Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ September 2010

[kmm]

Good Morning Everyone,

wishing you all a happy Sunday.

Ferals4 - I don't know how you manage. It must add an entire new, but difficult dimension explaining or trying to protect kids from this. big hugs to you.

timeforafamily - thanks for the dvd tip. to be honest this last week feels like it has been going for months already for me. but I will give it a try.

AFM - I have cramps like AF is coming, makes it a hard to relax really, such early days. 'sigh'.

to everyone else good luck. x

[sunshine and stars]

Somebody please reassure me that all of this hacking, coughing, and cold sickness is not harming the baby 'cause I am freaking out.

Get this-- I was "supposed" to be at a work function (a social "tea") on my day off-- the parishioner who called said that she called me "to check up" on me, but then she laid on a guilt trip-- I was apparently expected to be there, expected --even though it was my regular day off-- SCREAM-- I was so frustrated, and even after telling her that I have been sick for four days straight...she still managed to say that I should have RSVP'd-- really, for God's sake (and I mean that) It was my one day off and my hubby and I had plans (which didn't happen 'cause I was on the couch hacking up a storm) But goodness gracious, I was so ungodly angry because I felt like I couldn't even be sick! I really didn't need the guilt trip...

Sorry for dumping. Please be nice to people in serving professions; we are only human beings!

[sunshine and stars]

Yikes! Really quiet here! Just posting to say sorry for venting in previous post. Things went well today...and I am feeling more "normal." Still coughing though. Ugh.
15 weeks tomorrow (Monday)! Hurrah!

KMM-- How are you doing now???

ForShelby and Murraycod-- I got the restless leg thing before I was pregnant-- I do a kind of meditation where you flex each muscle beginning with your foot, and you work up each leg slowly and then repeat. Or sometimes I just get up at night and walk around. It's really a pain though.

Hope everyone is doing well.

[luna moth]

Hey sunshine, glad you are feeling better. I'm quite sure that coughing won't hurt bubs, but take care of you! Try, where you can to engage your pelvic floor and brace your TAs before you cough so you don't do too much damage down there!

I had the most ridiculous night's sleep last night. Took me ages to get to sleep, woke up two hours later for the loo, and was wide awake, so decided to fold some washing while I was up, and write a letter to DH's grandmother and mine, went back to bed, finally got comfy, needed the loo again, got up, went to the loo, went back to bed, baby had an epic disco party, which was really quite cute and very entertaining. Finally got to sleep, woke up again with leg cramps, had to get up to stretch, went back to bed, and what flt like 10 minutes later, DH's alarm went off for work. Definitely need a nap today!

How was everyone else's weekend?

[ferrals5]

Sunshine-I had whooping cough really bad with Abbi's pregnancy i even cracked a rib from coughing and vomiting so bad it didnt bother her in the slightest and she was a really sick baby with an extremely bad heart so dont worry but like Audax said the pelvic floor will cope the damage if you dont hold them tight when you cough my pelvic floor is really good after a few kids and i will be damed if i let a cough ruin it so dont forget to pull up an squeeze and hold then cough.

[sunshine and stars]

Thanks Ferrals and thanks Audax-- That's very reassuring to know. Oh, my DH and I were wondering what TA's are. Here in the US, T and A is a slang term (won't say it, 'cuz it might get me banned) but I wasn't sure what body part I was supposed to be "holding in"...LOL. Going to need to practice those kegels-- cause when I cough, I don't have any control of anything down there ! That was probably too much info. Anyway, thanks, for the how-to!

[Tegam]

WAY tmi!

[forshelby]

Murraycod - I'm surprised your OB didn't know about restless leg syndrome.... it's very common. My mum said she had it during pg too, so we aren't crazy! When it's driving me craziest, I lie with my legs up and hanging over the edge of the arm of the lounge, and kick my legs like crazy as if I'm swimming. LOL.. it looks hilarious but actually relieves the horrible feeling. Just don't overdo it though or they'll be sorer than before!

TFAF - Thanks for the restless leg advice, I might try it if it gets out of control. I too have enjoyed some much needed clothes shopping. Things were starting to get a bit desperate in that department!

Mildez - It must be so nice to be able to sneak a peek at bubs anytime.

Ferrals - You're definitely going down a very difficult path here, hun. But, you're doing an amazing job of it, and I find it all very inspiring. It must have been sad though not to see any excitement from the boys, I guess they're just staying on their guard as it was very sad for them when Abbi went to play with the other angel babies. FX everything is ok, and you can finally start to enjoy this pg. Good luck with everything

Kmm - How far along are you? It can be hard to relax during the early days. I found distraction was the best medecine.

Sunshine - Sorry it's been so rough for you lately, hun. Baby is very well cushioned, and a bit of coughing (or a lot) isn't going to do any harm. As a matter of fact, during my 12wk scan the lady asked me to cough to get bubs to move, and he/she just made a cute little startle when I did so. You never know, your little one might be enjoying all the jiggling around in there, lol. Pity it's no fun for you though! And ARGH at your 'work function'. How irritating. Don't let them get to you though, people can be insensitive at the worst times. My old boss 'expected' me to return to work the day after I started to mc my first pg. Stupidly, I went as I didn't realise I had the right to demand compassionate leave. Long story short, I was scarred for a long time. Don't let them push you around, because you'll be the one to suffer, not them. Good luck Oh and thanks for the restless leg advice.

Audax - What an awful night's sleep! I love the disco party bit though, that's soooo cute.

AFM - Drs appt tonight to hear bubby's HB! Yay! Feeling a bit nervous as I haven't filled out my booket thing yet. How am I meant to write a birth plan when nobody's even discussed it with me? I think my dr was a bit reluctant to get too ahead of ourselves this time as he only booked me in for the hospital/birth centre at 12wks, and I haven't heard back and.. *hyperventilates*. I think I'll just be vague and mysterious for now and hope that's good enough! Wish me luck

[Tegam]

AFM - Drs appt tonight to hear bubby's HB! Yay! Feeling a bit nervous as I haven't filled out my booket thing yet. How am I meant to write a birth plan when nobody's even discussed it with me? I think my dr was a bit reluctant to get too ahead of ourselves this time as he only booked me in for the hospital/birth centre at 12wks, and I haven't heard back and.. *hyperventilates*. I think I'll just be vague and mysterious for now and hope that's good enough! Wish me luck

Its stupid that they even require you to write a birth plan yet! Enjoy your pregnancy and consider the birth in your own time!

Enjoy hearing that heartbeat! 16weeks

[ferrals5]

forshelby-thanks i know your right about the boys i know they will be excited when we find out everything is ok.
Congratz on 16 weeks.

Kmm-I had lots of AF cramping early on it is worrying but normal.

AFM-all good feeling baby flutter around and the tiniest little kicks ever but i have to lay there very quiet and wait to feel it next week we have a scan then one on two weeks after to check for signs of SLO fingers crossed they find nothing.

[Tegam]

about the movement ferrals! Thats lovely and baby telling you all is ok!!!!!!!

baby ferrals!

[luna moth]

sunshine - TAs is your transverse abdominus. But it probably doesn't hurt to hold the other ones in as well I hope the laughing doesn't cause you a coughing fit

forshelby - I'm with Tegam, I can't believe you have to write a birth plan yet! We have started ours, but only because I'm a paranoid nutcase who does things early! Our midwives will go over it with us at 36 weeks. Maybe type one out and staple it into that page? That way you can change it later if you want to. A lot can change between now and 36 weeks! That's what we're doing.

ferrals - yaaay for the little dancer!

I didn't get to go for my swim. I have lost my swimming bag. Hmph.

[sunshine and stars]

Ferrals-- Hurrah on the baby movement! I am so jealous! I keep imagining that I am feeling something, but then nothing. My mom tells me it feels like butterflies. But mine doesn't feel anything like that. Hopefully, I will feel something soon, in another few weeks, maybe.

[sunshine and stars]

Oh, I forgot to say thanks to Audax for clearing up the body part (TAs) question! Good to know!

[angelfish]

sunshineandstars I looked at T and A and had to think also sorry your sick i am hoping your feeling welll soon.

forshelby At your stage my dr wanted me just to think ahead of a birth plan

ferrals so happy and jerlous on the movement !!!

afm i am getting really worried i hear of everyone feeling the baby move 21 week and no movement felt but saw the baby on the scan moveing away. And i dont feel like i am showing as much as i should the drs have told me not to worry since this is my frist one that has made it this far. But she has a strong hb at 155 so i am just going to hang onto that my next dr is in two weeks

[forshelby]

Tegam - I know... I bumbled through it somehow, I think it actually turned out pretty good in the end. It does seem rather early though! HB was amazing to hear

Ferrals - Thanks, hun. How exciting, you're feeling bubs moving already. I also still have to be very still to feel things, although occasionally I get a very obvious THUD which makes me jump hehe. Good luck for your next couple of scans. I hope it all turns out beautifully for you.

Audax - I know, I felt like a naughty schoolkid trying to do my homework before class LOL. Dr didn't really pay much attention to it or talk to me about it, so I'm not sure what the deal was with telling me to fill that bit out. Hmm....

Sunshine - My mum said the same. Butterflies. I'm not sure if that's an accurate description though... sometimes it's more of a poking feeling. Or a swishing feeling. Or just a plain old whack in the tummy. Just small hehe. It's quite possible you're feeling movements now but having trouble distinguishing them from digestion etc.

Angelfish - Try not to worry, hun. As I said to Sunshine, it's very possible you're feeling movements but not able to distinguish them yet. I really think all will be ok.

AFM - Heard the hb last night. Amazing! My bp was pretty high so I'm a bit worried about that.... is there anything I can do to lower it?? Anyhoo, best make this a quick one as I'm babysitting today. Cute..

AFM -

[angelfish]

thank you everyone the dr office when i stopped in to get paper work told me that they forgot to tell me that i have a anterior placenta so i guess that explains allot

Forshelby i am sorry to hear about the bp but i am happy that you heard the hb

[forshelby]

Angelfish - I was going to ask if your placenta was anterior, actually. That definitely answers a lot doesn't it. I'm trying not to worry about the bp thing but it's a bit concerning.... I'm hoping for a complication free pg.