so can you organize it'. So she knows what she's done would make me angry, and did it anyway! So so stupid and selfish! I feel like telling her she's not welcome, and that if she's going to pull these kinds of stunts, she doesn't deserve to be a part of this special time. Ugh, I could just cry I'm so irritated. Actually I did already tell her not to bother and that she isn't welcome, and then she goes ahead and tries to get flights booked anyway. Um, yes thanks for listening mum.
What would you do in my situation? Tell her to shove it? Grin and bear it?? I feel like in some ways I'd regret it if she wasn't here, but then in others it'd be a relief. I hate that she puts me in these kinds of positions with her craziness. I only have one parent, why can't she be normal!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't even have a MIL (she died well before I met DP) and the two of us are feeling really alone and without any parental support. Maybe I need to visit the boohoo room.... I don't know. I think first it's time for a nap.
Sorry for the total me-ness of this post, it's been brewing for a while and I think I just had a minor explosion, lol. Oh before I go, I had an appointment with the pediatrics dept at the hospital today, so they could ask me what I know about clubfoot. I told the Dr, and he basically said 'that's right, it's most likely so mild it'll require no treatment or just physio' and sent me on my way. Why did I have to go all the way to the hospital to be told what I've already heard??? The system confuses me and I'm so tired of being jerked around constantly..................... bring on baby's birthday so I'm free of this crazy system!
If you got through my ramblings, bravo
EDIT -(for Ferrals, baby's due date is 14th March. Everyone post yours?)
Last edited by forshelby; January 17th, 2011 at 12:45 PM.
: forgot to add due date
This is hilarous that I have to take over and do this... but I can't keep up......... please feel free to add your dates as some of the EDD's aren't listed on tickers and I am way to dense to work out the date....
Kit - due any day now.... 40 + weeks and counting.
Angel - due late Jan/Early Feb 2011
Ferrals - due
Forshelby - due 14 March 2011
Sunshine and Stars - due 20 March 2011
Kellbell - due 29 April 2011
Reet - due
Melster - due 15 July 2011
then I am not too sure of the order so please add yourself in... if you find the list too confronting please let me know and I'll remove it from my post and keep it somewhere else.
Reet - you sound so much like me - DH and I waited until the very last to put the room together - and we never painted... we just got some wall art together. I like Forshelby's idea of earthy brown and cream. Glad your puppy is bringing you so much joy....
Forshelby - sadly we can't choose our family. I have family members who always put my in a tiz like your mum seems to with you.
The zen part of me says, you are the bigger person and you can rise above her pettiness and let her into your life on your terms at this amazing time. Life is too short to fight and honestly babe, you will never change her... all your emotional angst hasn't even had an impact on her yet, so I doubt it will change. Do you just accept the price of having your mother around generally is that she will upset you and that the only part of the equation you have any control over is yourself?
The hurt wounded side of me, says kick her to the curb, all she does is hurt you and so it's best if she's not around.
Thing is even though I think like that, all big and tough, with family, I can never put it into effect. I wonder why I continue to let them hurt me... but I just decided that's the price I pay for having them around.... and TBH, I would hate for them not to be around. Sounds crazy. Why should some relationships come at such a high price for us? But I also think I need to learn to respond differently to the people that hurt me if they are going to be around me. Seems I have a lot of learning to do in that department.
Babe - only you can make that decision. And it's ok if you make it and decide you want to change your mind to change it.
Stoked - how are you going? In your cave trying to ignore the world? GL tomorrow...
Ferals - glad to make someone's day. Yes H is very tall - 97th percentile. I am so proud of her... she is a really lovely little girl. Just like your girls are.
Alish - seriously Wolfe? But then I know someone who named their baby DJ - stands for the first initials in the mother and father's christian names.
Kellbell - glad you're ok. Are you going to go to the same hossy that you went to last time? Are you happy with your new ob?
Dampyre - glad you feel supported by your boss but sorry the puking returned. You must be feeling icky.
I know I say this a lot, but I miss being pregnant... I even stuck my head in the TTC thread today, day dreaming about when I will be in there again.....don't get me wrong, I love this part of my journey too and wouldn't swap it for anything.
Kit is waiting to get a call from the hossy to put her on a list... FX crossed...as we'll be finding out any day now... yay lil TIGER, god speed.
Last edited by dory; January 17th, 2011 at 02:41 PM.
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forshelby.....i guess the main thing is too really think about the outcome.....and would u regret it if she wasnt there...because sometimes fights and telling em were to go can end up being long standing silence.....so maybe just have a big think about it especially if she is one not to handle cristism....good luck babe...hope u work it out
hey reet....hope ur doing ok
hey everyone else....
Atm........i have a cold at the moment which is making me feel pretty miserable....have my obs app thur...other than being kranky not much else......im heaps smaller this time....and cant wait for bubby to move
hi all.. im due 10th sept apparently! it was the 5th but now the 10th! (one day after my niece's bday, my sister will be p*ssed off lol)
wolfe is a terrible name!!! last pregnancy dh and i chose michaela and i told one of my friends who was pregnant and she stole it, not happy jan! so now i dont want it anyway :P she spelt it differently and it looks illiterate now.
bitter much? haha!
forshelby - no good about your mum, i would tell her i dont want her there, but thats just me im pretty stubborn.. maybe just act like it dosent bother you what she does, if she ends up not coming she will regret it!!
melster - no good about ur cold! feel better soon
geez i was sick today, until 4pm i wanted to spew all day, i even heaved at my desk at work a few times, lucky no one seen it.. working in a hardware full of men sucks, they dont care if u feel crap haha!.. now im just tired with a headache, i dont want that nonsense everyday!!
Dory - As usual you've made me feel 100% better with your awesome advice. I think you're right, the only person I can control is myself and how I react. DP and I were talking about it, and on the up side she'll be on MY turf for once. Things should be mighty different when I'm calling the shots. She's never been to see me in my element (Or bothered to meet my DP) living my life as an independant adult the entire 8 years I've been 'a big girl' so maybe she'll have a few realisations while she's here. Also, I heard she might be bringing her sister (my only Aunty who I ADORE) so I would hate to miss out on that. Thanks again for making so much sense, I feel very zen now lol. Oh and about the list... EEEEEEP I am so close to the top hehehe. Exciting!!!!!
Melster - Also great advice and something I've been considering. She doesn't take any kind of criticism with even so much as a hint of grace, so that's pretty much out. And I think I really would regret it if I didn't just suck it up and hope for the best. At the very least bubby deserves to meet his/her Grandma even if it is only once. Sorry about your cold, that sucks! It won't be long now till you feel bubby move, especially since you know what you're looking for.
Thanks for your advice and kind words ladies. It's so great knowing you all understand and don't think I'm crazy (like a certain DH!).
Had my blood test (for the first trimester screen) today.. So scary. Now I just have to wait another week for my scan.
I'm due 5th August.
Forshelby, dory had great advice (as usual!). I would probably just tell her to get stuffed but that's just the way I am. I get upset and offended waaay to easily though!
Sunshine-that is my sweet angel Abbi's birthday the 20th i am due the 30th but am supose to be having a c section between the 9th and the 16th if placenta doesnt move otherwise i could go anytime from 37 weeks my last son came 3 and a half weeks early.
Reet-i still havnt done a room for our girl i have everthing just havnt set it all up because we need to move i have got her bassinette ready and washed all her clothes sheets ect just in case we are still here.
And u/s is at 32 weeks.
Forshelby-better to know about all the senerios with bubs foot even though the trip to the hospital was a pain lets hope the doc is right and it is really mild.
About your mum i can only imagine how hard it must be but what it really comes down to is how much do you want her in your life and that of your bub if she is always going to be like this and never change and you still get what you need emotionally from her as a mother you will have to except the selfish stunts she seem to pull on you and ignore it and try to enjoy the good things she does do ( if any) other wise if she does nothing but cause you grief and anguish and you really dont want or need her in your life because she only makes it miserable with her behaviour then tell her you have had enough and dont want her making the most special time of your lives to be ruined by her presence and if she does turn up will be asked to leave.
Oh and i have my money on you winning the race i think you will go a little early around the 7th.
Ok i am Due the 30th of march but doc want to do a c section around the 9th-16th.
Going via doctors calculations, I am due on the 16th Aug, but u/s says I am due 4th Sept. Should have a set date after my 12wk scan
So annoyed, I cannot get my brain working to do perssies with DS in such a tired and grumpy mood. He wont stop screaming at me no matter what I do because of it yet screams even louder when I try to get him to go for a nap. Can't believe I'm about to go through it all again o.o
Stoked - I hope your scan goes well, hun... I think it's hard for a man to understand what being pg is like. My DP was going on about how I struggle even cooking dinner because I'm so unfit. I tried to explain that it's because I'm PREGNANT. It's boiling hot in here, we have no ceiling fans, and I'm supposed to stand in the kitchen for an hour or more cooking some elaborate feast with swollen feet..... yeah. Plus it's starting to get uncomfortable when I bend over, so of course getting plates etc is becoming an ordeal. They just don't get it. About mum, I called her last night so will update on that at the bottom. Hope you're well!
Ferrals - Oh I agree completely it's best to know all the details....... except that I'd already discussed all this with my GP and so am not sure why I had to go to the hospital to have the same conversation with a Dr I don't know. Lol... crazy. I actually had a feeling I might go a little bit early around the 7th........... maybe we're both psychic! In the end it doesn't matter who wins, lol but it's fun to speculate! I agree with everything you said about Mum.. there is the potential for her to be captain bringdown as usual. Will reflect on this more at the end
Damprye - Ahh the joys hehe.
AFM - So I called Mum last night to let her know I've heard she's planning on coming when bubs is born. She was dumbfounded at first, didn't know what to say and seemed a bit 'sprung'. Then she dropped the bombshell. She expects me to pick her up at the airport!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't think so! It's at least a 3 hour round trip from where I am, and I am soooo not doing that with a newborn baby, who will probably need feeding during that time, not to mention I'll be recovering from childbirth! I told her there's no way in hell I was putting myself through that when she can easily take the train. (The station is 5 mins from my house and the ticket is less than fuel would cost me). If she was coming for any other reason, and I wasn't recovering, then sure I would do it to shut her up. But GEEEEZ! Talk about demanding. I get the feeling she's going to be really difficult to deal with, since she can't do anything or go anywhere without someone holding her hand. She makes the smallest task into a massive ordeal, and I can just see myself getting angry. I think she expects me to chauffer her around also the whole time she's here, and if she's going to go anywhere (i.e shopping, lunch etc) I am meant to take her. For someone who's given birth 4 times, she seems to have forgotten what it's like to have a newborn. In the end, I told her it's her decision, and if it's all too hard and she can't get past her unfounded fears then to just stay away. Of course her response to that is that she'll just come down to see my sister and her husband then. What a nasty thing to say............ and untrue. As if she would come all this way at a time when I've just had my first baby, and purposely NOT see her grandchild. She likes to say things she knows will rile me up just for a bit of drama. Anyway, I took Dory's advice and just ignored her stupid remarks, and told her the choice is hers, and to work it out. I'm not going to pander to her stupid drama queen tactics any more.
I am a bit worried her presense (and constant negative energy and comments) will ruin what's meant to be a very special time for us...... but am still unsure what to do. As Ferrals said, I have to weigh up what she offers, and whether or not I'm getting what I need from her emotionally. If I'm honest with myself, I'm not. And she only causes me annoyance at the best of times.
I tried to make it clear to her that I WON'T be entertaining her while she's here, that she's coming to HELP, and that I will be resting as much as possible. She actually laughed at me and said 'you don't get to rest, what do you think you're going to put me to work?' No but I WILL NOT spend the time she's here running after her taking her where she wants to go when I should be at home bonding with my baby and establishing a routine. How f@#$%^ selfish............ if I wanted to go somewhere as a kid, the answer was always NO. Now I'm expected to be her personal tour guide and taxi driver? wtf?!
Ok so that was a rather large vent, sorry about that...... it's just all so complicated. We'll see how this whole thing goes, and if she's a PITA like I think she will be, then I'll be forgetting about any kind of relationship with her altogether. She's done nothing but cause stress and irritation during my pregnancy, and it's very clear that everything is about her and her needs. She isn't interested in being supportive, or helpful, and is actually giving the impression I should be grateful she's taking the time to inconvenience herself by coming down. I guess I have to give it a chance and in a very childish way, I want her to see how happy and successful I am here, and what lovely things I have. LOL, so mature of me.
Oh and one more thing........ I AM SICK TO DEATH OF MY TRANSITION INTO ADULTHOOD BEING REFERRED TO AS RUNNING AWAY FROM HOME. I grew up and moved out! That's what happens when you've grown up! Maybe the reason I had to move so far is because you're psychotic, mum!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Kit - due any day now.... 40 + weeks and counting.
Angel - due late Jan/Early Feb 2011
Forshelby - due 14 March 2011
Ferrals - due 30 March 2011 but c sec likely between 9 - 15 March 2011.
Sunshine and Stars - due 20 March 2011
Kellbell - due 29 April 2011
Reet - due
Melster - due 15 July 2011
Stoked - due 5 August 2011
Dampyre - due 15 August - 5 September 2011
Alish - due 10 September 2011
You know doing this list has got me super excitted for you all and so confident! No way was I this confident when it was me counting down the days....
Stoked - ah sweetie - DH's - can't really understand them at times.....glad you got to do your bloods and the count down is on to your scan.... keep the faith, and if you can't I will for you.
Ferrals - oh I sweetie - I remember you talking about March and Abbi's birthday but was so self involved that I didn't really absorb it at the time. Do you have any plans to celebrate Abbi's birthday this year? I know it might be hard if little miss makes her grand entry before then. About preparations - you've done all you need to for now.
Alish - sorry you felt so sick.... just repeat, I am doing the bestest thing in the world right now - growing a baby! Hopefully that helps you through! Sorry you had a name stealer too - I never tell people I know just for that reason!
Melster - feel better soon.
Forshelby - I am so sorry that your Mum can't see past herself.... but her expectation that you collect her from the airport just had me LMAO... it is so ridiculous. You are right - best to stay away from the airport ( germs) and the travel ( I found it to be really hard with a newborn and it takes sooo much more time if you have to stop to feed, etc). Your focus will be the baby and yourself. You just don't need that hassle. She's a big girl now so she can work it out for herself, it's so easy to catch the train, even my Dad can do it. You stick to your guns too, about not running her around. Hopefully your Aunt will help sort her out. I think this is going to be a water shed time for you..... as you are parenting your little squashie you'll reflect a lot on your relationship with your mum.
So did you descend into the bowels of hell for your appointment about bubs club foot? Sorry it seemed like a waste of time. Which hossy were you hoping to deliver at? I am pretty sure I remember you saying the Mater? OMG I remember how hard it was to do anything toward the end of the pregnancy.....
I sorry that DP just doesn't get how demanding pregnancy is... I am glad you're not listening to his misconceptions and sticking to your guns. Did you ever take DP maternity clothes shopping with you? Why don't you and get him to strap on one of those pillows around his middle? Or do the easy option of fold a pillow in two tie it around his middle and make him see what it is remotely like ( and now I am on a roll..... maybe wrap some towels around his ankles so he gets the gist of cankles, and then add a 5kg bag of oranges to a back pack on his back) and see how long he can stick it out whilst cooking dinner and doing the housework. I am ROTFL at the whole mental image of that one....
Dampyre - We all have bad days sweetie - just go with it and repeat - this too will pass. Hope DS got over his need to scream.
It's weird, for so long I was looking forward to when Hannah's day sleeping became more predictable and now it is, whilst I love the opportunity to get on to BB, I miss her. Too sad. She's now at the stage where she can be awake for about 2 hours. When she was newborn, her limit was pretty much 1 hour and the feeding and changing and a little song or story and would take up all that time and the settling would then take up most of the time til the next sleep. It's so exciting to actually be able to do some stuff with her now... anyway some bills to pay. urgh.
Kit - due any day now.... 40 + weeks and counting.
Angel - due late Jan/Early Feb 2011
Forshelby - due 14 March 2011
Ferrals - due 30 March 2011 but c sec likely between 9 - 15 March 2011.
Sunshine and Stars - due 20 March 2011
Jenna - due 28 March 2011
Kellbell - due 29 April 2011
Reet - due
Melster - due 15 July 2011
Stoked - due 5 August 2011
Dampyre - due 15 August - 5 September 2011
Alish - due 10 September 2011
Dory - Oh I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thinks her wanting me to pick her up is totally OTT. I didn't even consider the germs at the airport.... good thinking! She threw a right tanty and said that she has to pick me up when I fly up to visit her. Er yes, you live 5 mins from the airport mother dear. It's a bit different when I have to travel to the next city to collect you! I think the reflection has already started tbh.... I don't know how I turned out non-crazy being raised by THAT. About my appointment, no it was in Southport this time. They just sent me to Brissie for the tertiary scan so I won't have to go back there. (Although the mater was nice). I'll be delivering at Southport.
Oh and I'm absolutely LMAO at the image of DP with the pillows, towels and oranges strapped on. He does a lot of hard manual labour at work, so I think that when he compares me 'sitting at home all day' and the work he does, my job is easier. (it probably is if I'm honest) Really though it's apples and oranges. I'm pregnant, it's over 30 degrees every day, doing simple things is hard. He doesn't give me too much grief over it, it's just the occasional comment here and there. I try to just ignore it and do what I can. It does kind of bother me when I bust my butt to get the laundry done and folded and he'll completely demolish my neatly folded piles on his shelves looking for a particular pair of shorts. I've given up re-folding them now. If his butt looks crumpled then that's too bad! I only do my work once, not twice because he got in a flap over his pants. LOL. He makes me laugh, and that's why I love him.
Is Hannah Bear sleeping through the night now? On one hand it would be nice having the designated 'free' time to get things done while she's asleep, but I think I would be the same and I'd miss my bubby while they snoozed. Hehehe, we're such softies.
Forshelby: Bravo! I wanted to stand up and cheer for you when you (wrote that you) told your mum "well, you work it out it's up to you". Good on you for letting her stew in her own juices and sidestepping the invitation to get upset with her for saying she'd visit your sister and not you.
Dory: Thanks for doing the list. It feels so long til my turn! I'm due August 28th but will be induced about two weeks before because of medical issues. That make it August 14th but that's a Sunday i think so about the 12th? But maybe i could ask for the 11th? 11/08/11 would be a cool birthday!
Alish: Gasp! I would have been soooo p*sed off about having my name stolen! That was mean!
Mildez: Now you have me wildly curious about the name you like (but I understand for the above reason if you are keeping it to yourself til bubs arrives).
forshelby - great work! mum sounds rather........ difficult haha! desperatly needs a wake up call! best to ignore people like that.
dory - great advice! very wise lady
thanks everyone, im feeling not too bad today, still have had a few heaves but nothing too bad, went on a little jog/walk today so i did ok!! im taking it as a good sign anyway, if baby is making me sick that must mean she/he is growing ok?? thats all that matters!!
my oath i was angry, when she told me the name i was just like hmmm THATS NICE ISNT IT!! oh well it happens
hi everyone else hope your day is going fantastic
Last edited by alish; January 18th, 2011 at 11:45 AM.
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For those of you who remember, she made things very difficult for me, saying she didn't know if she would come, made a bunch of excuses why she couldn't etc............. and generally made me feel unimportant and stressed out. So naturally I'm ANGRY that she's pulled this little stunt for what seems like her own gratification. It's like she enjoyed making me beg, knowing she of course was going to be here. That's the kind of selfish stuff she does. Everything is about how SHE feels, and as long as she has the power, then she feels good. Well, I've had enough of that, and I'll be telling her so asap. I just don't know why she couldn't have said 'I haven't organized the finer details yet, but I will be there soon after baby is born one way or another'. HOW HARD IS THAT?! Ok. Deep breaths. Anyway, apparently she said to my sister when she asked why she wasn't calling ME about this, 'Oh, she'll be angry at me so can you organize it'. So she knows what she's done would make me angry, and did it anyway! So so stupid and selfish! I feel like telling her she's not welcome, and that if she's going to pull these kinds of stunts, she doesn't deserve to be a part of this special time. Ugh, I could just cry I'm so irritated. Actually I did already tell her not to bother and that she isn't welcome, and then she goes ahead and tries to get flights booked anyway. Um, yes thanks for listening mum.
I wanted to stand up and cheer for you when you (wrote that you) told your mum "well, you work it out it's up to you". Good on you for letting her stew in her own juices and sidestepping the invitation to get upset with her for saying she'd visit your sister and not you. 
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