Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ July 2011

[~Trish~]

Welcome to the pregnancy after miscarriage and loss thread. We look forward to sharing your journey to holding your baby in your arms. Welcome to the new members of this thread, I am sure you will be made welcome.

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[WannabeMum]

A new thread Cheshire, can you chuck the list in here too - I have such a shocking pregnant brain! Count down is on for Stoked and PM!

[LysnDan]

New thread already gees we talk.

Hope everyone is going alright xx be back later.


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[Khaleesi]

Pregnancies
Alish - EDD 9th September- Girl
India's Mum - EDD 6th October- Surprise
Cheshire - EDD 6th October- Girl
WannabeMum - EDD 21st November- Girl
Helle - EDD 22nd November
CheezelMonster - EDD 12th December- Surprise
Luna - EDD 15th Dec - Girl
Pash - EDD 22nd December- Surprise
Kokonut - EDD 2nd January- Surprise
Angelfish - EDD 7th Jan - C- Sect last week of Dec
Becnxavi - EDD 20th Jan
DarkDreamer - EDD 26th Jan
The_Mrs - EDD 28th Jan - Boy/Girl
Phebee - EDD 8th Feb - Surprise
Lysndan - EDD 16th Feb
Lauz - EDD?
Clairesmummy - EDD?
Saffy - EDD?



Recent Arrivals

Ferrals5- 18th March- Ella
Forshelby- 25th March- Axel
Mildez- 30th March- Josie
Iona- 30th March- Jack
JennaJayen 30th March- Elise
Reet- 24th April- Sienna
Kellbell- 20th April- Jayden
T-Hopes- 23rd May- Noah
Melster- 7th July-Ariana

Possum magic - 14th August -

~Stoked~ - 18th August-

Damprye - 18th August - Tobias Gabriel

All is well here, no more bleeding since Weds so i'm hoping that there is no more & i can start to enjoy the pregnancy!

[angelfish]

wow new tread.
Cheshier~ its weird to see my name up there and its far but close also

[damprye]

Just over 6weeks to go. I didn't get my positive result until I was just over 6weeks pregnant. Doesn't feel that long ago but so much has happened in that time. Me and XDP went from living the good life to seperating to him reaslising that he never wanted to lose me and asking to get back together. Other XDP went from being a complete arse to having DS loving having Dad back in his life. Got a house to live in. So many scares that this bub wouldn't make it, including my forewaters breaking too early. Having to transfere hospitals due to complications and now waiting to see how much longer my body is capable of keeping little one in there. I have a scan this Tuesday and another next Tuesday, then if I haven't already popped, I'll find out if I'll be having bub at 36weeks or if we can keep going. We get the steroid injections if I hit 4cm before then. Feeling nervous about what's to come and overwhelmed by all what already has come to be. So excited at the same time though. Everything I have for bub is set up and ready to go and then after bub arrives, it's shopping time to go buy a bugger load of pink or blue things

Sorry about the very me post today, how are you all? Will make sure I do persies next time

[WannabeMum]

damprye - that's a journey and a half. This little bubby is your 2011 miracle s/he can stay in Mummy as long as possible and have a lovely rest before coming into this world!

Cheshire - hope you can enjoy the rest of the pregnancy too - no more bleeding now ya hear!

angel - it's quite bizarre isn't it, thinking you'll have another little person to love (in person on the outside) sooner rather than later. Very strange.

[alish]

hi all just subbing

nothing new here, have appt tomorrow.. have a lot of q's for the doc!

hope youve all had a nice w/e

[India's Mum]

Damprye - You have had an amazing past year. Things are changing so fast for you it's not possible to tell what's going on in your life just by reading your signature.

Can't believe I am now near the top of Cheshire's list.

[JennaJayen]

subbing

Hi everyone Stalking you all :P

Just looked at the list, OMG we really did have baby boom in March lol
It's time for another mini baby boom, it's been too quiet in here birthwise

[pash]

Hello, just popping in to say hi and to subscribe to the new thread. Am having trouble remembering that I am pg even though my bump keeps bumping into things (like the cooktop when it is on, etc). Was suprised to see my name on Cheshire's list cos I keep thinking things like "it was a mistake. I can't still be pg". Finding it hard to be here cos I feel like I'm pretending... wish I made more sense.

Cheshire glad the bleeding stopped. I'm going to go back and read up on what's been going on.

Dampyre wow, loads going on. hope lil bubba stays in there till you're sick of him/her and want him/her out!

[damprye]

Pash- No I understand completely how you are feeling. Even now I forget heaps. I'll be feeling hell nauseas and wondering why lol. Bub can kick and it makes me jump cos I forget that bub is in there yet in 6weeks roughly, there is going to be a new baby in the house. Still hasn't sunken in and doesn't feel real, just like this pregnancy doesn't feel quite real even with everything going on.

Jenna- yup, not long now and then boom, this thread will have a few less preggos in it lol

India's Mum- I don't think that most peoples sigs even touch the surface lol. Getting close now

Alish- how has your appt gone? Hope you were able to get your questions answered

WBM- Thanks and I hope so too. How are you going?

Hi to everyone else, hope to stalk you all soon

AFM- Getting a weird pain on my left hand side. Kinda like how it feels when my gall bladder is playing up, but wrong side. Will ask my OB about it tomorrow, also have to let him know I've started losing my plug again *yuk*
Other than that, taking it easy and enjoying bub being an active little bugger, even when it hurts lol. Nothing better than rugging up in front of my favourite show with a wriggler in my belly

[alish]

hey

dampyre - yeah all is well! baby measuring spot on and heard the heartbeat for the first time, its pretty cute. she hurt me measuring though, i am seriously all baby, my stomach is that tight its not funny, even she commented, i guess thats cuz im so short?? i dunno!! the head isnt engaged thank goodness.. but its head down for me!
can they stop you from losing your plug? im glad you see ur doc tomorrow if this has started again.. id be freakin out

hello to everyone its nice to see everyones tickers progressing & hearing everyones stories.

whats everyones opinions on evening primrose oil, raspberry leaf tea & labour tens machine? my ob dosent believe in the first two
because nothing has been proved scientifically (sp?) but my midwife said she took rasberry leaf tea.. i dunno.. i dont really want to spend money on sh*t that dosent do anything.
the tens machine i will find out more in my birthing class.. but same thing again, the money!!

[WannabeMum]

Alish - There's plenty of nursing evidence about raspberry leaf tea - I'm a scientist and a nurse by training and it was enough to convince me! But then, I never did get to the pushing bit, so I have no idea if it would have helped. I did recover very quickly from the c/s and my uterus contracted very nicely. I reckon go for it - I only bought one packet from a health food shop (you can get little tea strainers about the size of a teaspoon from T2 that make brewing it heaps easier), and I'll be doing the same this time too. TENS - I was the same, didn't know if it would work for me and I am a tightwad and didn't want to hire it! I'm glad bubs is head down, that's a good thing - I was tight and full of baby too with DS, and I'm 5'7", so not too short, think it has a lot to do with how you carry too.

damprye - let us know how you go at the Dr! Hope all is well and it's just a bit of mucous rather than your whole plug!

pash - it took ages for this to feel real to me too, and even sometimes I forget. I feel like getting ready for this baby is tempting fate. But you ARE pregnant and you have a little person growing inside you - how awesome is that!

I'm like damprye - loving the movement - in the phase where I feel it all the time and love every second of it (not looking forward to those little feet under my ribs). I do love this baby

[JennaJayen]

Alish - I took the raspberry leaf tablets from just over 28 weeks onwards, and I swear they helped me get dilated and have a short VBAC labour.

My mum swears by them too, she took them while pregnant with my younger brother and had a 1hr 10min labour with him

That doesn't always happen with everyone though, but I honestly believe that they can help a lot in getting your uterus ready for labour

[possum magic]

Alish: I don't know about the first two but I hired a TENS machine for my labour with DD and it was really really helpful for me. I had a very long early stage labour: laboured at home for 24hours with contractions every 5minutes for a lot of it and only dilated about 2cm. I used the TENS machine once the contractions got more painful (after about 8hours) and after they broke my waters right through until the birth (four hours later). Just at the end I needed a bit more help and used the gas and those two things were both really helpful in getting me through labour (and some heat packs and massage from DH and my other support person). I'd like to get a TENS machine again this time but i've changed hospitals so need to find out where to hire.

AFM: Went to the OB on Friday. Baby growing nicely but Dr confirmed what I suspected: head down but lying on an angle. (I've been feeling lots of pushing sensations against my left hip bone when baby kicks up the top of my tummy. I suspected i was being head butted down there and I was right). I asked if that was a problem- I figured baby is not far off where s/he's meant to be and would just adjust a little in labour! Dr said: "um, it is if you want a natural birth! But don't worry, there's still time for baby to settle into the right position". Pretty uncomfortable a lot of the time now: lots of pressure on one hip through the day (baby head butts!) and strong stretching sensations: I can see the baby pushing it's little bottom or back up creating this wierd tummy mountain!

Question: trying to decide whether to organise a 2nd support person this time round. My friend who supported us last time has a young baby now and not sure if i'll ask her again. I thought about getting a doula or private midwife but don't know how to go about it and maybe i've left it too late anyhow... anyone know of one? Used one? Maybe i'll ask my OB if he's seen any good ones...

[alish]

thanks everyone! im thinking ill try the raspberry leaf tea, but in tablet form, im a fussy eater and i know i wont like the tea lol!

as for the tens machine, ive been interested in it from the moment i heard about one, im looking forward to the birthing class to find out about it - thanks possum youve pretty much talked me into it!

possum - sorry no idea on the doula/midwife - support person will be my mum.. dh will be hopeless.. he will be there but thats about it!!
im very uncomfortable too.. somedays i feel like she is going to come out! the pressure is unbelieveable! i was showing dh how the midwife showed me what the baby was doing - one with her fist and the other hand was a "hole" and she showed me how the baby keeps just sliding in and out.. i was scared haha!!

wbm - thanks for your advice! i may as well try it, its not going to hurt trying it anyway!! im only just 5"2 so i thought maybe height would have something to do with it, im carrying very low, everyone comments on it! i feel like i should be supporting my gut when i walk lol

thanks jenna - hope you & youre family are well

[WannabeMum]

I've thought the same thing too PM - my DH isn't confident during labour, I mean he does what he's told, but that doesn't happen all the time. He's lovely and was really helpful, but I think I'd like someone to help him out (but not family!). I've thought about a doula - some of them are really expensive though. A friend of mine is a student midwife and I've thought of asking her too - she's got two little ones though. She may know someone though. At this time of year, a student midwife getting to the end of his/her course may be interested - you could try the doula/IM board on here, or contact a local midwifery uni near you to find out - I'm sure they get plenty of calls. You shouldn't have to pay them!

Oh - hope bubs shifts a bit, that's mean to Mummy!

Raspberry leaf tea is meant to increase the strength of contractions. The evidence says it doesn't necessarily decrease the length of labour, but it does shorten second stage (pushing). It also helps with contracting the uterus down after the baby is born (why I think it helped me even though I had a c/s).

I don't want to go to work today! Boo. Oh well, last day for the week