I am just wondering how other people dealt with the question "Is this your first baby" when you get stuck talking to strangers. I work in Tourism in a customer service role and more often than not I get asked that question.
I do find it a bit awkward because I really don't like to lie - not even white ones. So I am always honest and say no. Then the following questions seem to follow -
Q - so what is the other one?
R - she was a little girl (hoping the WAS was a big enough give away)
Q - how old is she?
R - she would have been 1 this year
Q - so where is she? (usually followed with looks of did you give your baby up)
R - Heaven
Q - OMG I am so sorry
R - its ok she came too early and was just too little
Not only is it awkward for the person but I feel like ****e afterwards. A colleague suggested I just say that yes its my first but I absolutely cannot say this as I feel its disrespecting Nikita's memory and the significant role she plays in our lives.
Not that its anyone business and I rarely go into lengthy discussion about what happened but I was wondering how other people dealt with that question and how they avoided or changed the subject when it arose.
The "Is this your first" question
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