Anatomy Scan - To find out or not to find out....

[visitor1]

I never found out with my first cos i wanted the big surprise when she was born...im VERY happy i never found out.

Due to already having a DD i choose to find out with my 2nd as i really wanted a boy. It turned out a girl and i had extremely bad gender disappointment so again, glad i found out as i tried to deal with it before she was born.

Same goes for my 3rd...i wanted a boy badly. Id swayed for a boy....and i got my DS (well i hope he is still a boy...3 weeks to go)!!

For me....1st babies are a surprise...and the rest i need to know...maybe #4 i wont find out...LOL

[2CheekyMonkeys]

found out first baby this time not gonna find out. i had a feeling it was a girl first time round and wanted to confirm that because didnt want to bond with the baby for the whole pregnancy and then a boy come out. i have been really annoyed that everyone asks 'are you finding out?' as if its something that everyone does nowdays and i should too. its so annoying having to say the same response 'no, want a surprise this time'. i dont have a bias either way just want to see whats its like both ways.

[fionas]

I didn't find out with DD and one of the most compelling reasons I'd heard was that it can give you extra strength in labour to get you over the edge if you don't know the sex because you'll want to find out.

Must say, that didn't happen for me!

I think actually I would have been more excited (that's not the right word) in labour if I HAD known the sex because he/she would have become a real person in my mind much earlier.

So next time I may do it, dunno.

[westy]

We didn't find out with our first baby and i am so pleased i didn't as i had a long labour and i think the fact i knew i had a surprise (my baby ) at the end of all the hard work was something i really look forward to getting.

Second time around we found out at 35 weeks when i was sent for a late scan due to a huge difference in my fundal measurments and it was all hanging (excuse the pun!) there, there was no mistaking, it was a boy!!

Would i change it ? Absolutely not i am happy with the way we did things but at the end of the day it's up to you to decide...no-one else can tell you what you want to do!

Goodluck darl, i hope bubby co-operates so your able to find out what flavour your little bundle is :smile:

[Melbournemumma]

Jeremy and I aren't finding out cause he want's to have something to tell everyone when he rings them I wanted to find out and not tell anyone but Jeremy just looked at me knowing that I couldn't keep my mouth shut

I guess the thing is, we've told so many people the names that we've picked that if we found out the sex then all Jeremy would be doing would be ringing people and saying "well he/she has arrived"

Anyway's just us I guess. I think that the decision to find out/not to find out is a very personal one and people should respect your decision and not feel they have a right to put in their two cents worth! IMOA

[briggsy's girl]

we want to find out - for us. having the 'gremlin' is cute, but i'd like to be able to bond with our baby properly, by naming it and embracing whatever we're having. not sure how many people we'll share with, as soooo many people have the attitude of "noooooooo, you'll ruin the surprise, don't do it" - i dunno, i think after what we've been through (which would be similar for you too Naomi) - the surprise was getting a BFP and holding the baby so far - getting to know the gender of the baby at 20 weeks instead of 40 is our choice! and one of the few things we get to choose!

i've said to people they don't need to know what gender the gremlin is - it's not about them - it's about us. my folks are rather old fashioned but have been really supportive about us finding out. they've said they're happy to not know if we keep it completely secret from everyone, but if we're sharing with friends, they'd like to know. i think we'll tell the people that knew at 4-5 weeks - they're the ones that supported us all the way through this journey, and have already asked. a couple are very crafty people, and want to know for making stuff! they don't know names though - a couple of BB girls know, my bro/sil and my mum are the only ones that know at this stage

[Toomanytoomany]

"it's not about them - it's about us."

Hear hear!

[Visitor8]

oh I had to know!! I wanted to get all set up before they were born. Everyone asks did I want a girl but I was happy with boys, hand-me-downs rock and I didn't have to worry about them sharing a room lol