Hi emmajane,
I can truly empathise with how you are feeling, I felt exactly the same way last year while pregnant with my DS.
I lost our first bub at 9wks 4days, found out at our first US. and we had told EVERYONE! it then took us another 6 months to fall PG with DS, I was too scared to have an US, I only had one at 9wks (whoa! did that freak me out!) because I started bleeding and they did one in emergency.
It was hard, the whole way through to become "attatched" to that little life, knowing , as only you can just how badly things can go wrong, just remember to breathe and take one day at a time.
we didnt tell anyone we were PG again until after 16 wks, if I had left it up to DP, we wouldnt have told anyone till he was born!
But dont worry about the bonding, as soon as you see that little face and see those little eyes looking at you, the hormones will kick in and you will fall in love.
I am so sorry for your lost little bub, and a big congrats on this Pgncy, wishing you the stickiest of stick vibes and a very happy and healthy pregnancy xx