Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ May/June/July 2011
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T-hopes: Hope you are recovering well. Thanks Mr T-hopes for the update!
Bec: welcome to the thread. I hope you are blessed with a drama free pregnancy.
Melster: issues with DH sound very tiring. I hope things settle down soon. Great that you've finished work. It makes the baby's arrival feel so much closer i think when you go on mat leave.
Wannabemum: Healthy vibes to you: wishing you a quick recovery with your back.
Cheezelmonster: the first few weeks are pretty full on when you already have a toddler. I hope you can rest a little when he does.
Cheshire: good to hear from you. Hope all is well.
Damprye: I hope you are going ok, recovering from your infection and they can hold off labour for a few more weeks. A friend of mine was in hospital for weeks (from about 26 weeks i think) with leaking fluid. She made it to 34 weeks which was excellent. Baby was fine.
Hi everyone else (doing persies from memory so missed a few i think)
AFM: 9 more weeks at work... and counting!
Thanks for the healing vibes - unfortunately I think another 26-odd weeks +around 6 weeks after is what will help my back. I had pretty bad pelvic instability with DS and it's certainly coming in early this time. I've woken up feeling pretty good today so we shall see how we go at kindergym today! I've got underlying sacro-iliac (where the spine meets the pelvis) damage/injury which doesn't help. Yesterday I was feeling hot pokers in my pelvis. Today just an ache - hopefully I can get some exercise in and stop eating bad food so that I can stop gaining weight! Weighed myself this morning and I've already gained 2kg! Oops.
Sorry about the me post - I assure you there will be persies later
Hi everyone i just wanted to stop in and say hi i am wating until next thursday for my us to see how that turns out i am trying to stay postive about it but its hard to.
I can't remember who asked but yes twins do run in my family and DH's and there were two dominant follies at my last scan before ovidrel trigger...I'm not worried, I'd just like to know!
Were finally home... bub still safely in belly We were finally discharged today after 3 night in hosp. As my DH said, they kidney stent all went fine. I had a spinal block in the end so it was much safer for bub! Blooooody hurt though! I was suppose to be home that night but they wanted to keep me in cause i started to have a lot of braxtin hicks... once i was transfered to the ward and i started to get feeling back in my legs i was in so much pain so they sent a midwife down with the doppler to check on bub and bub was fine but the BH turned into full contractions so they took us straight to the delievery suite and hooked me up to the monitors and i was having contractions every 3-4 mins!
We thought it was all on!! This went on for about 7hrs but they never progressed closer or stronger so the next morning my ob came in and said we shoudl stay another night and see how we go.... and well it kept happening til last night and finally home today Our ob said that he thinks it was an 'irritable uterus' stirred up from the op and the stress of the last few days.... the midwives and all the hosp staff were sensational!! we were looked after so well, had a beautiful private suite with a double bed in the mat ward so DH never left my side
A few hrs after i popped in here to tell you the sad news about DH's mum (the morning of my op), my dad was rushed by ambulance to hospital! He was put in an induced coma in ICU with pneumonia and septicemia! He was critical and they told my mum that they werent sure if he would make it! It was the most horrific 24hrs we have been thru!! Thank god - he is doing well! They took him out of the coma yesterday and he is stable! He is a very lucky man!!!
And back to bub news - we had to have a scan today and bub is now measuring est size of 7lb 15oz! What a little porky for 36 wks BUT my kidney has got worse again, stent doesnt appeared to have done a thing! and so bad that bub will be born on Monday via c-section!! So many emotions! Scared that bub isnt ready, excited to meet bub, disappointed that my kidney is still sick! So surreal we will parents on Monday! OMG! Ob examined me today and my cervix is till jammed shut and very firm so he feels that after all the trauma my body has been thru this week - my sick kidney and the fact that my cervix is closed, that a caesar would be a lot safer. We trust him so its all going ahead! Ideally i wish we could get another week but he said its far too risky that my kidney could give up so we dont have a lot of choices!
Sorry for the HUGE me post, but i think thats pretty much up to dated you with the last few days! Sorry if it doesnt all make sense, i have only had a few hrs sleep so i will be back tomorrow after im less zombie like!
Thopes....What a 24hrs you have had! Pity the kidney isnt doing well! 37weeks babe thats wonderful! Baby will be perfect! Who is your piggy? Do they know to come in here and let us know? If you need ill give you my mobile?? 1 of my bubs was 36weeks, 2 of my bubs have been 38 and one at 39 so im sure your little one will be fine! Thinking of you, your DH, Dad and MUm!
Belly rubs!
T-Hopes-7lb 15oz that is a good size sometimes they can be a bit off with size but at least you know bub is on the big side not undersized and 37 weeks is classed as full term my DS3 was born at 37 weeks 5lb 15oz and i went home 4 hours later so dont worry Ella was 38 weeks and perfect and the lady in the bed next to me when i was in hospital had her 7lb 9oz boy at 34 weeks and he was perfect i cant wait to see your BA and what you have boy/girl i am thinking BOY!!!!!.
And sorry the op was a flop and you have had a rough few days hope you can get some rest over the weekend because on monday you become a family of 3.
Hi everyone, have been reading but this is the first chance I've had to actually post, just thought I'd do the old copy & paste update with a few extras added in
Damprye - Hope bubs stays put for a bit longer an that you get better really quickly!
T-Hopes - Sorry the kidney op didn't work but YAY on getting to meet your bub on monday!
Those going through tough times - Sending you all lots and lots of HUGE HUGS!!!
Welcome to all the newbies! Wishing you all happy & healthy pregnancies!
afm - Elise has been really sleepy most days this week, got me a bit worried on wednesday as she only had 4 feeds for the day and then proceeded to keep chucking up until she was only bringing up clear watery stuff
DS had a bout of gastro on sat night/sun/mon, so he wasn't a happy little boy Now I've got it too... either that or I've given myself food poisoning from a piece of steak that was 2 days before it's use by date. Feeling really crummy at the moment. Cold chills and hot sweats are driving me bonkers! Hope Elise doesn't have it
Add AF into the mix and I'm not a happy person today. The p/p bleeding finally stopped around lunch time on friday, hubby and I DTD on monday & tuesday mornings (OMG I missed having a sex drive!) and then tuesday night I started spotting, thought hubby had hit something so just popped a pad on and didn't think much of it, but next morning it was heavier and it's just been getting heavier since. And it hurts! OMG the cramps are horrible! I hate the Witch!!!
At least DS has been mostly well behaved today, makes things easier when I'm not feeling very well.
Elise is smiling all the time now - not very often when she's sitting up, but almost always when she's lying down. I just haveto say hello to her and she breaks out in a huge smile And she's discovered her hands lol a bit earlier she was trying
to shove both of them in her mouth at the same time and trying to smile at me while she did it lol I'm so in love with her. We even managed 2 5-min breastfeeds last night. Score 1 for me!
She's currently having some floor time in front of the heater and is loving it! Smiling at me every time I talk to her and staring at me when I'm not talking to her lol she's a real mummy's girl today - wednesday night we had her in bed with us for a little bit and she refused to look at me, it was all eyes on daddy and all her smiles were reserved for him, it was so sweet.
I have also decided that I want more kids lol not right away, but in 3-5 years time I'd like to start trying for another, but hubby still doesn't want any more. He keeps on bringing up the financial side of things as a reason not to have more kids. P's me off a bit.
Last saturday we had to make an emergency dash to the royal melbourne dental hospital as I had been having jaw pain for 2 & 1/2 weeks and it had become so bad that I was having to take 8 mersyndol and 6 panadol a day (not good I know, but as I'm still expressing I didn't want to take anything stronger). Got told that my bottom wisdom teeth are both dead (they both cavities the size of peas in them and the roots go right through my jaw and are touching the nerve canals) and they could either remove them then and there and risk damaging the nerves in my jaw for 3-6months causing numbess and complete loss of taste and feeling, or there was a hih chance that the damage would be permanent and I'd never be able to taste or have feeling from the ears down ever again. The other option was surgery to remove the teeth, so I opted for that. They said I should get a call this week to see the specialist and book in my surgery, I called them the other day and the specialist was busy so they said they'd call me back, but I haven't heard back
So I still don't know when my surgery will be I just want these teeth out already, at least I'm not on the heavy painkillers anymore, only had 2 panadol so far today and they came right back up this morning along with the antibiotic not long after I took them, so it's really like I haven't had any at all today lol it's nice to not have all that horrible pain, it's just a ull throbbing and ache in my skull at the moment.
T-hopes - you poor thing, everyting is falling on you at once. I is probably better that your bub will arive on Monday, with all this stress he/she may be better on this side of your belly. As ferrals said, 37 weeks is term, my daughter was born at 37 weeks too. Do you know if you are having a boy or a girl? Girls do a bit better when born early, although at 7+ pounds your baby sounds pretty mature....
JennaJayen - your tooth story made my own teeth hurt. It is just horrible. Get them removed as soon as you can. Here, in the US, they remove them as soon as they grow in, and if they do not come in, they will cut them out from under the gum. And perhaps you just need to let hubby adjust a bit to life with two kids. In a year or two he may be more open to the idea of a third, when he realizes that life with two is not that bad. He is probably still freaked out that he is responsible for all those people now.
Wannabemum - I already gained 2kg and I am 3 weeks behind you.... I have been so hungry all the time, I really could not control my eating.
I saw my doctor yesterday, bub still there, still OK. The lab techinician asked if the pregnancy was planned when she was taking my blood. When I said yes, she said "So it is possible....". I guess she did not believe that an old bat like me can get pregnant, LOL. I probably should find the whole exchange offensive, but somehow it just amused me. Speaking of old ladies having babies, I have a CVS in a week, so one more week and I will know if it is a boy or a girl! Can't wait.
Luna - that's kinda funny! I guess when you've been there done that before as an older Mum you kind of get used to the funny looks. Did you laugh when you had DD and found out you were termed a "geriatric primipara"? Or didn't you know that? My aunt (a geriatrician) had #1 at 41 and thought it was hilarious she was geriatric.
Jenna - Be careful with your paracetamol intake! You should only have 8 paracetamol containing tablets a day (4 grams). Mersyndol has paracetamol in it too. You'd be better off taking something completely different like an anti inflammatory and a mersyndol or something. Anyway, I'm glad they were able to help and I hope the surgeon calls back soon so you can get them out - wisdom teeth are HORRIBLE!!
T-hopes - well you got to 37 weeks! That's awesome. Such a lucky little baby to go full term. Good luck for Monday, so exciting that you'll get to meet your little one, and exciting that MIL will be able to meet her too. I'm glad your Dad is doing ok - you guys have had enough going on in the last few weeks. I wish you all the best for a happy and healthy delivery of baby T-hopes and can't wait to read your BA!
angel - looking forward to some good results on your end from your u/s.
I had a good night's sleep - didn't want to get up this morning when DS insisted it was time ("MaaaaaaaMa.... MaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaMa"). We have a busy day planned - lunch at my brother's place, dinner at a friend's. But my other brother is coming round this morning to take DS for a walk to the park so I can get some stuff done and try to relax and recuperate I have lovely brothers.
Luna-when i was in hospital with bleeding at 37 weeks there was a 47 year old lady in the bed across from me pregnant naturally her doctor said not very common after 45 but there is the odd one or two who fluke nature and i thought i was pushing it at 37 but the midwives said i was still young they are getting a lot of over 40's having bubs now so i still have a few years left in me although i dont want any more.
T-Hopes I'm sorry your operation wasn't successful. I hope your able to enjoy the last 2days been pregnant with your precious bub. I'm so excited that the time is almost hear for you to meet him/her. I'm going to guess bub is a boy. Will your MIL be able to visit or is she not able to now? I'll be praying your bub has no issues with Jaundice/slower feeding that you occasionally get when they are a little early so you can get home really quickly. My DD was born at 36+3 and she acted like she was full term. I'm thinking of you and your family and can't wait to hear about your bubs arrival.
Luna were I worked we saw about 10 women a year 43 or older and almost all of them were spontaneous pregnancies. And ferrals 37 is definately not considered an older mother. I'd say the largest percent is around that 28-32yr olds but I's still say 20% of the women we see are 35 upwards.
Yesterday I remembered that today in the 2yr anniversary of my 2nd m/c baby. I was sad about it yesterday but surprisingly I am fine today. I feel that if what didn't happen J wouldn't have conme but then It sort of shiats me that J could have been my 4th earth side bub not my 3rd if we didn't keep loosing our bubs.
JJ I know what you mean about wanting another and your DH going on about the financial side of things. What p's me of is my DH wants another I know he does but I think he wants to make it out that I have to nag him and his seen as giving in to my request. I know if I insist I have no more he will nag me to have another but his turning this around to make it about me and its like he thinks he can have extra brownie points if he lets me have another and pretends his only doing it for me. Stupid man. We are using condoms but its me insisting they go on not him. I have to nag him to wear it so if it wasn't for me goodness knows what would happen. I know with my shot fertility it wouldn't happen that easily but still I'm not taking my chances.
"Ended up in emergency barely to breathe and feeling like I was about to pass out where I stood as I was that dehydrated. More tests have been ran and I am hooked up to IV. Still dehydrated but they are helping. My waters are a litte less than adequate but filling. Bub is doing fine. Still having difficulty breathing when I am anything but horizontal."
thopes - im sorry to hear your stent isnt working, but im pleased to hear you will meet your baby on monday! im so excited for you!
hope your dad is recovering well & that you are taking it easy xx
luna - that is funny, im glad you didnt get offended. how exciting you are finding out the sex next week, do you have a gut feeling or you have no idea?
hey everyone....think i confused everyone...unfortunately i finish work roughly 30th june.........i was meaning finishing working my 4 day week as i only normally work 2
pm....nine more weeks......not too much longer...thats about when im due
wannabemum......hope ur feeling ok
angelfish...can understand why u are so worried...bring around thur....hows ur partner now?
Bec....yeah that was me.......bring on the twins
thopes........wow babe. U have had some pretty full on things happen......im sorry things didnt work out well with the kidney. You will be fine with the csection and bubs being born at 37 weeks and 7pd should be completely fine. I am thinking of u and i wish you all the best and hope everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to hear
tegam and ferrals..how are u both going?
Jj......wow thats full on about ur tooth....tooth pain is the worst...i hope u get in quickly for ur op
luna.....oh thats pretty rude. Hope u gave her the evil eye lol
mildez.........i am glad ur got thro the 2 yr ann yesterday......hugs
atm......hubby is still completely avoiding me.......he really needs to grow up. Anyways i have told him we need to talk and he needs to talk to me asap.......so we will see what happens.........im getting shocking sleep at the moment.....i am wide awake at stupid times in the morning.....so much on my mind. Think my step daughter stole my wedding ring..luckily its just a cheapie because my fingers are a bit bigger.....i cant proove it tho...so its just another situation we have to deal with.
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Now I've got it too... either that or I've given myself food poisoning from a piece of steak that was 2 days before it's use by date. Feeling really crummy at the moment. Cold chills and hot sweats are driving me bonkers! Hope Elise doesn't have it
her doctor said not very common after 45 but there is the odd one or two who fluke nature and i thought i was pushing it at 37 but the midwives said i was still young they are getting a lot of over 40's having bubs now so i still have a few years left in me although i dont want any more.
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