Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ July 2010

[dory]

Wow - get the crowd back together and it is SO hard to keep up in here! And it's risque now too. But I don't mind, it's about the only way I get any sort of naughties.... it has been a drought here since about 4/5 weeks! Hmmm, some 28 weeks ago. God forbid!

Ferals - I was going to say I think you should do your ticker.........embrace this pregnancy, it's here and now. As hard as it is, be thankful for this moment, this day, this time. I know it's hard to have belief, but my sweet, believe in this little bubba. Hilarious about DH getting worried. You should have told him it was the pox!

Murray - thanks for asking about me and the fur babies. I am so excited - from a distance of about 3 metres I got to at least see and hear my fur baby. Only 12 more sleeps til he comes home from his treatment. Seeing him has made me feel so much better, and less miserable. My aunt was giving me a hard time about paying for the treatment for him. It really upsets me, I accept her decisions would be different to mine, and I wish she'd just stop banging on about it. But her view is the more often you say something the truer it becomes or more likely it is that people will agree with you or maybe she just thinks I am deaf. I have heard incessantly over the past two years about her views on all things pregnancy and baby. For DH and I there was no question about the cat getting treatment but there was a question about which treatment. I really attribute some of my healing over the past two years to the cats, apart from DH, they are what helped me get out of bed each day and at least at times look forward to what the day might bring .... and certainly whilst I have been at home these past 26 weeks, they have been invaluable company. I am indeed truly thankful for their companionship. Hmm - I don't think I am in a good place with my relationship with her at the moment, and feeling a bit weepy and sorry for myself.

Tegam - For me personally, given my journey, and my classification as a high risk pregnancy, I would only ever choose hospital birth to have the medical support on hand, for either myself or baby. But some low risk women really relish their home births. I suppose all you can do, is go with what feels right for you and your family, after doing a lot of research. But if you opt for home birth, always have a contingency plan in place in case a medical emergency develops. I would recommend going to visit a hospital and a birthing centre and interviewing a few midwives so you can make a more informed choice.

Ms Kara - congratluations - good to see you in here.

Murray - awesome news about little cod! I can just imagine Mr Cod leaping around like a kid in a lolly shop.

Elise - I am used to this indulgent lifestyle..... that's the part i worry about most, adjusting to a less relaxed lifestyle once bubs is here. But I am glad you are enjoying it. I think I read that book, but I did see the movie - it was compelling. I just watched Notes on a Scandal - it was very interesting too.

HPL - good to see you're going well.

Ashie - good news with the bleeding stopping. It can be so hard....hoping this is the last of it til post partum!

Audax - I am with Murray can't believe you're still riding, but then again, I was still playing sport and surfing with little Sprite and Amelia.... oh how times have changed for me.

Angel, Forshelby, Ric and anyone else I have missed.

OH congrats TwinSis on the arrival of dear sweet little Paige. Hope you are all doing well.

AFM - well apart from feeling sorry for myself today it seems from above, I have a scan on Wednesday and it is the first time in a very long time that my excitement might be more than my fear. We'll see.

[MsKara]

angelfish positive thoughts! I'm sure everything will be fine! :-)

ferrals I made one too against my better judgement. I decided I would regret it more if I didn't make one and this is a full term pg. Positive thoughts!! *hugs*

ashie Congrats on wk 9!!

murray Yay for a great scan!!! How exciting!!!

dory It's frustrating when people don't understand the feelings we have for our pets, isn't it? My family is a "dog's are just dogs and they live outside" family, whereas I am a "Our dog is an important part of our family and she goes where we go" kind of person. I just tune out the opposition these days Hope your 12 sleeps seems like no time and he is back with you soon. All the very best for your scan!

afm I still have ms, but I also have a brown discharge (only when I wipe). I'm not panicked, just concerned and monitoring the situation. Fingers crossed it's just some old blood and nothing more. My last m/c started the same way, so my heart was instantly in my throat, but I'm ok for now

[angelfish]

dory thank you for the postive thoughts. I understand when it comes to pets and people not understanding when i was married i had a beagle pup and my in laws were suppost to be watching her. She got into a whole bottle of advil. I rushed her to the vets to make a long story short two weeks later we paid over $1000. to get the puppy better she was fine but we had to take her from one place to another and constaltly got crisism from people.

MsKara my fingers are crossed for you that everything is okay and will be okay thanks for the postive thoughts

AFM I hate late afternoon apointments. waiting is the worst trying to keep my self busy. But i am so nervous got little sleep last night. just hoping and praying that everything is still okay.

[angelfish]

well i am so happy just got in from the scan everything seems great! baby heart rate 165 and the baby feet was moving and the dates match up and i can stop taking the medication i was on so i am so happy

[Tegam]

well i am so happy just got in from the scan everything seems great! baby heart rate 165 and the baby feet was moving and the dates match up and i can stop taking the medication i was on so i am so happy

woohoo!

[milly5]

Hello Ladies!!

sorry to have been MIA, but I just can't seem to cope with work, sleepiing eating and manage to fit posting in there too! LOL! I get home from work, turn on the computer, receivie the email notifications and read everyone's news, cook and eat dinner and I keep thinking that I would post after dinner, but usually by then I am comatose and ready for bed!

So.... although there's way too many for persies since I was in here last (about 2 weeks ago I think), I'll just do a couple.

Sammy - I am so sorry, I thought that this one may have been it for you

congrats to Iona and Ferrals! nice to see you in here Ferrals, I knew you would get here in the end! And good to see the ticker too!
Congrats Ms Kara!!!

Twin sis - congrats on your little girl!

Did I miss a post from Sunbeam, is Sunbeam in here too? Yay!!

Teagam - I know this was about a week ago, but I wanted to respond to your quesiton aobut "is this your first?". Well, I will also say that I put a post up very similar to yours when I was about 14-16 weeks I think, feeling exactly the same. Dory was much more tactful in her response, considering what the other person's reaction would be, but for me though I didn't care, so if it made the other person uncomfortable, then they shouldn't have asked!
But now that I am further along I am more comfortable with saying "yes" (depending on the situation of course) but if it was related to any of my antenatal care, because they were asking more about the pg than living children, I would always say "first this far". Becasue previous pregnancies is an issue in this setting. But if someone is asking if this is our first child, then I say yes. Because - for me and I stress for me here - my angels were early losses, although very much missed, I never got to be their mother, or even see them, I saw them only on an ultrasound screen.
Anyway, that was just my experience that I wanted to share.
Oh, and I have no idea what to choose for your birth!

Hey I'm jealous of all this pg sex - me my libido left with the BFP and apart from about 2 weeks in 2nd trimester, I haven't felt like DTD at all. But DH of course is as randy as ever, so we've had to be a bit inventive (becasue of my big belly and sore hips), but last time it bought on Braxton Hicks, so I told him, no more 'cos I don't want to see Spud before he or she is cooked to perfection!

Murray cod - yay about your dancer!!

Elsie Lousie - I am jeoulous about your maternity leave - I had decided to go to 38 weeks, and now wish I had finished early!

Dory - I'm so glad your furbaby is doing well and will be home soon! I agree with you about cats being healing. My furbaby at the time I lost angel #1 (he has since passed away, and I still miss him), but he would lay beside me at night, when ever I lay awake crying he would come up and lay beside me and purr, he became my substitue if you like. He was very special. I have 2 other furbabies now, but the nurturing and healing he gave me at that time was very special.
And 32 weeks

yay little angelfish!

AFM - well, I am feeling very pg now. and Oh so tired! My hips are still sore, but I think I am learing more about what I can and can't do (usually after I've done it LOL), and the morning sickness seems to have FINALLY settled down, but reflux has kicked in with a vengence. One of the ladies at work keeps telling me I'm going to go early, becasue she says I am doing too much and have planned on working so late, but I keep thinking no, I am not organised enough yet! Another scan tomorrow, so hopefully we may then have an idea when Spud will make his/her grant entrance!

[eliselouise]

Milly great to see you back hun, im glad all is going well with you, other than the sore back and hips. I too find that ive done too much after ive done it but it doesnt seem to stop me haha. I had thought about working an extra week or 2 but everyone kept saying dont do it, youll need all the rest you can get and now im so glad i finished when i did. Good luck tomoro with your scan and hopefully you can find out if bubs is going to stay put that bit longer or make an early arrival
Angelfish thats great news, so happy for you
Mskara hopefully the discharge is nothing to worry about and its so lovely that you have such a positive approach and outlook, that will definately take you far and make this an easier journey
Dory good luck with your scan tomorow, i just know that everything is going to be perfect for you. Its lovely to hear that your excitement is now more than your fear. Enjoy it love

[luna moth]

muzza - congrats on your awesome scan! OMG so excited!

anglefish - congrats on your scan too!

dory - no way! So gobsmacked that you're a surfer! That does NOT fit with my mentally generated image of you.

Tegam - homebirth does sound wonderful. I almost had DH convinced, but what gets us (and this is SO lame) is that it seemed too hard - so much prep going in to getting home sorted out, and running around sorting out the prescriptions etc. Pretty happy so far with what we're getting; maybe next time will be the one for us.

I chose my dates to finish up based on what milly and elise had posted in here, and they seem to have worked fairly well. I'm still riding, do have an option to catch the bus, but I hate doing that as it takes twice as long, and I still have to walk for 15 minutes or more, so it's not like it's any more relaxing. I don't think it's a tour de france munchkin - since I could only stay up to watch a single stage! Probably more like an Olympic time trial medallist, I think Or, who knows, a ballerina! Whatever you want, munchkin, OK?

[dory]

I'll reply in more detail soon - thankyou for all your thoughtful responses about pets. 9 sleeps til our furbaby comes home. But I just wanted to say to Audax.... LOL... don't build a mental picture of me looking like Steph Gilmore or Lane Beachley......

[Twin Sister]

Thanks so much for all the congrats

I'm still lurking and keeping an eye on all your tickers and progress.

[possum magic]

Just stopped by to say

Murray Cod
Thrilled that your 12wk scan went well. How wonderful you reached that milestone.
Angelfish: Same to you! Glad scan was good.
Ashie: Glad things have settled down for you

Hi everyone else

[dory]

Hiya - a bit quiet in here. Just wanted to say, I had a mixed day yesterday - sadness at our wee Nicholas' angel day - `;['''''''''''' - that was a contribution from one of the fur babies, great news a the scan and got to see the maternal fetal medicine specialist who was brimming with excitement and positivity. Even though I can't really believe things will actually be ok, it was a very generous gift to be given - such happiness and positivity. Cervix was extra long (50mm) and closed. Bubs estimate weight 2 kgs... and only 8 sleeps til the hospitalised fur baby comes home....

Also an exciting weekend, my great nieces christening and my special day ..... I am adopted and my special day is the day I joined my family, 3 months after I was born ( I was 9 weeks prem and spent most of that time in NICU and special care and then in a "home" aka institution, not that I remember). We have always celebrated the day... and it is so significant for me as I get older. I get to be with my mum, and brother and step dad this year. Don't think I have had a special day with my bro for years and years.

Thoguht I'd just offer up a me post today..... take care and belly rubs to all our little ones.

[eliselouise]

Dory sorry to hear you had a bit of a sad day yesterday with nicholas' angel day buts its great news that the scan went well and there were so many positives out of it. Your little Nicholas must be looking down on you and making sure that everything turns out just perfect as your other angels would be too
Sounds like you have a lovely weekend coming up with your family for the christening and your special day. Sounds like you had a rough start to life but so glad that things are looking up and have turned out well for you now. Adoptive parents are just so special what they do for babies/ children in need. My DP was adopted too and his family are just so loving and caring.
Take care hun and have a lovely time over the w/e

[luna moth]

Oh, dory, you are just so interesting! My friend is adopted, she says the best part about it is that she never has to think about her parents having DTD, because there'e no physical evidence! She makes awesome furbaby coats, I should get you one
We had an MFM doc do our scan, and she was so so so lovely as well, she seemed to really "read" our concerns, and was very reassuring. I was in a bit of disbelief that there was nothing wrong, and she was so understanding. Glad you had a good experience too.

[ferrals5]

I AM SOOOOO EXHAUSTED!!!

Dory-good to hear your scan went well i hope it helped with your sadness thinking of nicholas.

AFM-all good just feel like i could nod off at any moment but i have school uniforms to iron for my 2 youngest boys and my eldest son just ironed his work uniform so i will have to redo it
I will catch up with everyone later

[murraycod]

Only 243 days to go Ferrals!!!!! You rekon your tired now!!!

Dory my love, I am glad that you were able to have a nice day for Nicholas anniversary, you are going to be a fantastic earth mother, and you deserve every happiness that comes your way

Audax, gosh I still go to call you Snuggly, anyways, glad your scan went well too!

Elise, Ric, Possum, Iona, Angelfisk, MisK, Milly, everyone, hope all is well and just quiet cuz you are all buisy XX

AFM, I have decided to drive to Mildura next week to buy something baby!!!! EEEKKK dunno if I can actually bring myself to do it yet, but going to have fun trying!!!!
OMG have no idea what I will buy, probally just a pair of socks or something, I have never even walked through the baby section at Target !!!!!

[eliselouise]

Murraycod im doing well thankyou for asking, very tired now but well. Have fun buying something baby, once you start you wont be able to stop, or at least thats my problem
Ferals it sucks being so tired when you have so much that needs doing. I dont know how you do it with all the other children at home as well, i suppose we just have to though. Try and get some rest when you can
Audax so glad your scan went well and you found it so reassuring
AFM im doing fine, had a mini meltdown last night, DP was away for work and i rang him and just lost it, burst into tears over absolutely nothing. DP was very concerned but i just had to tell him that it must just be the pregnancy hormones and that i will be fine. Sleeping a little better now too which is nice, getting 3 hrs in a row now in between toilet breaks :LOL:
Take care everyone

[ferrals5]

Hi ladies,

Murrycod- about time you started being proactive and confident with this pregnancy go out and spend you deserve to spoil this baby rotten.
I myself have only brought maternity pads because i can use the with whatever the outcome of my cvs i wont bye any baby items i just cant jinx myself i do have all abbi's things and a few little blue things we brought before we new what we were having at least i might get to use them this time.

Hello to all the ladies i have missed i will pop back in tonight i am not working until sunday.

AFM-I had a little meltdown while laying in the bath i looked at my belly and thought is this baby normal will i get to keep this one and just started to relise i might have to try to get pregnant all over again in oct/nov is all our bad luck over have we made the right decision will the cvs cause a m/c of a healthy baby i have so much going on in my mind right now.
The baby has to be heathly we have tried so long and hard i couldnt bear to fail again.