Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ January 2011

[KitFaerie]

Having some trouble putting down the corn chips, so consider yourselves lucky

Forshelby: Wow. Really? Wow. You definitely did the right thing in putting the ball back in your mum's court. I know it would be nice for you to have your mum there once bubs is born, but I question how much help and relaxation she's actually going to provide! My mum's here and she's awesome, but I still reserve the right to send her to my sister's place if it gets too much (she's cool with that, as long as I understand that her cooking is worse than mine). Some kids are ''resiliant'' which means that whatever is thrown at them, they tend to be ok and raise themselves to be happy adults.

Alish: Yay for nausea! I loved it, well, it was a love/hate relationship. It made me relieved.

Mildez: I'm keeping quiet on the names front too, although DH has thrown in a few names in the last couple of days which have changed the decision entirely! We have a mix of old school names and very uncommon names.

Stoked: GL with the scan!

Dory: You definitely look like your having fun with the list there, loving it! It sounds like HB is getting her personality on! Have you eaten cheesecake since you had her? (I remember you made one once, and then realised you couldn't eat it!)

AFM: Lots of BH. Lots of kicks. Lots of telling DH what to do from my position on the couch

[Melster]

Kit...hope everything goes well

Alish...yep my ob said the sicker i was the better it was.

Hey possum..

Forshelby.....what a situation...i can feel you're frustration.......its a really hard one...im almost inclined to tell you to tell her NOT to come..sounds like she is going to be hard hard work...and you are defiantly not going to need that after birth..you will be hormonal and emotional and tired and trying to work things out.......i guess you need to work out whats hormones talking and whats actually her. Maybe write her a letter and just say everything you need to...and you have a bit of time...maybe she would be over it by the birth...and if she isnt..maybe the problems go deep down...its just hard because you dont want to regret it....goodluck with what ever you decide but you need to stick up for yourself like you just did...

Man i feel so pooped from this cold...really hits you when you cant take anything..

[dory]

The List...

Kit - due any day now.... 40 + weeks and counting.
Angel - due late Jan/Early Feb 2011 - my best estimate
Forshelby - due 14 March 2011
Ferrals - due 30 March 2011 but c sec likely between 9 - 15 March 2011.
Sunshine and Stars - due 20 March 2011
Ionna Macca - 26 March 2011
Jenna - due 28 March 2011
Mildez - due March/April 2011 - my best estimate
Kellbell - due 29 April 2011
Reet - due April/May 2011 - my best estimate
T Hopes - due May/June 2011 - my best estimate
Melster - due 15 July 2011
Stoked - due 5 August 2011
PossumMagic - due 28 August 2011 but induction about 12 August 2011
Possums - due July/August 2011 - my best estimate
Dampyre - due 15 August - 5 September 2011 - date to be confirmed
Alish - due 10 September 2011
Clairesmummy - due August/September 2011 - my best estimate
BecnXavi - due August/September 2011 - my best estimate.
KirstenFleut - due August/September 2011 - my best estimate.


I wanted to say a hello to those who haven't posted for a while cause Forshelby and I seem to be on here like women possessed - Mildez ( but I see a quick one in here recentll which I missed), Kirsten Fleur, Millyd ( hugs sweetie... I am going to PM you), Bexnxavi, Possums ( who snuck in briefly, sneak back!), Ionna Macca ( OMG 30 weeks!!!), Jenna ( thanks for dropping in, how is the GD management going?), THopes (hope your kidney pain is being managed and is bearable), and Tenibear ( not sure if you still subscribe to this thread or not, you posted in here ages ago ..)

Kit - nah - I 've not made another cheesecake ... yet... I seem to choose to spend time here doing lists! Actually I choose to rest ( aka BB or read and maybe sometimes nap) or do necessary housework... although I am starting to get into the swing of cooking again as my energy levels pick up. Nah HB is not sleeping through from dusk til dawn but she usually is only up once or twice now - once between 12-2 and once between 3-5. Last night though, she went to bed about 7.30pm, up at 1.30am, then not again til 6ish, but I managed to shusshh her back to sleep til 7am. Bliss - a sleep in. I have tried to dream feed her before I go to bed in the hope she'll then sleep through... nah, she just wakes up more. Somedays she sleeps fine til 2ish but then it's every hour. It's all pretty variable but at least 4 nights a week she is only getting up once or twice. Not too bad. Some of the babies in my belly belly/babies born are sleeping from about 9pm through to 6/7am.

I just worked out why I am on here so much at the mo - I am not going out. Have decided I just can't be bothered, so then I have more time on my hands and need an excuse to avoid housework. LOL.

[Mildez]

Forshelby what a horrid thing to be expected of just after you have your bub. Stcik to your guns. Your mum should be coming to help you and support you and be honoured to be apart of a new journey/chapter in your life not have expectation of you to care for her also. I hope it all works out for the best. Hope she got the message loud and clear but it doesn't sound like she will.

Dory your good. I'm due 14th April. Dr is actually going before that but I am not. Bub will come when she is good and ready and if not I am serving her with a eviction notice in the form of an amniotic hook.

Kit sounds like its all systems go now and all those signs are there. How exciting. It feels like a million miles away before I get to where you are lol. Good on you for telling your DH what to do.

Yes I'm around reading alot but not posting much. I am on a few forums (ectopic and ltttc) and am finding it hard to respond to them all.

[becnxavi]

I'm still here Dory! I've been reading but not posting. I'm due 10th September same as Alish. I'm trying to lay low untill I get to 12 weeks, becasue I'm beside myself with worry. I had a fall on the weekend and now I have an ultra sore abdomen (no bleeding) I didn't actually fall on my stomach but I kind of did the splits and now particularly under my belly and up one side hurts like I've pulled a muscle badly. I am trying to get in to see my GP but no luck till Thursday!

It's lovely reading all of your inspiring stories, and makes me realise that I might actually get there!

Bec

[Clairesmummy]

Ok so I have to get it together and catch up on all the personals in here, but please go easy on me ladies as I have the outlaws staying with us at the moment and OMG she is driving me crazy, balmy, mad, insane any word you can put to it I am feeling right now.
I had to have another lot of BTs done yesterday as they couldnt get the last lot to the lab due to the floods, so I get my results for them on Thursday morning. My GP gave me both my referrals 1 for my dating scan to be done at 8 weeks and I also got my PREGNANCY referral to go back and see my OB/GYN who I have an appointment with this Friday. My GP says I am due on the 12 Sept. so that makes me 6 weeks PG but I think I am only 5 weeks. So we shall see I guess, lol.
I have had a few bouts of feeling crook from time to time no throwing up just yet, but eating or should I say grazing constantly through the day, peeing alot, feeling very tired and my nipples are definately extremely tender at the moment.
So far I am feeling fairly confident about it all so I'm praying it stays that way so I can just sit back and enjoy being UTD. I know I will be a head case though when it comes to that dreaded first scan.
Sorry for the lack of personals ladies but have to go and get dinner ready for our house full of guests, I can't wait to get my house back to myself.
Will be back later hope everyone is going well and thinking of you all.
xoxo

[possum magic]

Clairesmummy: Hi, was wondering how you are going! Oh dear, outlaws! Best of luck! How did your ticker move so fast?! Can't believe you're at 6wks now! Hey i've got the tender nipple thing too. I find it quite reassuring actually. Makes me feel pg...oh, that and the nightly nausea and the fact that I'm falling asleep soon after DD! (I get up around 11pm or 12 again and prowl around for a bit!)

Hi Kit: Can't wait to see your BA and find out what Tiger will be called when he's on the outside! Enjoy the couch time! Rest up as much as you can.
Becnxavi: Poor thing! Sounds sore. Hope you start to feel better soon.
Dory: You're a champion! What a list! Great to see who's due when over the next few months. Oh, and IKWYM about the dream feed thing. I did it for a while with DD when she was little but i found that she often woke up again later anyway so there was little point. It was better to let her sleep and just get woken once instead of twice. (My DD was never a great sleeper tho and sleeping through has only ever been something she's done in bursts... even now! Now it's the active imagination that gets her up at night; dreams. But she's been great in other ways so we forgive her the sleeping thing!).
Ferrals: How you managing at work this week? Still training your replacement?
Kirstenfleur: How are you doing?
T-hopes: How are you feeling?
Mildez: lol the amniotic hook! Cool avi, is it new?
Melster: hope you feel better soon. I have found colds really hard to get over in recent times. Kids seem to pass on really powerful ones. It's been 9- 10 day recovery times for me. My pg friend is the same: she's still trying to get over a cold she got around New year's. I hate the last bit of a cold- the gluey stage!
Angel: Hope you are feeling ok and Blood pressure issues are staying under control. You've been quiet for a few days.

Sorry if i've left anyone out. As i said above, i've been so tired and queasy at night i lie down and sleep soon after DD goes to bed then get up about 11pm or so for a prowl around for a while before back to bed. Sending belly rubs to all!

[sunshine and stars]

Hello everyone--

Forshelby-- I am so proud of you -- I can't believe that your mom expected you to pick her up from the airport...wow. You did right by telling her to work it out herself. Good for you for setting some good boundaries with her! My mom doesn't really drive, so I have warned her that we might not be going out very much when she comes to see me two weeks after the birth. I have no desire to take a newborn out of the house so soon, unless it is for a walk around the block! And if I have a cesearean, I won't be driving anyway! LOL!

Friends, it is snowing AGAIN here. The good thing is that I really can't go to work at the church when it snows, 'cause the church parking lot doesn't get plowed and it's too dangerous to walk on. The bad thing is that I still have to work but I can do it from home-- just feeling lazy. Also, the snow means that the meeting to find my replacement at work has been cancelled AGAIN 'cause of snow...I really hope that they secure someone soon!

Dory-- Thanks for the list of due dates...I printed it out 'cause it helps to keep everyone's stories straight. My preggo-brain is in such a muddle, most of the time!

The cold sores are healing, but still look rather unfortunate. Oh well... so much for vanity. LOL.
Sorry for no more personals, but I am feeling blah and dense...not sure if anything I would say would even make sense!

[angelfish]

sunshine~ we are getting ice right now
possium~ i am doing okay i don't know if its the weather or recovering from bf kids being here or what. But i just have been hiding under my rock.

AFM~ i go in weather perminting tommorow for my weekly non stress test and meet the new dr that was hired by the practice they want you to meet everyone which is a good idea but there is a total of 6 different drs. I dont know yet about my BP but i only swelled this weekend when his kids were here becosue i was not left alone to rest.Also my bf has court today that deals with the false report of him being mean to his kids.
I am 37 weeks and ready for her to be here. But i am so nervouse about giving birth due to bp, heart problems and anything else that can go wrong i really need to stop looking up things on google
I hope everyone is well

[sunshine and stars]

Angelfish-- I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers! Google can drive you nuts...I was convinced, at one point, that I had some weird condition. You are going to have a good birth-- you've come so far already!!!

My hubby is out shoveling again. I hope that he doesn't have a heart attack!!!

[angelfish]

sunshine~ yeah google is bad when you are on bedrest or anytime really my dr office told me when i was 12 not to google call them lol. Has the snow stopped for you still a mix of snow and ice here.

AFM : BF court case pushed off until next month but the judge wants to talk next time about the travel and pick up which is good. My bf is responsible to go after work on friday at 6 pm drive 3 to 4 hours pick them up and then drive back. She wanted to get him to have to take off of work early and pick them up at four the judge wants to talk next time about her having to drive halfway so that it far

[alish]

hi everyone!
feel crap today, i wish i could have the day off work and bond with my couch!! i updated my ticker to the proper date, i wasnt going to incase the dates changed, but i can always do it again!

bec - glad you got an appointment, everything will be fine, but it will put your mind at ease anyway!

dory - ikwym about being on here all the time, me too! in the morning before work, lunchbreak and when i get home! im really loving it! its nice to talk to people that actually know what youre going through.. plus we never do much anymore, we just bought 40 acres so 2 mortgages is putting a big of a strain on the financial ties, friends dont seem to understand! plus if im in hiding i dont have to explain why im "not drinking" which ive gotten heaps already!!

melster, angelfish, sunshine & stars - hope the cold isnt giving you too much grief!! be careful in that snow if you have to go out!

possum magic - hey! hope youre going ok! being queasy is crap isnt it, but soo worth it

clairesmummy - hey! no good about the outlaws! my mil lives about 2 seconds around the corner .... yes..... dreading that when the baby comes! be good to move to our block!

kit - hurry up already!! you must be abit over it!

hi everyone else, im being a bit lazy and only reading this page, everyone is writing so much!! im thinking of you all!! xx

have a lovely day!

[Clairesmummy]

Clairesmummy: Hi, was wondering how you are going! Oh dear, outlaws! Best of luck! How did your ticker move so fast?! Can't believe you're at 6wks now! Hey i've got the tender nipple thing too. I find it quite reassuring actually. Makes me feel pg...oh, that and the nightly nausea and the fact that I'm falling asleep soon after DD! (I get up around 11pm or 12 again and prowl around for a bit!)

Hi Kit: Can't wait to see your BA and find out what Tiger will be called when he's on the outside! Enjoy the couch time! Rest up as much as you can.
Becnxavi: Poor thing! Sounds sore. Hope you start to feel better soon.
Dory: You're a champion! What a list! Great to see who's due when over the next few months. Oh, and IKWYM about the dream feed thing. I did it for a while with DD when she was little but i found that she often woke up again later anyway so there was little point. It was better to let her sleep and just get woken once instead of twice. (My DD was never a great sleeper tho and sleeping through has only ever been something she's done in bursts... even now! Now it's the active imagination that gets her up at night; dreams. But she's been great in other ways so we forgive her the sleeping thing!).
Ferrals: How you managing at work this week? Still training your replacement?
Kirstenfleur: How are you doing?
T-hopes: How are you feeling?
Mildez: lol the amniotic hook! Cool avi, is it new?
Melster: hope you feel better soon. I have found colds really hard to get over in recent times. Kids seem to pass on really powerful ones. It's been 9- 10 day recovery times for me. My pg friend is the same: she's still trying to get over a cold she got around New year's. I hate the last bit of a cold- the gluey stage!
Angel: Hope you are feeling ok and Blood pressure issues are staying under control. You've been quiet for a few days.

Sorry if i've left anyone out. As i said above, i've been so tired and queasy at night i lie down and sleep soon after DD goes to bed then get up about 11pm or so for a prowl around for a while before back to bed. Sending belly rubs to all!

PossumMagic~ I changed my ticker when my DR told me when I am due to have bub, I was a week out so I changed it to the DRs dates. lol...times not flying that quickly for me darl....

[ferrals5]

Kit-you still here! it cant be to much longer now i am looking forward to tigers name also.

Dory-I actually think if i have little miss by c section early before Abbi's Bday that would be good it will help get through her loss and i can look at my girl and see her sister in her i am a little worried if the placenta moves and i can have a natural birth that little miss will make her entrance on the 20th her big sisters Bday i dont know how i will be mixed feeling of absolute joy and heart break at the same time how do you celebrate the birth of one child and the death of another on the same day.

Forshelby-After reading your last post OMG! i would tell her not to come you really dont need that sh#t going on when bub is here.

Dory-I found BF bubs wake more often then bottle fed bubs my 3 boys all slept through the night from 2-4 weeks of age usually 10pm to 6am and if they grizzled through the night i gave them a dummy i am going to try again to BF little miss so dont know what i am in for on the sleep front.

Sorry for lack of persies i will be back later i have the next 3 days off i have finished training my replacement so now just waiting until the 13th of feb and i am done.

[Melster]

Morning ladies..

Boy my chest is sore...anyone got any remidies for pregnant ladies..my nose has eased some what..but its my chest..its like a big bark but my chest feels heavy and hot....boy do i feel poo....colds seem to hang around forever when you cant take anything..and then ill be up all night with my daughter when she gets it.......JOYS!!!!!!!!!

[ferrals5]

Melster-I had a really bad flu a few months ago and went to the chemist there is a chesty cough medicine to help bring up the phlem and make your chest feel better and it is safe in pregnancy just speak to the chemist i had a choice of two one was for heavy chest and phlem the other was for dry cough.

AFM-forgot to add 30 weeks today.
And anyone have any info on testicular cancer my 17 year old is being tested for it.

[ck08]

Hi Everyone,

New to the thread. Just got my BFP on Sunday. I'm in a little bit of disbelief. I had a blood test to confirm, and will have another on Thursday to see if my hcg levels are rising normally. I think if that test is good I will be a little happier. I'm just sad that I'm not that excited about being pg right now because I know it doesn't necessarily mean I will end up with a baby. Really need to find a way to relax and be happy because I know that stressing is not going to help, but I had no idea it would be so hard!

Looking forward to sharing the journey with you all. BTW, my EDD is September 25.

-CK

[dory]

OMG OMG OMG -

WELCOME TO THE WORLD TIGER

Kitfaerie is currently enjoying newborn cuddles with her little boy - TIGER- born today, 19 January 2011 at 10.15am weighing in at 4.1kg. Kit is happy and describes her DH as "giddy". The proud new parents have not yet decided on a name, so TIGER it is for a little while yet.

KIT - congratulations my dear blossom - you did it! I am so proud of you and so happy for you. It is just the best - enjoy your newborn cuddles. Wish I could come visit you and share the love. Take care.

I will be back later for persies and to update to list. Welcome CK and congrats on your BFP.